What is the general consensus on age difference between people if the man is a pastor? Does his leadership role make a difference if he is thinking about marrying a woman who is 30 years younger than him? Would it be ok for someone else in the church who was not in leadership? Why is it frowned upon?
Awesome question. I am 27 years older than my wife and live in America. As far as I know, few people care about the age difference and treat her well because she is an amazing woman with character. My mother lives with us and she loves my wife too.
But, as for a pastor having a younger wife? Boy that makes me think. My pastor approves of my marriage by the way, it was his idea to look abroad. I would say it
shouldn't matter but probably would because of all the speculation from the congregation. As I say that I think in some smaller churches where people can maybe see how he treats her and regards her that might help their relationship be accepted. An age gap of 20+ years in America makes up only about 1% of marriages so that is very unusual.
I would love to hear the questions the board of elders would ask him if he was a canditate for a pastor job.