I am burning of desire but cant get married
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Hi brother,
I do not think that it was God who gave you that ''high sex-drive and a desire for romance'' because the Bible says, Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. (James 1:17) Based on this scripture, God must not be the giver of what you described as ''severe desire''.
My brotherly advice is, go to God in prayer and ask Him to deliver you from that ''severe desire'' and to give you the grace to put your flesh under subjection, because even if God should give you a wife, with that ''high sex-drive and a desire for romance'', you may never be satisfied.
May the Lord give you the grace to over...
I do not think that it was God who gave you that ''high sex-drive and a desire for romance'' because the Bible says, Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. (James 1:17) Based on this scripture, God must not be the giver of what you described as ''severe desire''.
My brotherly advice is, go to God in prayer and ask Him to deliver you from that ''severe desire'' and to give you the grace to put your flesh under subjection, because even if God should give you a wife, with that ''high sex-drive and a desire for romance'', you may never be satisfied.
May the Lord give you the grace to over...
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Hi, I just want to say that nobody is perfect, myself included - and only Christ is.
I myself am a sinner, I have flaws, I’ve done wrong to others even my family, I’ve committed offences, I’ve lied, I’ve stolen, I’ve had fights, I’ve used people, heck I even formed a clique that was heavily influenced by gangs, BUT all of that was forgiven by my Father when one day, I was convicted of my sins. Since giving my life to Jesus, I no longer feel and think that I’m not worthy of Him, but instead He has made me realise that Worthy is He in me. My mentality was changed by Him, and along with it my attitude (although I can sometimes be a hardcase to people lol).
But the truth is, this is when we need God the most - is when we’re in a place we think that we’re too sinful and have so many flaws, that we start to make assumptions on God (who created you by the way) that nothing can cure us of the problems (flaws) that we face.
I encourage you to Surrender all these thoughts, desires, urges, etc to God and give Him a chance of how the plans that He has for you should pan out. Did you know that you have a purpose and a plan in this life when you seek Him earnestly? Do you know that you can be forgiven for ALL of your flaws/sins?
Do you know that God loves you so much that He wants the best for you, His child?
Flaws are things that our Father can easily take away, the question is, are you willing to surrender them all to Him?
I myself am a sinner, I have flaws, I’ve done wrong to others even my family, I’ve committed offences, I’ve lied, I’ve stolen, I’ve had fights, I’ve used people, heck I even formed a clique that was heavily influenced by gangs, BUT all of that was forgiven by my Father when one day, I was convicted of my sins. Since giving my life to Jesus, I no longer feel and think that I’m not worthy of Him, but instead He has made me realise that Worthy is He in me. My mentality was changed by Him, and along with it my attitude (although I can sometimes be a hardcase to people lol).
But the truth is, this is when we need God the most - is when we’re in a place we think that we’re too sinful and have so many flaws, that we start to make assumptions on God (who created you by the way) that nothing can cure us of the problems (flaws) that we face.
I encourage you to Surrender all these thoughts, desires, urges, etc to God and give Him a chance of how the plans that He has for you should pan out. Did you know that you have a purpose and a plan in this life when you seek Him earnestly? Do you know that you can be forgiven for ALL of your flaws/sins?
Do you know that God loves you so much that He wants the best for you, His child?
Flaws are things that our Father can easily take away, the question is, are you willing to surrender them all to Him?
The desire doesn't come from evil spirits or the devil or even from God... It's simply due to human reproductive biology. When humans are young adults they are at the peak of their fertility. Our bodies produce hormones that create in us a desire to mate. It's what humans do. Of course there are exceptions like when someone is under a lot of stress or is being abused.... but a healthy young person will naturally have a healthy libido as well. It's nature!
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You don't have flaws, you have qualities with challenges. God wants you to gain wisdom, so you can understand how to control those urges and desires. Nothing is impossible with God.
God may have you waiting, because you haven't learned strength in character yet and/or He is having you wait, because He has the perfect woman waiting for you that will like and love you and all your qualities.
Regardless, keep praying and learn to control your desires and love who you are first, so when she does enter your life, she can love all of you, too.
Chaplain D. McNabb
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God may have you waiting, because you haven't learned strength in character yet and/or He is having you wait, because He has the perfect woman waiting for you that will like and love you and all your qualities.
Regardless, keep praying and learn to control your desires and love who you are first, so when she does enter your life, she can love all of you, too.
Chaplain D. McNabb
Christian Mobile
[email protected]
Facebook: ChaplainD.McNabb
I always held out hope that God would bring that special someone into my life. Finally in 2006 I realize that it might not happen. I was depress for awhile than begin to accept the fact. I was fine for a few years Than in 2012 I met a woman who really trip my trigger. She was a Physician Assistant who was helping me with one of my medical problems. Since we could not date because the AMA does not allow it. In 2014 I look for ways I could ways to change that but failed! In 2015 she left and I never saw her again. However the wanting of a female companion was back on. I tried some dating sites but had no luck. Mostly this scammers. (I talk about this a few years back on this site).
Since than I tried a Pen Pal site this so I could have one as an email friend. Haven't had much luck there either. One young lady I talk to early on was from Ukraine. We sent a few messages back and forth. Than for about a month I didn't hear anything. Well she ended up going to a Ukraine Dating Site and had them set up the beginnings of a profile for me. (All they had was my gmail address. Which I only use for people I meet online. They don't even have my first name!) Since than I have gotten emails from several other ladies. Now I had never serious consider this before but now starting to think about it. I check the site out. It seems liege.
My question is has anyone tried finding a wife abroad?
Since than I tried a Pen Pal site this so I could have one as an email friend. Haven't had much luck there either. One young lady I talk to early on was from Ukraine. We sent a few messages back and forth. Than for about a month I didn't hear anything. Well she ended up going to a Ukraine Dating Site and had them set up the beginnings of a profile for me. (All they had was my gmail address. Which I only use for people I meet online. They don't even have my first name!) Since than I have gotten emails from several other ladies. Now I had never serious consider this before but now starting to think about it. I check the site out. It seems liege.
My question is has anyone tried finding a wife abroad?
Ive heard of it before..its becoming more popular..like the "mail order bride.".. But..i also heard it can e expensive and a lot of fraudulant programs..so..please..if you DO that..DO YOUR RESEARCH..there are a lot of women here that are legit and over seas...HOWEVER..on the flip side..i know 2 men that met and married phillapino women and still married after many years. Be prepared for visa delays..possible red tape and a lot of transitioning...God knows no limits if He wants 2 people together..good luck
I think it takes courage to admit and post something that 98 percent of men probably feel (aside from the marriage part of the OP) but wont admit just to save face
U dont have to attack me for being honest