I believe my girlfriend was evil or the Devil if that is possible

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blue_ladybug

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Honestly, you need to wise up and get this woman out of your life. She obviously has issues and isn't displaying a christian lifestyle whatsoever. Stop being foolish, stop letting yourself be used as a door mat, and stop turning a blind eye to her wickedness or she will take you down with her. Now smarten up and do whatever you have to, to eliminate her from your life entirely.
 
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crosstweed

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This thread title gave me a good giggle...

As to the subject at hand, no, your girlfriend is not the devil. Lots of men have thought their ex girlfriend was the devil, and you can't all be right. :rolleyes:
 
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chancer

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crosstweed said:
This thread title gave me a good giggle...

As to the subject at hand, no, your girlfriend is not the devil. Lots of men have thought their ex girlfriend was the devil, and you can't all be right. :rolleyes:
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ohhhh noooo I'm gutted :(
 
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crosstweed

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On a more serious note, the Bible says you will know them by their fruits.

It probably couldn't have been more obvious from the get-go that this woman is not a child of God. Bad fruit = not child of God. Not child of God = child of the devil. And it seems her bad fruit was extremely evident from the beginning. Why would you be surprised that she displays the same traits as her father?

I don't want to sound harsh, but... I honestly struggle to even fathom how you put yourself in this situation.
 
melita916

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the red flags were there since the beginning. sadly, too often, we over look them in hopes of "things will get better with my help and love." we learn the hard way. the best thing to do is separate yourself completely from this girl. you won't be able to get over her with your own human strength. call out the Holy Spirit. He is faithful.
 
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Leopold1

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crosstweed

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Leopold1 said:

I am well aware I should not have stayed for the abuse.
It does not make the actions of the abuser correct, and few here express that.
People off the devil can be excellent manipulators

I will not go there again but the experience has shaken me and I feel touched by Evil. Most here can not understand this
from reading the comments but I was expecting that.

God Bless you all
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Few express the actions of the "abuser" as being wrong because it's as plain as day that what she did was wrong and that she definitely has a lot of issues; that part doesn't even need to be addressed because it's blatantly obvious.

The point isn't that you stayed for the abuse, the point is that you knowingly put yourself in a position to be used in the first place. You knew that she was manipulative and not on the side of God to begin with.

All that being said, I'm glad that you are deeply aware of the presence of that evil, because hopefully it will scare you well away from any similar women you might run into in the future and save you from even more heartache; these things tend to repeat themselves.

Seek God's help in your healing process so that you will be a whole person when God brings a good woman into your life.
 
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Leopold1

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crosstweed

You are correct. I was not following scripture myself and put my life in the hands of others and not Jesus.
I know I can never do this again or I will suffer the same.

I do blame myself because the answers were always in the Bible.

I love her but hate what she said, did, did not say and did not do. I hate her evil nature but love her.

If I walk as Jesus did from now on, I can bring the Good News to others once I become the Good-News myself.

I don't want to be a hypocrite so I have to become the Good News first.

God Bless Everyone
 
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Leopold1

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If I followed the Bible scriptures This would never had happened. I may have helped to bring her to the light of Jesus instead of her remaining in the Darkness of Satan.

This is what God would have wanted me to do. I failed by making very little attempt. I was week and did not want to be alone but got pain and loneliness,

I know many here think what I have written is Funny- But careful YOU MAY HURT SOMEONE WHO IS ON THE EDGE AND MAKING FUN OF THEM CAN END IN THEM DOING SOMETHING BAD TO THEM SELVES!!! I am not on the edge but you don't know that!!! WHAT I EXPRESSED IS NOT FUNNY!

IF YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A CHRISTIAN ACT LIKE IT BECAUSE GOD KNOWS YOUR HEART!

God Bless Everyone
 
Fenner

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Leopold1 said:
If I followed the Bible scriptures This would never had happened. I may have helped to bring her to the light of Jesus instead of her remaining in the Darkness of Satan.

This is what God would have wanted me to do. I failed by making very little attempt. I was week and did not want to be alone but got pain and loneliness,

I know many here think what I have written is Funny- But careful YOU MAY HURT SOMEONE WHO IS ON THE EDGE AND MAKING FUN OF THEM CAN END IN THEM DOING SOMETHING BAD TO THEM SELVES!!! I am not on the edge but you don't know that!!! WHAT I EXPRESSED IS NOT FUNNY!

IF YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A CHRISTIAN ACT LIKE IT BECAUSE GOD KNOWS YOUR HEART!

God Bless Everyone
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I don't think anyone thinks it's funny. I think they don't want you to dwell on this woman. You're right it's not funny and I think we've all dealt with a bad painful relationship at one time.

My sincere hope for you is that you confide in someone in the real world that can help you over come this. God bless.
 
