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If he has a girlfriend, he is not for you. You have already made it obvious to him that you are attracted to him (trust me, he knows) and he has already taken advantage of that. Entertaining ideas of a relationship with another who is already in a relationship is not what the Lord would have for us. If you were the girlfriend, would you be pleased to discover how he has been confiding and texting and flirting with the other girl? Focus on the Lord and one day at a time, seek the Lord for his strength and encouragement to free you from the feelings you have for this man. He will do it.
Many years ago I was the kind of guy that would say, "Well, if she isn't married then she is fair game."
It wasn't until later in life that I realized how many relationships I was responsible for dividing.
Jesus said that adultery starts in the heart. The very root of adultery involves a desire to cause division for selfish reasons. Envy is always a part of adultery because you are wanting something that someone else has.
Every single woman that left the man she was with to be with me eventually did the same thing to me. This happened despite pride telling me how "special" I was.
I am telling you the truth. If you pursue this any further you are setting yourself up for failure. You will sow what you have reaped.
For many years I had to pray and ask God to change my heart; to remove the adulterous lusts from it. Today, God has grown me to a place where I am able to resist such temptation. In this way, I am protected from sowing things into my life that will lead me to reap the same kind of pain I would be causing others.
Before you say (like I did) "but they aren't married", remember that Jesus said "He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much." ~Luke 16:10
I have learned that those that are unfaithful outside of marriage are also unfaithful inside of a marriage. This follows the principle of truth in that scripture. It also shows that adultery begins in the heart, not when the act is committed.
The good news is that we can ask God to change our hearts to desire after good things and give us the wisdom to recognize the sin in our hearts and the strength to overcome.
Grace and peace be to you through our Lord Jesus Christ. It is done.
It wasn't until later in life that I realized how many relationships I was responsible for dividing.
Jesus said that adultery starts in the heart. The very root of adultery involves a desire to cause division for selfish reasons. Envy is always a part of adultery because you are wanting something that someone else has.
Every single woman that left the man she was with to be with me eventually did the same thing to me. This happened despite pride telling me how "special" I was.
I am telling you the truth. If you pursue this any further you are setting yourself up for failure. You will sow what you have reaped.
For many years I had to pray and ask God to change my heart; to remove the adulterous lusts from it. Today, God has grown me to a place where I am able to resist such temptation. In this way, I am protected from sowing things into my life that will lead me to reap the same kind of pain I would be causing others.
Before you say (like I did) "but they aren't married", remember that Jesus said "He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much." ~Luke 16:10
I have learned that those that are unfaithful outside of marriage are also unfaithful inside of a marriage. This follows the principle of truth in that scripture. It also shows that adultery begins in the heart, not when the act is committed.
The good news is that we can ask God to change our hearts to desire after good things and give us the wisdom to recognize the sin in our hearts and the strength to overcome.
Grace and peace be to you through our Lord Jesus Christ. It is done.
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I would ask him why he is texting you , I'm guessing, it's flirtatiously, when he's seeing someone else?
That's the easiest way to get to an answer, imagine that. We get answers when we communicate
And, that IS a VERY important question to ask that guy with another girl, because, it sounds to me like he doesn't really like that girl. So, you need to find out what kind of a relationship he really is in with her and if he feels the same way around her as he does when he talks to you.
The Lord leads. "...you follow Me." John 21:22
p.s.: IF this guy gives you an answer that smells of trying to make you jealous, don't RUN, FLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE from him, because he's using means to get you that are not Christian and are not God's way of doing things. "Jealousy" is one of the 7 deadly sins, and, it's in Scripture too and it's NOT a good thing that's said about it. Read Galatians 5 .
And, here is is for you, Hisaclopgirl
Life by the Spirit
13You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[SUP]a[/SUP] ; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[SUP]b[/SUP] 15If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
16So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever[SUP]c[/SUP] you want. 18But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
19The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
So, if you're FEELing jealous, that's not a good feeling, and, IF he's trying to make you ENVIOUS, that's not good either.
Anyway, yeah, the Lord leads, ask that guy why he's texting you and seeing her, he'll give you a good answer, I'm sure. So, will He who is in you, that is, His Spirit, the Spirit of God, who IS in your temple, milady .
That's the easiest way to get to an answer, imagine that. We get answers when we communicate
And, that IS a VERY important question to ask that guy with another girl, because, it sounds to me like he doesn't really like that girl. So, you need to find out what kind of a relationship he really is in with her and if he feels the same way around her as he does when he talks to you.
The Lord leads. "...you follow Me." John 21:22
p.s.: IF this guy gives you an answer that smells of trying to make you jealous, don't RUN, FLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE from him, because he's using means to get you that are not Christian and are not God's way of doing things. "Jealousy" is one of the 7 deadly sins, and, it's in Scripture too and it's NOT a good thing that's said about it. Read Galatians 5 .
And, here is is for you, Hisaclopgirl
Life by the Spirit
13You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[SUP]a[/SUP] ; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[SUP]b[/SUP] 15If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
16So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever[SUP]c[/SUP] you want. 18But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
19The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
So, if you're FEELing jealous, that's not a good feeling, and, IF he's trying to make you ENVIOUS, that's not good either.
Anyway, yeah, the Lord leads, ask that guy why he's texting you and seeing her, he'll give you a good answer, I'm sure. So, will He who is in you, that is, His Spirit, the Spirit of God, who IS in your temple, milady .
