I am divorced, but is hoping for a second chance in marriage

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NEVEAH

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I have been doing alot of research about me having a desire to have a second chance at marriage.

Unfortunately my first marriage was a failer, He left me and our kids. he had many many relationship after leaving.


I am praying that God Bless me with someone who will love me as Jesus Loves His Church,
but according to my research anyone who married a divorced woman will be commiting adultry.

The only way I can ever re-married according to the Word is if I am a widow or reconcile to my ex?

I need some feed back.
 
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lightbliss

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It's only adultery if you divorced (no one committed adultery in the marriage, cheated) then were with someone else.
Also if you (in general) went back to your husband after being -married or "with"-someone else, God considers this abomination.

Malachi 2:16
I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.

Matthew 19:6
So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate

Matthew 5:32
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Deuteronomy 24:4
then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance

1 Corinthians 7:11
But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
 
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NEVEAH

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Thanks for your feedback.


This Vese tell me I cant get remarried after a divorce except if I reconcile with ex husband.
1 Corinthians 7:11
But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

What can I do if He left me?

Malachi 2:16
I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel.

Matthew 19:6
So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate

I have never re-married anyone after we divorce
Deuteronomy 24:4
then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance

I never cheated on him while we were married and I am not 100% positive if He did, but I know when he left me and we were separated He was sleeping with other females and I was too.
Matthew 5:32
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Well I know one thing , if God wants me to marry again, It will happen because I also desire that.
I just need some biblical support If it is possible for me to re-marry without sinning.
 
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prayerman777

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HI SISTER, READ WHAT PAUL HAS TO SAY I THINK IT WILL GIVE YOU MUCH PEACE, BUT PLEASE DON,T RUSH INTO A RELATIONSHIP JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE LONELY. I KNOW ITS HARD BUT DONT GIVE UP. LORD I ASK THAT SISTER NEVEAH WILL RECEIVE THE ONE YOU HAVE CHOOSEN FOR HER BUT ONLY IN YOUR TIMING AND THAT YOUR PEACE WOULD COVER HER HEART DURING THESE DIFFICULT TIMES AMEN
 
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NEVEAH

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prayerman777 said:
HI SISTER, READ WHAT PAUL HAS TO SAY I THINK IT WILL GIVE YOU MUCH PEACE, BUT PLEASE DON,T RUSH INTO A RELATIONSHIP JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE LONELY. I KNOW ITS HARD BUT DONT GIVE UP. LORD I ASK THAT SISTER NEVEAH WILL RECEIVE THE ONE YOU HAVE CHOOSEN FOR HER BUT ONLY IN YOUR TIMING AND THAT YOUR PEACE WOULD COVER HER HEART DURING THESE DIFFICULT TIMES AMEN
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Your right, there is no need to rush! it has been almost 6yrs since my exhusband decided to leave.

since then I never had a boyfriend, I had men in and out of my life but I knewthat my growth in Christ and my kids are more important than anything.


Thank You so much for your prayer, May God continue to use you for the advancement of His Kingdom.

P.s. I did pick up something onlline that generilized Paul's Letters re: Divorce n marital bondage
but still no answer. My quest has ended in persue of this matter. This is Between Me and God it goes beyond what is said as truth in the Word for only God knows what really went down in my Marriage.

I confess that I stepped out of the Will of My Father and even if I did not know then I know now and I am still accountable for my sins. My desires are to please God For it is His Joy where I find my Strength.


I WILL PUT THIS DESIRE IN THE BACK OF MY HEAD AND PLACE HIS WORDS IN FRONT.


Matthew 6:33 (New International Version)

33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.





Matthew 24:35 (New International Version)

35Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away.
 
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lightbliss

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Those scriptures apply to both males and females.

Now, if Christians divorce because something other than adultery, they are still married in God's eyes. But since he is/was with someone else after the divorce, it would be an abomination to God to be with him again.

In this situation, I think it would be okay for you to remarry, but it's really 50/50.

I think you'd really have to pray about it.

