I'm confused..... :(

[blessdani]

well......I know this will sound weird.....but I'm 21 years old and still my dad is beating me up.....he wants me to do everthing he says..and I know he doesn't like me.....he often tells me the I'm an useless thing born as a curse and a disgrace into my family.....and he very often tells me that he hates seeing me.....and he wants to control even my body.....like...yesterday I got wet in the rain and he told me to wash my hair.....and I told him that I'll do it a little later....and he started beating me.....he never allows me to sleep before 10:30 at nite......and if at all I sleep...he wakes me up by beating me with a stick next morning......he never allows me to look at the mirror for more than 5 minutes......and whenever he sees me he scolds me......he never likes seeing me talk with my friends or cousins.....and there will be a world war 3 if I start reading a newspaper.....I don't know what to do......last year I had a guy friend....but he too left me as my dad scolded him....now I feel all alone.....what am I to do......I enjoy my mornings in my college as I have a lot of friends......but I turn sad when evening comes as I have to go home.......and the most terrible thing is that my friends dads are so friendly and understanding.....and when I see or hear them talking to their dads I feel like crying....what am I to do???

 

[AsifinPassing]

I'm sorry, blessdani. That's no good.

Have you told anyone?

 

[gardin]

I am speechless! this is just terrible does anybody know about this?? Because if not you need to find someone that can help you get away from him, seriously! nobody should have to live like that.

i will pray for you.

 

[prodigal]

maybe its time to leave home, god give you wisdom and understanding, let his peace fill your heart. god bless

 

[hhhlga89]

That's a very terrible situation you should seriously pray and fast to God about opening a door of escape for you. People (even Christians) who are in your situation usually move away with family of friends to a location your father doesn't know about. Even if he tries to locate you you're 21, you don't have to go with him and if he forces you..call the authorities. I know the bible says to honor your father and mother, but that doesn't mean you let your father get away with the crimes of kidnap and abuse towards you, that's a sin too. So please, I would seriously consider asking God for a way of escape and boldness to follow through..

 

[Searching4Truth]

Pray more and pray harder for your father. Continue to live life as God intends it. We may not know what is in store for us in the future, but God's word say in Jeremiah 29:11 that "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

I would also suggest that you notify someone with authority about this. Anyone on this earth who can help you.

 

[Stuey]

This is horrible.

Get out and get out fast, leave home.

Ask a church for help if you need it, don't be ashamed.

 

[Andrew]

If the college has a student support office, someone should be willing to listen and give advice.

You have done the right think to talk to us here in CC. You can email any of the people who responded to this post, if you need to talk about things.

 

[gideon007]

hello blessdani!

the bible told us about respecting and honoring our parents as what the book of Ephesians [6:1-4] says... but i think your dad is doing beyond the limit..

Ephesians 6: 1-4 ...Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” [4]Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord

and try to tell your dad about this and have a talk to him...quote the verse 4...and if he still insist i suggest you ask help from your Pastor or Elders.

 

[sally26]

This is sad . I am praying for you and also for your father that GOD will soften his heart and change him in JESUS name.AMEN hugggsss if you need someone to talk to feel free to message our friends here in CC .

 

[wwjd_kilden]

I'm sorry to hear that. As has been said, he has no right to do those things, correction should not stretch into abuse.

If you can, I think you should move out, it might get easier to resist him if you are not under his roof.
I assume from your profile you live in India and I assume the whole system of reporting things to the authorities might be very different, but if you at least know some people you trust, you should talk to them. Maybe they can help you in some way.

 

[Jullianna]

This is horrible! You must get help! Please!

Please...everyone pray for her!

 

[jamieedmonds10]

My dear God. INDEED I WILL PRAY! Wow. This is terrible. I am here to help in any way that i can. WOW. God bless your dear heart.

 

[abair]

you need to look informations about Women’s Shelter and women abuse center by your self and with the help of your friends or student support office you need thier help
get Women’s Shelter and women abuse center number and location in your area
contact with them in person or by phone when you are not at home
explain your situation you must let them know about your father temper so they can make sure that your safety is Priority
ask them about thier usual Procedures in your case to help you and the legal Procedures that you can take against your father and how they can help you
and what to do step by step you need to know all what they can do
you do not want to continue to live like this you are in 21
do not be afraid sister

 

[blessdani]

thank you friends...... the situations haven't changed yet.....and I can never go to my church for help 'cause my dad is one of the elders in church.....but I'll continue praying..... at least for a husband who would love me..... please pray that I'll find him soon....and please do pray for my studies too....actually I'm studying electronics....and the fact is that I don't like that....but dad forced it....so had to take it....and I have a lot of backlogs as I'm not interested in electronics....please pray that I should clear it....and get to study my higher degree... somewhere away from home...

 

[wwjd_kilden]

praying .

 

[spirit]

I pray that you will find someone that can help you and take you out of this situation. You are 21 and need to take control of your life now. If you can , get a job to save some money and plan to leave home when you are ready. Do believe in yourself , but don't let anyone including family take control of your life. Even if you don't seek advice from that church , go to another one. be open minded to change and know God will find a solution for you soon. God Bless.

 

[Nits]

Sadly to read about your situation. Now that you are 21 years old.! Into the adult real world. Yes you in a situation the question can be asked WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT!!!!!! many can say do this do that............BUT IT IS FOR YOU TO DECIDE FOR YOU TO MAKE A CHOICE. LIFE IS ALL ABOUT CHOICES WE MAKE. YOU CAN EITHER STAY AND FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND TAKE THE ABUSE OR DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
GOD IS THERE TO GUIDE YOU AND TO LEAD YOU. WE WILL ALL KEEP YOU IN OUR PRAYERS.

 

[blessdani]

and another problem has crept up........to make the long story short......I had a boyfriend last year and he kind of abused me through words and lied to me about a lot of things.......and I had no other go,but to leave him......and it wasn't painless either.....our whole family humiliated me.....and this happened last august.......and now....a guy is stalking me....I don't know who he is......I don't know what to do.....I'm not able to go out.....by God's grace he hasn't found y home......'cause every time he follows me I take different route home.....but I know this won't last for long......and I heard of acid attacks on girls by their former guyfriends....and another thing is that.....seems our paster called and told my mom to pray for me.....and that something is gonna happen to me......I'm scared to death.....I don't know what to do.....I'm really depressed.......

 

[Jilly81]

Dani, I realize that you might not be able to leave as easily as an American woman could leave her home. Please pray about leaving suddenly, so the man following you won't know where you went, that may bet the Lord's will. Jesus knows what would work; that's one reason why I want you to pray about it so carefully and get peace about what to do. I'm praying that He will give you the wisdom to know what to do, and I'm also praying that He will take you out of the situation, if He is willing to do so. Please be open to going to another home if you are led that way. I know how easy it must be to think "if only God would give me a husband who loves me", and that might be what He will do, but please be open to Him rescuing you by directing you to go to another home or a group shelter or something else entirely. I hope things get better, Sis. -Jill

P.S. Here's a song that I find comforting when I'm going through a trial. ---------> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Ti1SULYteI