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You are only 20. You are still young! I am 30, and never married and I deal with anxiety, depression, and alot of bitterness toward men but I refuse to have such a negative mentality.
Don't use your disability as a reason why you can't find someone. Seriously, you need to be happy with yourself before you unite in marriage. A husband won;t fix your problems.
Don't use your disability as a reason why you can't find someone. Seriously, you need to be happy with yourself before you unite in marriage. A husband won;t fix your problems.
K
There are days where I feel like that. I tend to use something to distract me from my negative feeling. I either read the Bible or use that energy to play with my guitar and sing the one worship song I know. 
I'm not good at it, but I just like it.
I'm not good at it, but I just like it. Light of the world
You stepped down into darkness
Opened my eyes, Let me see
Beauty that made this heart adore you
You stepped down into darkness
Opened my eyes, Let me see
Beauty that made this heart adore you
Hope of a life spent with you
Here I am to worship
Here I am to bow down
Here I am to say that you're my God
You're altogether lovely
Altogether worthy
Altogether wonderful to me
Here I am to worship
Here I am to bow down
Here I am to say that you're my God
You're altogether lovely
Altogether worthy
Altogether wonderful to me
King of all days
So highly exalted
Glorious in heaven above
Humbly you came to the earth you created
All for love's sake became poor
So highly exalted
Glorious in heaven above
Humbly you came to the earth you created
All for love's sake became poor
Here I am to worship
Here I am to bow down
Here I am to say that you're my God
You're altogether lovely
Altogether worthy
Altogether wonderful to me
(repeat)
Here I am to bow down
Here I am to say that you're my God
You're altogether lovely
Altogether worthy
Altogether wonderful to me
(repeat)
I'll never know how much it cost
To see my sin upon that cross
To see my sin upon that cross
I honestly wish I could sing better. It could help build my confidence when it comes to singing infront a small crowd.
It could help build my confidence when it comes to singing infront a small crowd.
U
I agree with Beth. If you're looking at marriage as a way to have some guy make you happy and feel good about yourself, your marriage is doomed to fail before it even begins. Quite the opposite. Marriage is not about 'getting' its about 'giving'.. its about self sacrifice. Why do you think so many marriages fail? Because ultimately each person in that marriage is looking at the other saying 'well, what have you got for me?', when the real attitude needs to be 'what can i do for you?'.
It is no mans job to make you feel happy and fulfilled as a person. That is your job, and yours alone, to enable that through your walk and faith. Then, once that happens, you can enter marriage with a correct mindset.
I've known a number of people whose spouses have looked to them to make them happy people. Every marriage i know like that is unhappy or over.
It is no mans job to make you feel happy and fulfilled as a person. That is your job, and yours alone, to enable that through your walk and faith. Then, once that happens, you can enter marriage with a correct mindset.
I've known a number of people whose spouses have looked to them to make them happy people. Every marriage i know like that is unhappy or over.
Well many times we go through depression and loneliness because we lose sight of the world around us and focus on ourselves. We focus on the things of this world and when we lose them, we go into loneliness and depression. My point is seek Gods face and ask Him to have His way in you and also go around and just show love to the world in whatever way you can. God bless you all!
G
----no God, no peace.
----know God, know peace.
----I got peace like a river, I got peace like a river. I got peace like a river in my soul.
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And you will IF you choose Life and not life. God is the Way, the Truth, and, the Life.
God knew the plan for you, young lady before you were born, a good plan, all His just for you. Embrace it . I encourage you to read Psalms 139 and jeremiah 29:11, 12, 13
----know God, know peace.
----I got peace like a river, I got peace like a river. I got peace like a river in my soul.
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And you will IF you choose Life and not life. God is the Way, the Truth, and, the Life.
God knew the plan for you, young lady before you were born, a good plan, all His just for you. Embrace it . I encourage you to read Psalms 139 and jeremiah 29:11, 12, 13
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-----God did not give you a spirit of fear, only one you should fear, Shine and Arose, is God, if you are not following His Way, His Truth, His way to true Truth and real Life .
