If someone told you to change or you Should change, would you do it?

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BruceWayne

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I guess that would depend on what they're saying. My younger self would have been too stubborn and refused, but now I'd be open to hearing them out, assuming it's someone close with me and that what they're saying is relevant.

That doesn't mean I would do it, but it can't possibly hurt to listen. Even the Bible says to listen to advice and accept instruction. :p
 
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If someone tells me to change my clothes, I would do that right away, in a heartbeat! I tend to wear the same shirt for many weeks, so I appreciate it when people point out that I stink.
*whispers to Roh*

I think you should change your clothes...
 
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I try to always weigh and consider what people tell me, especially if it has to do with possible character flaws. If several people told me that I needed to work on something within myself, I would really have to think and pray about it. God uses people in our lives to tell us things sometimes. If it's something I would be better off changing, I would definitely try.

As for non-character-related issues, sometimes yes, sometimes no. I am a people-pleaser (something I'm trying to change, HA!) so it's natural for me to adapt my clothing choices, hairstyles and other surface-level stuff (within reason) if I know it will please someone else. If someone I care about is interested in a certain TV show, game, music, etc, I will often pick up an affection for it as well in order to have more in common with the person. (This goes for relationships, family, friends, my own kids, etc.) These are easy changes that come naturally as I draw closer to other people.

Of course, some changes come happily and then there are those changes that just really aren't appealing at all. Let's face it, I'm never going to like watching sports or listening to country music. :p
 
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JeniBean

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Well if GOD takes me as I am and he created me, I guess I would listen to what they are saying I need to change about myself. For example my parents have said I need to stop dating non-Christians. It was a change I made and dating is much more pleasant.
 
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James4redemption

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If you had family members or friends tell you that they thought you needed to change who you were, how you dressed, how you acted and should have better interests, would you listen to them?
Lol Not a chance. But that's just me, I mean I gotta' feel it first. Understand the reasoning, the purpose, and the beneficial outcome (if there is one). I'd have to be convinced. But that's not to say I wouldn't make a conscious effort to keep the toilet seat down if asked etc etc. Like I think there's people who aren't stubborn to an extreme extent etc etc
 
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coby

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My mom always said oh you should do more effort and look ladylike. Why? I don't have anyone and I rather spend my money on something for the kids. None of your business.
My collegues were smarter. They didn't say anything and just gave me a bag of terrific clothes that were too small for them now. Hey thanks! That worked.
 
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sassylady

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If it is something I can honestly see needs to be changed, I would do it. But as to my clothes, etc. I am who I am.
 

Roh_Chris

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*whispers to Roh*

I think you should change your clothes...
I know my clothes stink, but I just got back from the gym. Quit nagging, will you? :p

On a serious note -

I believe that there is always room for improvement, so I appreciate constructive criticism. I would change if the suggestion made sense to me and if the person said it in a respectful manner. :)