Has anyone ever dated someone who tried to fix all your problems in life, but it just ended up causing you both to break up? I don't think I could ever imagine myself being that kind of person who would search for someone who has deep problems, then date them so I could try to make their life better. At the end of the day, as much as I wish I could fix someone's problems, I know I don't have the power to get rid of the things that have hurt them the most. We, as humans, can only do so much for someone. So why do some Christian guys and girls want to play the role of our Savior by coming into our lives and thinking that they can make all things better?
"There are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect.
A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a certain component within a car; this person will try to repair something that they perceive to be wrong or damaged in another person.
And there are many ways and approaches that these people can take to reach their goal and to make their view a reality. But while the fixer may think that they are only trying to help, this behaviour can come across as: controlling and manipulative.
The person who is trying to be fixed can feel: angry, frustrated, resentful, overwhelmed, violated and compromised. And this is due to their boundaries being breach by the fixer."
"There are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect.
A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a certain component within a car; this person will try to repair something that they perceive to be wrong or damaged in another person.
And there are many ways and approaches that these people can take to reach their goal and to make their view a reality. But while the fixer may think that they are only trying to help, this behaviour can come across as: controlling and manipulative.
The person who is trying to be fixed can feel: angry, frustrated, resentful, overwhelmed, violated and compromised. And this is due to their boundaries being breach by the fixer."