Sorry, Shine, I called you a 'young lady,' I was meaning arose. You, we, all of us, are beautiful creations of God and He created every single one of us for a purpose to glorify Him, and, not just that, but also to bless you. Pray that God can use those GIFTS of personality to REACH others for Christ. I KNOW He will hear you, and, more than that, I know He will answer , and , it will be beautiful
Sorry, Shine, I called you a 'young lady,' I was meaning arose. You, we, all of us, are beautiful creations of God and He created every single one of us for a purpose to glorify Him, and, not just that, but also to bless you. Pray that God can use those GIFTS of personality to REACH others for Christ. I KNOW He will hear you, and, more than that, I know He will answer , and , it will be beautiful
T
First, you may never ever ever ever ever ever again say that you are worthless. You are not worthless. You have value or you would not be here. You are alive because God can use you, therefore you are worth something.
I want you to look in the mirror right now and say "God loves me. I love Him. He created me to be used by Him. I will allow Him to use me and therefore I have worth. Thank you God for using me!"
Say this until you lose your voice. Say it in your sleep, say it in the shower, say it in the car.
I want you to look in the mirror right now and say "God loves me. I love Him. He created me to be used by Him. I will allow Him to use me and therefore I have worth. Thank you God for using me!"
Say this until you lose your voice. Say it in your sleep, say it in the shower, say it in the car.
B
I have u in ma prayers. Am also struggling but hand in hand with our Heavenly Father with our whole hearts we can conquer this trouble. Pray hard and refuse negativity, christain music pulls me thru. Listen to this song "Go light your world" by Chris Rice. Stay blessed because u are loved by ur Lord.
First off, no one is worthless. We all are here for a reason, and if God cares about every sparrow that falls, how much more does he care for you? This is going to sound odd, but let me ask these two questions.....
1. Who are you???
2. What do you want????
they are for you to find the answer to, they are not for the rest of us.
Once you find the answer to both of those questions, everything else will fall into place in God's time.
We are all broken and wounded in some manner, but never once should you think yourself worthless. There is someone somewhere who cares about you.
1. Who are you???
2. What do you want????
they are for you to find the answer to, they are not for the rest of us.
Once you find the answer to both of those questions, everything else will fall into place in God's time.
We are all broken and wounded in some manner, but never once should you think yourself worthless. There is someone somewhere who cares about you.
God doesn't make worthless people. You're just feeling worthless right now. I have a bit of S.A.D. and it can be crippling, but it is very treatable. You can seek help and overcome it. Its not the end of the world, even though it feels like it. Its your own thoughts that are making you feel the way you do. Change your thoughts and you'll change the way you feel. There is a lot of self-help stuff in books or on the internet that you can use to get started. Scripture can help too. Whatever you do, remember that God is on your side and wants you to be able to enjoy this life that Christ paid so greatly for.
God bless.
God bless.
B
Social anxiety, deep depressions etc is difficult and not to be shrugged off as nothing but to humble thy soul understand how bad it actually can be for whatever reasons.
I know someone with posttraumatic stress who because of traumatising past experiences could hardly go to the shop or leave apartment.This person prayed and prayed and has deep relation wth God (but not society perhaps)
"he may not come when you need it but he will be right there on time, help is on the way" A Gospel song I used to listen to.
Can you socialise through internet?
Do you have friends?
I have friends but only spiritually and not in person.
I love and miss my friends, family and partner in holy union.
I have friends who have been there for me even when they were not there in person.
If I say their name or call on them they are there
Its our way of communicating now.
I do hope it will be in person or body also we communicate and socialise as I am also lonely in a way and isolated in a way
Please, do not say you are worthless.
That is a insult to God and yourself.
(and your future husband)
You have areas or gifts that are special for you that you have to give the world or those you meet, find those and use them.
