I'm head over heels for a guy that treats me poorly

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CatHerder

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Mar 20, 2013
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I have been so into this guy for over a year. We've never officially dated but have talked and hung out on and off. He messes with my head and makes it seem like he wants to be with me, but then the next day will just stop talking to me. This has been ongoing. I feel like I have a strong connection to him. I also met him at the same time that I was saved and surrendered to the Lord.

I'm going crazy! Advice?
From what you've described in the OP, I can't see anything about him treating you badly, or anything to merit the things some of the posters here have said about him. It could be that you are reading "signals" that he may not really be sending, or he is naive about the fact that he is sending certain signals. Maybe he just likes you as a friend. Maybe he really likes you, but is shy. But if you are not in a relationship, him not calling or talking to you doesn't = him treating you badly.
 
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sio_mtumwa

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I would be direct and ask if he wants to be with me to clear up any misunderstandings, and to know for sure if he playing games. If he gives you an answer take it. If his actions don’t support his answer, drop him. simple