How to love others and love yourself too

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priestessblue

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How do you love people who are not loveable?

I meet people who just use others...are self serving...are all about "me me me" which society, as a sick organism, fully supports.

I don't love these people. I don't know how to love them.

How do you love others yet protect yourself? Does God want us to love others and not protect ourselves? I find that hard to believe. I have a hard time believing God wants us to be with narcissistic people who hurt us. No one has ever been able to explain this to my satisfaction. Christians act like you should just love these people no matter what - but what if being with these people is hurting me? Can't you love people from a distance?

Maybe somebody knows what I am trying to say.
 
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AnandaHya

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there is a thing called tough love.

I work with high school students and if you want a narcissistic bunch of individuals... .well, how do you love them anyways?

I find that it is good to not look at who they are right now because you don't like who they are right now and they might not either, but it is better to see who they might become if they had God in their lives.

If they knew Jesus and displayed the fruits of the Spirit such as Love, Joy, peace, patience, kindness and self control, you can love that person, the one God intended them to be. then you have to pray and ask God what seeds or words or actions you can do to plant that wisdom and peace into their lives.

Pray and ask God to change their heart and touch it so they might have godly sorrow onto repentance.

Sometimes God tells us to be tough and tell them straight up that they are being brats and they need to learn respect and set firm boundaries. I think God wants us to hold people accountable for their actions and not allow them to walk all over you or cheat on test or lie or disrespect and bully others. that includes not allowing them to bully you and take advantage of you either.

If the relationship is not healthy for you or them you should not be in it. it is not what God wants. He wants people to be strong and dedicated to Him and be equally yoked with someone who loves Him as much as you do and who loves YOU because of the overflowing love God has placed in both of your hearts.

you can still love a person and tell them "NO" and "I think you are wrong" and other things because you value God and His truth and plan for your life and their life more than their current fleshly desires. If you look to the spiritual side of life you will see that love should flow two ways not always giving but also receiving from God and others as well.

May God bless and keep you.
 
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priestessblue

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Hey, thanks, you sound like you could write a book about it - teaching kids that age is just not easy. Blessings to you today
 
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