I wish you friends in the plenty, soulfamily and a partner or future husband but I do not think you should be coming to your future husband saying "im worthless".If you truly beleive so ; do you want to give your future husband something worthless
Surely you dont truly see yourself as worthless, if you think about it ...
Value yourself and hold yourself higher to be and do your best for who you individualy are.
Dont judge yourself but encourage yourself to leave home, go out, meet new people and give praise for how good and brave you have been.
Write a todo list or goals that are small but achievable and prayer and turn to Jesus for he truly understands the pain you go through and ask for help.
I have also had problems with these things but it is better now.
I socialised mainly on the internet and met my best friend but when we met in person as our people we were we were not "flowing" so well as in our chatting which was not what I was hoping for but it had its reasons..
I cant explain my problems in socialising but it has its reasons...
So many years of my young life were "wasted" locked up in apartment.
I hope you will not experience this.
I can not birth child from this body or not make child from this body but do will to marry and live in holy union
Start by giving yourself encouragement and support and love, pepp yourself and go sit at a cafe (amoung people) and train yourself in a encouraging positive way till it feels easier and better.Make a good inner voice of "pepptalk"
If you have friends and family ask them for help with support, understanding , encourage you in your socialisation and help you relax and feel included in society and your social group.
Ignore those who "down you" or if anyone violates, abuses you etc.Make it clear its not ok for them treat you that way and you have rights aswell as they do.
Get all the help and support you can for yourself to heal and free you.
Remember Jesus does understand and know how you feel and care and love you (not all people are able understand or feel compassion, understanding but Jesus does)
Keep talking with jesus
Have you got good relations with a church or anyone you can turn to there?
Maybe cognitive therapy , making you do what you fear but in small steps and encouragement.
Say if you are feeling bad walking in shops cause you feel bad energies on you or whatever it be then a therapist may walk with you to the shops and make you walk into a shop and look at clothes and try to feel peace in it eventually and joy even :0
Then next time you may go to a bigger shopping centre and she will talk you through it (or he)
Ive also felt loneliness.
Jesus is good to turn to and ask for help.
You can write a actionplan yourself as this will empower you and make you more in control
Actionplan may be; write daily to do list, seek therapist, prayer and ask Jesus for help daily,use internet to socialise, challenge self to go out, take small steps but take steps,ask friends for support and help...
Best wishes for you anyway.
I know someone with posttraumatic stress who because of traumatising past experiences could hardly go to the shop or leave apartment.This person prayed and prayed and has deep relation wth God (but not society perhaps)
"he may not come when you need it but he will be right there on time, help is on the way" A Gospel song I used to listen to.
Can you socialise through internet?
Do you have friends?
I have friends but only spiritually and not in person.
I love and miss my friends, family and partner in holy union.
I have friends who have been there for me even when they were not there in person.
If I say their name or call on them they are there
Its our way of communicating now.
I do hope it will be in person or body also we communicate and socialise as I am also lonely in a way and isolated in a way
Please, do not say you are worthless.
That is a insult to God and yourself.
(and your future husband)
You have areas or gifts that are special for you that you have to give the world or those you meet, find those and use them.
I wish you friends in the plenty, soulfamily and a partner or future husband but I do not think you should be coming to your future husband saying "im worthless".If you truly beleive so ; do you want to give your future husband something worthless
Surely you dont truly see yourself as worthless, if you think about it ...
Value yourself and hold yourself higher to be and do your best for who you individualy are.
Dont judge yourself but encourage yourself to leave home, go out, meet new people and give praise for how good and brave you have been.
Write a todo list or goals that are small but achievable and prayer and turn to Jesus for he truly understands the pain you go through and ask for help.
I have also had problems with these things but it is better now.
I socialised mainly on the internet and met my best friend but when we met in person as our people we were we were not "flowing" so well as in our chatting which was not what I was hoping for but it had its reasons..
I cant explain my problems in socialising but it has its reasons...
So many years of my young life were "wasted" locked up in apartment.
I hope you will not experience this.