God Bless :)
 
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lightbliss

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NEVEAH said:
I have never re-married anyone after we divorce
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In that verse, defiled means: having had sexual relations with someone other than your spouse after the divorce/having been married someone else other than your original spouse.
 
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NEVEAH

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lightbliss said:
In that verse, defiled means: having had sexual relations with someone other than your spouse after the divorce/having been married someone else other than your original spouse.
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I see! thanks again for feedback, I really aprreciate it :)
 
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Kool_uday85

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Its clear adultery to remarry as far as the statement Jesus said in that verse. People try to think they will find loopholes around to that issue... God cant be manipulated.

"..and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."

That is specific to a woman irrespective of the reason. when she is divorced due to any reason she gets the "divorced" status
 
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lightbliss

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Kool_uday85 said:
Its clear adultery to remarry as far as the statement Jesus said in that verse. People try to think they will find loopholes around to that issue... God cant be manipulated.

"..and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."

That is specific to a woman irrespective of the reason. when she is divorced due to any reason she gets the "divorced" status
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But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery
 
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kiwi_OT

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I cant answer your question sorry but if you want a bit of hope and support search my boyfriend here on CC. His username is Meridoc and he has dealt with divorce and will be very kind and sympathetic to your situation.
 
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Kool_uday85

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I guess the rules change with a woman.I am not sure on that..... but in the past men have had many wifes. But a woman having more than one man was never encouraged only if her husband died and became a widow to be eligible to remarry. but yeah if a man divorces and the wife has been faithful , it makes the man an adulterer

But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, (so that is if the woman had been faithful and the husband has been unfaithful, she is safe.. as in not an adulteress) and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery (this statement is very generic for a divorced woman, no reason for divorce necessary, And a woman could have been divorced by her unfaithfulness or her husbands unfaithfulness)
 
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MomBuildingFaith

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Neveah, I am 22 and I have been maried and divorce. He was abusive physically mentally emotionally and put me and my children in harms way daily. i also was a child when we first met and he was a grown man. People often confusethe God we serve to be a harsh God and unforgiving arent we forgiving for our sins? the bible says what God has brought together let no man bring assunder. did God bring you together what were your reasons for getting married? were you saved when you got divorced, but it also states in the bible that if the unsaved spouse leaves let him leave we are not bound under such circumstances for God has called us to peace. leaving doesnt have to mean phsically either it can mean emotionally, or relieving themselves from there responsibility or trying to cause you to fall from Gods love and connection, and even if it was that u caused him to leave or that u left him once you are saved you are justified and redeemed through christ you are reading 2nd corinthians 7 i believe but read 2nd corininthians 6 also. Paraphrased it states that we were once aldulterers and liars and theives but now that we are under Christ we are no longer bound or slaves to our sin and we are justified. Hunny also read colossians 2 I believe it is and galatians also we cannot allow our pass to haunt us do not be entangled by the yoke of bondage once you are free. In closing baby who the Son set free is free indeed!
 
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NEVEAH

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MomBuildingFaith said:
Neveah, I am 22 and I have been maried and divorce. He was abusive physically mentally emotionally and put me and my children in harms way daily. i also was a child when we first met and he was a grown man. People often confusethe God we serve to be a harsh God and unforgiving arent we forgiving for our sins? the bible says what God has brought together let no man bring assunder. did God bring you together what were your reasons for getting married? were you saved when you got divorced, but it also states in the bible that if the unsaved spouse leaves let him leave we are not bound under such circumstances for God has called us to peace. leaving doesnt have to mean phsically either it can mean emotionally, or relieving themselves from there responsibility or trying to cause you to fall from Gods love and connection, and even if it was that u caused him to leave or that u left him once you are saved you are justified and redeemed through christ you are reading 2nd corinthians 7 i believe but read 2nd corininthians 6 also. Paraphrased it states that we were once aldulterers and liars and theives but now that we are under Christ we are no longer bound or slaves to our sin and we are justified. Hunny also read colossians 2 I believe it is and galatians also we cannot allow our pass to haunt us do not be entangled by the yoke of bondage once you are free. In closing baby who the Son set free is free indeed!
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Amen Sis!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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