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The last time I posted on here, I think, was about 5 months ago. It was about this Christian girl who I really liked. When I told her how I felt, back then, I had only known her for about 3 weeks, and she said that she just didnt want a relationship like that, that she was too selfish and that she felt she would only end up hurting the guy.
So I left it a few months, and tried to get over her. I still wanted to be her friend though. But then I realised that she's never had a boyfriend before, and I feel that maybe, just maybe she was telling the truth. I talked to God, and I felt that He wanted me to continue trying, and to not give up. But I'm not sure whether my communication might've been clouded, because of what I wanted rather than what was best. She's the nicest girl I've ever met, and I haven't ever had as strong feelings for a girl as I have for her. I've never had had the courage to ask a girl to her face for her number, let alone call her, until I met this girl.
Recently, I've been spending more time with her as group, flirting a little bit, not too much, but then she sends me this really long email saying basically she hoped I didn't like her, begging me not to like her like that, saying that she just didnt want a boyfriend. She said that I was one of the nicest, sweetest guys and that there was plenty of far more beautiful girls out there. And I felt the best thing to do was to be completely honest with her, and so I told her how I liked her alot, but that I wasn't out there seeking a relationship with whoever. (I kind of felt that she thought I just simply wanted a girlfriend which isn't at all true.) She replied and said she was very happy that I had been so honest with her. But didn't mention anything else about what I had said.
And since then, however, we've done a number of things together- we've had dinner twice, had lunch, gone for walks... just us two. (I have also never done anything like this with any other girls before.) And I've been talking to God, and I feel that He doesn't want me to give up. Not neccessarily keep trying to get her to go out with me, but I think He wants me to be there for her, spend time with her, and if there comes a moment, then to take it.
But again I have no idea if my judgement is clouded, or if i'm only hearing what I want to hear. I guess that's why I'm seeking your advice, those of you who have been in similar situations.... thankyou and God Bless
So I left it a few months, and tried to get over her. I still wanted to be her friend though. But then I realised that she's never had a boyfriend before, and I feel that maybe, just maybe she was telling the truth. I talked to God, and I felt that He wanted me to continue trying, and to not give up. But I'm not sure whether my communication might've been clouded, because of what I wanted rather than what was best. She's the nicest girl I've ever met, and I haven't ever had as strong feelings for a girl as I have for her. I've never had had the courage to ask a girl to her face for her number, let alone call her, until I met this girl.
Recently, I've been spending more time with her as group, flirting a little bit, not too much, but then she sends me this really long email saying basically she hoped I didn't like her, begging me not to like her like that, saying that she just didnt want a boyfriend. She said that I was one of the nicest, sweetest guys and that there was plenty of far more beautiful girls out there. And I felt the best thing to do was to be completely honest with her, and so I told her how I liked her alot, but that I wasn't out there seeking a relationship with whoever. (I kind of felt that she thought I just simply wanted a girlfriend which isn't at all true.) She replied and said she was very happy that I had been so honest with her. But didn't mention anything else about what I had said.
And since then, however, we've done a number of things together- we've had dinner twice, had lunch, gone for walks... just us two. (I have also never done anything like this with any other girls before.) And I've been talking to God, and I feel that He doesn't want me to give up. Not neccessarily keep trying to get her to go out with me, but I think He wants me to be there for her, spend time with her, and if there comes a moment, then to take it.
But again I have no idea if my judgement is clouded, or if i'm only hearing what I want to hear. I guess that's why I'm seeking your advice, those of you who have been in similar situations.... thankyou and God Bless
