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Re-read it... sorry, my comments stand. Your message was declarative all the way through (if that's the correct word). I.e., it sounded more like a lecture from an expert than from someone who was more on our level.
Nevertheless... being "triggered" or not, this is a sensitive topic for me. And, when people say the kinds of things you did, it's like taking that desire, crumbling it up and stepping on it. You probably never intended for that meaning, but that is how it looked/felt to me, and why I responded the way I did.
I re-read my posts multiple times before I send them. Still, I need to make corrections or clarifications sometimes. If you do not do that, it might help if you did.
Nevertheless... being "triggered" or not, this is a sensitive topic for me. And, when people say the kinds of things you did, it's like taking that desire, crumbling it up and stepping on it. You probably never intended for that meaning, but that is how it looked/felt to me, and why I responded the way I did.
I re-read my posts multiple times before I send them. Still, I need to make corrections or clarifications sometimes. If you do not do that, it might help if you did.
Aaaanyway... @Seeking-Christ , I feel you bro. I get it. We do need to get to that place where God is our one true love over all others. He needs to become the bright solar surface to the sunspots of our other desires. But, that is very high place to be, and I suspect that few, if any, ever make it to that level on this side of things.
So, while we can seek that 'north' as it were, we have to cope with our desires where they stand. All these stupid distractions aside in this thread, that is the question, and it is one I do not have a good answer for.
I do have many interests. My job sometimes keeps me busier than I can stand. But, none of that compensates for the lack of someone to wake up to every day. None of that compensates for the lack of a good sex life. None of that makes up for the fact that everything I do I do alone -- except when I'm in church, the gym or supermarket. But, even then, I'm alone.
I have no easy answer. Seek God every day. That's all we can do. Find secondary worldly pleasures and joys (by "worldly" I don't mean "sinful"). And, we can always console ourselves with the knowledge that this is not our permanent state.
So, while we can seek that 'north' as it were, we have to cope with our desires where they stand. All these stupid distractions aside in this thread, that is the question, and it is one I do not have a good answer for.
I do have many interests. My job sometimes keeps me busier than I can stand. But, none of that compensates for the lack of someone to wake up to every day. None of that compensates for the lack of a good sex life. None of that makes up for the fact that everything I do I do alone -- except when I'm in church, the gym or supermarket. But, even then, I'm alone.
I have no easy answer. Seek God every day. That's all we can do. Find secondary worldly pleasures and joys (by "worldly" I don't mean "sinful"). And, we can always console ourselves with the knowledge that this is not our permanent state.
Addendum... @Seeking-Christ ... I will pray for your peace and joy in this life. I will pray for a great wife for you, but I'll also pray for contentment without one.
You yourself have brought up very personal subjects, like your recent loneliness thread (which sort of comes at odds with some of your points in this thread, but that's another story).
You just don't like the way this particular thread went. But, you must come to know that interactions even with Christians is never going to be without bumps and potholes along the way. You tough it out, deal with it, and move on. If someone becomes simply impossible to deal with, then you can put them on ignore. Otherwise, you shake it off, and move on.
I've had some great, edifying convos here. I've had some run-ins. Two people I've put on ignore. But, I stick it out (here and in the real world), because there is no perfect alternative.
You just don't like the way this particular thread went. But, you must come to know that interactions even with Christians is never going to be without bumps and potholes along the way. You tough it out, deal with it, and move on. If someone becomes simply impossible to deal with, then you can put them on ignore. Otherwise, you shake it off, and move on.
I've had some great, edifying convos here. I've had some run-ins. Two people I've put on ignore. But, I stick it out (here and in the real world), because there is no perfect alternative.