I can not birth child from this body or not make child from this body but do will to marry and live in holy union
Start by giving yourself encouragement and support and love, pepp yourself and go sit at a cafe (amoung people) and train yourself in a encouraging positive way till it feels easier and better.Make a good inner voice of "pepptalk"
If you have friends and family ask them for help with support, understanding , encourage you in your socialisation and help you relax and feel included in society and your social group.
Ignore those who "down you" or if anyone violates, abuses you etc.Make it clear its not ok for them treat you that way and you have rights aswell as they do.
Get all the help and support you can for yourself to heal and free you.
Remember Jesus does understand and know how you feel and care and love you (not all people are able understand or feel compassion, understanding but Jesus does)
Keep talking with jesus
Have you got good relations with a church or anyone you can turn to there?
Maybe cognitive therapy , making you do what you fear but in small steps and encouragement.
Say if you are feeling bad walking in shops cause you feel bad energies on you or whatever it be then a therapist may walk with you to the shops and make you walk into a shop and look at clothes and try to feel peace in it eventually and joy even :0
Then next time you may go to a bigger shopping centre and she will talk you through it (or he)
Ive also felt loneliness.
Jesus is good to turn to and ask for help.
You can write a actionplan yourself as this will empower you and make you more in control
Actionplan may be; write daily to do list, seek therapist, prayer and ask Jesus for help daily,use internet to socialise, challenge self to go out, take small steps but take steps,ask friends for support and help...
Best wishes for you anyway.
Arose,
Jesus is in the restoration business!! As has been said before, a spouse will not make life better for you. What will make your life better is working through social anxiety/avoidant personality so you can be healed in JESUS NAME! This can come through counselling, prayer, meditation on scripture that affirms who you are.
We fall or rise to the level of our thoughts. The way we think shapes us. Negative thoughts do not bring anything but hopelessness. You can start today by beginning to replace the negative beliefs you have of yourself with what is truth - what GOD thinks of you. He delights in you, he made you (Psalm 139) he has GOOD plans for your life (Jeremiah 29:11).
No man, or woman will complete us or somehow make our lives better. The only partnership that WILL do that is the one between us and Jesus.
I am now a Social Worker. I have been through similar insecurities, I have experienced mental illness, I have come from an abused past. THANK GOD he has used counselling (both Christian and non-Christian) and lots of prayer and support from my Church that I can now say I am in a position where I can GIVE in a relationship when the time is right. I believe it is my responsibility to work through my own stuff as much as I can before marriage so as not to take my issues into that relationship. Do you understand what I am saying?
So seek out counselling, pray, ask others to pray for you, get involved in a small group/home group in your Church, ask the Lord to help you to open up and ask for his healing to come in whatever way he wishes! There is always hope because Jesus is on your side.
Jesus is in the restoration business!! As has been said before, a spouse will not make life better for you. What will make your life better is working through social anxiety/avoidant personality so you can be healed in JESUS NAME! This can come through counselling, prayer, meditation on scripture that affirms who you are.
We fall or rise to the level of our thoughts. The way we think shapes us. Negative thoughts do not bring anything but hopelessness. You can start today by beginning to replace the negative beliefs you have of yourself with what is truth - what GOD thinks of you. He delights in you, he made you (Psalm 139) he has GOOD plans for your life (Jeremiah 29:11).
No man, or woman will complete us or somehow make our lives better. The only partnership that WILL do that is the one between us and Jesus.
I am now a Social Worker. I have been through similar insecurities, I have experienced mental illness, I have come from an abused past. THANK GOD he has used counselling (both Christian and non-Christian) and lots of prayer and support from my Church that I can now say I am in a position where I can GIVE in a relationship when the time is right. I believe it is my responsibility to work through my own stuff as much as I can before marriage so as not to take my issues into that relationship. Do you understand what I am saying?
So seek out counselling, pray, ask others to pray for you, get involved in a small group/home group in your Church, ask the Lord to help you to open up and ask for his healing to come in whatever way he wishes! There is always hope because Jesus is on your side.