I haven't dated in 5 years, is this normal?

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peacenik

peacenik

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Lynx said:
I haven't dated in 38 years. What is normal? :p

Being part of a couple is not the be-all and end-all of life on this planet. My life is not defined by whether I have a wife or girlfriend. (My life is mostly defined by music, chocolate, being a minor minister in a church and more music, but that's a different story.)

If I find a nice lady and we eventually marry, yay! In the meantime there's a whole lot of life to live before I die.

The question is not "is it normal to go five years without dating?" The question is, what are you doing with your time? Are you using it well or are you spending it looking for something you don't have?
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38 years? Oh wait - that's your age, too.


As for me, I haven't dated in 30 or 31 years. Been so long, I've forgotten.
 
lv2ski

lv2ski

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GracesavedMe said:
Hey there, new to this forum. I was wondering how long is 'normal' to go without dating. I don't particularly believe I was called to singleness, I desire marriage and adopting children. I just wonder how long is to long, if that makes any sense.
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I think that you are displaying character. The people of God who are actually worthy of consideration aren't always coming into our lives. Getting into the dating scene only breaks you down and opens up a world of compromise.

If you'rebusy trying to find someone, then when that right person comes along, you'll be busy the wrong one.

I think I did that about 25 years ago.

Stay the coarse. Remember you can be happy and single and still desire to be married. Don't let it consume you. And don't let the married people who are sticks in the mud discourage you with negativity on your desire to be married.
 
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crosstweed

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GracesavedMe said:
Hey there, new to this forum. I was wondering how long is 'normal' to go without dating. I don't particularly believe I was called to singleness, I desire marriage and adopting children. I just wonder how long is to long, if that makes any sense.
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If you're defining "normal" by the world's standards, probably not. But that doesn't make it unhealthy by any stretch of the imagination. Until this year, I'd never been on a date in my life. :eek:
 
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