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crosstweed

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Leopold1 said:
crosstweed

You are correct. I was not following scripture myself and put my life in the hands of others and not Jesus.
I know I can never do this again or I will suffer the same.

I do blame myself because the answers were always in the Bible.

I love her but hate what she said, did, did not say and did not do. I hate her evil nature but love her.

If I walk as Jesus did from now on, I can bring the Good News to others once I become the Good-News myself.

I don't want to be a hypocrite so I have to become the Good News first.

God Bless Everyone
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This is, I think, the correct attitude to have on the subject.
Leopold1 said:
If I followed the Bible scriptures This would never had happened. I may have helped to bring her to the light of Jesus instead of her remaining in the Darkness of Satan.

This is what God would have wanted me to do. I failed by making very little attempt. I was week and did not want to be alone but got pain and loneliness,

I know many here think what I have written is Funny- But careful YOU MAY HURT SOMEONE WHO IS ON THE EDGE AND MAKING FUN OF THEM CAN END IN THEM DOING SOMETHING BAD TO THEM SELVES!!! I am not on the edge but you don't know that!!! WHAT I EXPRESSED IS NOT FUNNY!

IF YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A CHRISTIAN ACT LIKE IT BECAUSE GOD KNOWS YOUR HEART!

God Bless Everyone
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This, on the other hand...

I agree with Fenner. This subject isn't funny, and I don't think anyone else here thinks it's funny. Simmer down.

(That being said, the title of your thread by itself will be taken as somewhat humorous, especially without any context. I readily admit that I chuckled at that part.)
 
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BurlyCarl

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I don't think your situation is funny at all I think you just need to get over it and move on and quit letting someone play you.
 
Tommy379

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Leopold1 said:
Part I left out before


She was staying in the pastors home from the church she attended when her ex-boyfriend (that she still slept with) left to work on a cruse-line for stage/props and such . He said no boys or alcohol in your room. The son stayed at home as well. Every time the whole family left she wanted me to sleep over. I always said that they or the son could come home any time and you will be kicked out when they see me and you with alcohol which I did not drink. she would wear provocative cloths and then nothing to temp me to lay with her. It was hard and I know I should not have put myself in that situation in the first place and just said no; I will not sleep over at the pastors house especial when he forbid it.
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How old are you? Your profile says 33, but I would have guessed 17. A lot of females are just fickle and led by the heart. Move on.
 
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Leopold1

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Lots of input, I can't be around people like her anymore and now run the opposite way. I love myself now too much and want to share my love with an equal woman. I read the scriptures and the bible comes with me everywhere each day.

I did lots wrong!!! That has to change. I will follow Jesus and that is what I need.
 
Angelsnow

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W T heck....why are you even here ....sounds like sour grapes. NO ONE held a gun to your head to date her. You are given free will...free choice. You are bashing HER....for everything. I hate to burst your bubble. (It takes two). And as things are...she has NO defense against your evil and cruel words. So on her behalf....I'd like to point out, you also...are no saint. Please refrain from attacking a woman who isn't here to defend herself. Thank you!!!!
 
Desdichado

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If she's that bad, forget her and keep rolling.

By that I mean really forget her. Don't waste mental energy on her by thinking about how awful she is.

It comes easier with time, however. It doesn't heal all wounds, but has a way of taking the sting out of it.
 
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BurlyCarl

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Leopold1 said:
Lots of input, I can't be around people like her anymore and now run the opposite way. I love myself now too much and want to share my love with an equal woman. I read the scriptures and the bible comes with me everywhere each day.

I did lots wrong!!! That has to change. I will follow Jesus and that is what I need.
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Do it in action. Not just think about it. Time to move on SON! Hooyah baby! Its amazing what happens when you remove the negative from your life. Put the distance on it you will see.
 
violakat

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I starting a thread about your comments on PK, so as to not de-rail this thread.
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What immediately struck me was why did you get a relationship with her in the first place, knowing what was going on with the previous guy? That was an immediate red flag.. Having said that, no. Your girlfriend wasn't the devil. It sounds like another typical pastor kid. Pastor kids tend to be one of two categories. There's the "good" pks, that grow in the church and abide by everything their parents teach them and the church and such. And then there are rebel pks, that go and do their own thing and want nothing to do with the church and live secularly. It sounds like she is the latter. Does it make it right? Of course not. But this happens more often than not. I'm sorry to hear you were hurt by this. It takes time to get through it. It sounds like she obviously has issues, but that doesn't make her the devil or possessed. Maybe all this happened as a way for the both of you to grow closer to the Lord separately? I don't know. But I do know He is with you in this.
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keep_on_smiling

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My advice is to stop focusing on her and what she is or isn't and focus on who you are in Christ.

Ask yourself why you even got in a relationship with someone that had behaviors you disapproved with. Ask the Lord to help you overcome those issues and separate yourself from her.
 
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