How to increase your attractiveness to women

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JesusLives

JesusLives

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maxwel said:
What women find attractive is COMMITMENT.

If they see you hiding in their shrubs EVERY SINGLE DAY,
even when it's bad weather...
that's almost certain to get their attention.
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Yes sir Mr. Police officer.....there is a man who needs to be committed out in my bushes......You say you will be here in 2 minutes I can stay on the line.........I peeked out the window and he is still there.....O.K. I can see you pulling up now in the cruiser.........yep that's him you got him.......
 
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mystikmind

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Some women date guys who are good looking on the outside, there is not really much you can learn here. but have you noticed how some women date guys that are not so good looking on the outside? These are the guys to pay attention too! Almost always these guys have a certain energy, it can be energy towards any or all of the following - purpose in life, confidence, personality, passionate, active, daring, considerate, romantic and a general willingness to give things a go.

Looks help, but their not everything, attitude is the big ticket item that will get you over the line,,, this is what they mean by saying you need to be happy with yourself being single and your own life.

so yes, that is how to be attractive to women, find happiness in your own life!
 
cinder

cinder

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Be like Mr. Darcy (the book is called Pride and Prejudice (there's also a few different movie versions), if you are familiar with it that is automatic bonus points with a lot of women right there).


You think I jest, but not entirely. Here are some good take aways for those poor guys who just can't get into the book:

1) Have high standards and let it be common knowledge that only a special woman can spark your interest
2) voice your honest opinions so she knows that when you compliment her or something she does, it's a genuine compliment not flattery
3) Ask her to dance when it is appropriate
4) Have good manners and always remember them, even when being rude
5) Keep communicating with her no matter how awkward or uncomfortable it makes you feel
6) Back off when she says no, take her criticisms to heart, but be ready and willing to be kind and hospitable during future encounters
7) Live such a life that all those who know you best speak well of you behind your back
8) Rescue the girl (from feeling awkward, from social stigma, from embarrassment, really from anything that might make her upset)
9) After proving yourself a better man than she first thought when she refused you, let her know you are still interested but aren't going to pester her incessantly about it.
 
mailmandan

mailmandan

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mystikmind said:
Some women date guys who are good looking on the outside, there is not really much you can learn here. but have you noticed how some women date guys that are not so good looking on the outside? These are the guys to pay attention too! Almost always these guys have a certain energy, it can be energy towards any or all of the following - purpose in life, confidence, personality, passionate, active, daring, considerate, romantic and a general willingness to give things a go.

Looks help, but their not everything, attitude is the big ticket item that will get you over the line,,, this is what they mean by saying you need to be happy with yourself being single and your own life.

so yes, that is how to be attractive to women, find happiness in your own life!
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Yes, I know men who are good looking on the outside but fall flat on their face with women and men who are not so good looking on the outside but have plenty of women interested in them. Looks are not everything. Some men just have a certain charisma about them along with strength/confidence etc.. that attracts women. Weakness, weirdness and insecurity are generally deal breakers with women. :D
 
p_rehbein

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Ok, this will either offend some, or just be ignored, but - honestly - reading the numerous threads on this Forum dealing with the topic, it sure seems to me that men have to jump through all sorts of hoops, meet all sorts of requirements, fulfill all sorts of expectations just to get a woman to notice them.

Women? Yeah, not so much. And to be perfectly honest, that does bother me somewhat. I am not a circus act, nor do I believe any man wants to be. Not disrespecting anyone at all, but just read through the numerous (and there are many) threads on this Forum and tell me I'm wrong.

I am me............and I will be me. I am not changing who I am simply to please someone. If that means the only relationship I ever realize is with my Lord and Saviour, then I will count myself blessed.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Yeah well... if we say what kind of requirements women should meet we're being sexist. Or chauvinist. But definitely being pigs.

Either way I've already decided there's no way I can meet all the requirements I'm supposed to meet. I'll just have to wait for a woman with lower expectations.
 
secularhermit

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"This will be the last of my threads like this."

Does this mean you´ve got the missing answers?
 
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mystikmind

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p_rehbein said:
Ok, this will either offend some, or just be ignored, but - honestly - reading the numerous threads on this Forum dealing with the topic, it sure seems to me that men have to jump through all sorts of hoops, meet all sorts of requirements, fulfill all sorts of expectations just to get a woman to notice them.

Women? Yeah, not so much. And to be perfectly honest, that does bother me somewhat. I am not a circus act, nor do I believe any man wants to be. Not disrespecting anyone at all, but just read through the numerous (and there are many) threads on this Forum and tell me I'm wrong.

I am me............and I will be me. I am not changing who I am simply to please someone. If that means the only relationship I ever realize is with my Lord and Saviour, then I will count myself blessed.
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You are rite and wrong... I don't think it is about jumping through hoops, but yes, i think it is about finding what is good about you, opening more positive facets of your personality and being happy with who you are.

It is never a good idea to 'jump through hoops' and all that to convince a woman to like you, because if you succeed, all you have done, is convince a woman to like someone who isn't you!
 
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Deliver

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Humour.
It definitely is very attractive, can make you look twice at the dorkiest looking guy just because you think, "How did he think of that? How is he so quick minded? How is he so funny?"
I would say it is THE go to mode of attack that any male who has nothing else going for him should embrace, just in attracting and making someone think about you pleasantly. I wish I could write a book on this subject but it really only has that one point to cover.
I would even go so far as to say that age, culture and socioeconomic differences are bypassed temporarily by the power of humour.
But maybe only if she has a great sense of humour too, otherwise she will just look at you like you're stupid:)
 
Lynx

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I've had a lot of people look at me like I'm stupid. Either they have no sense of humor or I have too much. Or maybe I'm just stupid...

I hear you can shed excess humor by being around people who have no sense of humor. You can put out any fire if you put enough wet blankets on it.
 
maxwel

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Deliver said:
Humour.
It definitely is very attractive, can make you look twice at the dorkiest looking guy just because you think, "How did he think of that? How is he so quick minded? How is he so funny?"
I would say it is THE go-to mode of attack that any male who has nothing else going for him should embrace, just in attracting and making someone think about you pleasantly. I wish I could write a book on this subject but it really only has that one point to cover.
I would even go so far as to say that age, culture and socioeconomic differences are bypassed temporarily by the power of humour.
But maybe only if she has a great sense of humour too, otherwise she will just look at you like you're stupid:)
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I think you've solved the courtship mystery of the ages!

Every guy with absolutely "nothing going for him" should just miraculously change himself into an amazing, talented comedian!

Excellent.
: )
 
melita916

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i say this too about myself lol
 
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gymnerd

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So I need a sense of humor to be attractive, where can I get one of these?
 
Sushi_Mars

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Oh, wait.... that auction is from about 4 years ago. Dagnabit, sorry gymnerd. Didn't mean to get your hopes up!
 
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gymnerd

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Sushi_Mars said:
Oh, wait.... that auction is from about 4 years ago. Dagnabit, sorry gymnerd. Didn't mean to get your hopes up!
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well shoot, I guess I will just have to rely on my magnificent pectoral muscles then.
 
melita916

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sense of humor for the win! i love to laugh and to make others laugh. so yes. sense of humor please. lol
 
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jennymae

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Sense of humor is good...and a cowboy hat..:p
 
kodiak

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I don't know if this has been said, all I see right now is if you don't have a sense of humor, get one...Isn't it best to just be yourself and not try to change into a comedian just to please someone else? I know my jokes are lame, but when I find my future wife, do you think she will really care?
 
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