This gets at the heart of most divorces. Young women are conned into thinking that they will be able to change their fiances after they marry them. Of course, you now know that will never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever happen. Not in million years.
I hope you will be the first woman in human history that will convey this idea to younger women. I can only hold out hope.
Many conservative Churches pressure young ladies into grabbing the first thing that comes along. They imply that if a woman has not married, then she has not fulfilled her role in life.
That is not what the Bible says.
1 Corinthians
7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
7:32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
7:33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please [his] wife.
7:34 There is difference [also] between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please [her] husband.