It's good to be single.

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Jesus_Leads

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All of that is true. But it's still harder then you think. I been trying a lot things not to think about her, but I come back to her because I'm stuck in the house almost everyday, and don't know anyone else.
I understand it's hard to get peace when stuck in home. Give time to Prayer and Bible as much as you can in other times try developing healthy hobbies like learning piano(or any instrument would do), rubiks cubing, hand writting imrpovement, reading books, learning a new language to name a few. Don't think I'm a nerd because I'm not, definitely NOT. So these activities can be fun and good for your brain at the same will be useful in some point of your life. If you still think it's impossible. There's one solution that always works for me. Just think it's possible and start to doing something.
 

Gojira

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An argument is a connected series of statements intended to establish a definite proposition....an argument is an intellectual process... contradiction is just the automatic gainsaying of anything the other person says.

Have we met all the above conditions? .. Just asking.

is it still good to be single? That's the question we must answer.
Depends on the person, depends on God's calling. For me, I do not believe it is good to be single.
To a proud dog mom that just sounds like you're begging to see a pic of my gorgeous girl:
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If you're a "dog mom", who may I ask is the father?
 

cinder

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If you're a "dog mom", who may I ask is the father?
God I guess. After all I've heard it said that God is a father to the fatherless. And it's a minor miracle that she's still alive and my dog, so it seems like God was watching out for her.
 
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I understand it's hard to get peace when stuck in home. Give time to Prayer and Bible as much as you can in other times try developing healthy hobbies like learning piano(or any instrument would do), rubiks cubing, hand writting imrpovement, reading books, learning a new language to name a few. Don't think I'm a nerd because I'm not, definitely NOT. So these activities can be fun and good for your brain at the same will be useful in some point of your life. If you still think it's impossible. There's one solution that always works for me. Just think it's possible and start to doing something.
I guess so. It just sucks seeing others with girlfriends (including my one and only friend who's the same age as I am) and with valentines day coming up it just sucks even more 😔. But I'll just have to live with it.
 

Jesus_Leads

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I guess so. It just sucks seeing others with girlfriends (including my one and only friend who's the same age as I am) and with valentines day coming up it just sucks even more 😔. But I'll just have to live with it.
It is not mandatory to have a girlfriend in a certain age. It is better to wait for the wife that God had prepared for instead of dating someone who you'll never end up with. It's ok to be single untill God's time don't bother yourself over it.
 

Gojira

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God I guess. After all I've heard it said that God is a father to the fatherless. And it's a minor miracle that she's still alive and my dog, so it seems like God was watching out for her.
Not what I was asking. But okay!
 
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I've been single for 18 years. I don't like it but my health is too poor to do anything about it. The odds were that I should've died 15 years ago...but noooo! Lol
 

Lanolin

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Legend has it that the Veteran bag carrier and box lifter, retired with lots of aches and pains, and is saddened by the selfishness of mankind. If the veteran could have lived their life over, they would start a petition that says everyone who is carrying more than one bag or a heavy bag should be assisted by his fellow man. For as the saying goes, no man is an island therefore let each one help the other with their bag- even if the bag is not heavy. And in so doing the world would be a much better place.
I used to get a lot of aches and pains when I worked in the city library and we had literally MOUNTAINS of books to sort through...the boxes of books would be piled high to the ceiling (espeically after a public holiday)

we had a 70 + year old delivery driver and the funny thing about him (he was married to my boss) was he would ask us to fill the boxes to the top cos he didnt like carrying half empty boxes.

Then he would load them into his van and take them to all the other libraries. some of the trolleys of books would be so heavily laden that the rule was dont ever try and move it yourself. Two people are needed.

my aches and pains went away when I left that job because it actually was a bit intense and the workroom wasnt that well designed. we had a team but the floor plan was such it made it harder. WE had shelvers whose sole job it was to shelve books, and they would take smaller trolleys.

A smaller library is MUCH easier to handle and get around then one on three floors! I redsigned it so the shelving is much easier. I think some people make it harder than it should be. Many architects dont really take into account how the space is to be used.

They dont seem to undertsnad that if theres a door and you are carrying stuff that you cant carry stuff with two hands and open the door at the same time.lol
 

Lanolin

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some people just arent cut out to be single.
Its ok

but for those that love being single the beneifts are that you have a mind of your own and nobody else to tell you what you ought to think...its incredibly freeing. You can be yourself rather than bend over backwards for other people. This is not to say you dont live in a community or with other people. But you have more space to breathe, to be creative, and to worship.

When I go to church and its crowded with people here the thing...when you are single you dont care what others think wether it is positive or negative. Your focus is on God above. Hes the one you look to, not everyone else. And if nobody comes and sits next to you so what.

You have room to dance.
 

Lanolin

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Dogs are pack animals.. they do a lot better in a group
Cats are ok solo they do like their own space although they can get along in a group, but they still are very much indepndent animals.

But not that many animals actually couple up with each other and stay like that forever. The kiwi bird lays a giant egg but its the dads that sit on the egg while the mum goes out and hunts for food. I. not sure what happens when aall their chicks have grown up and left, but its interesting that the dad sticks around cos a lot of animals the dads never stick around.
 

I_am_Canadian

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I've been single for 18 years. I don't like it but my health is too poor to do anything about it. The odds were that I should've died 15 years ago...but noooo! Lol
Wow, ok.
 

Lynx

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Some threads need to be dug up once in a while.


Here's another reason it's good to be single: Blue cheese!

I cooked some blue cheese into my breakfast. I am currently enjoying it and NOT ANNOYING ANYBODY! Nope, there's nobody here to be irritated by the smell. And mmmmmm, it's delicious!

Don't get me started on the jar of pickled garlic I found at the store. (Not even making this up. And it's delicious too.)
 

Ruby123

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Too many people settle for anyone because they want loneliness to go. I understand loneliness at times can be painful but choosing the wrong person to cure the loneliness is a bigger



It is better to be single with loneliness than married to the wrong person. Then the headaches start

 

Gojira

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Too many people settle for anyone because they want loneliness to go. I understand loneliness at times can be painful but choosing the wrong person to cure the loneliness is a bigger



It is better to be single with loneliness than married to the wrong person. Then the headaches start

Yeah... I hate being single, but man... to be imprisoned in a bad marriage? I'll take loneliness any day.
 
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你好!很高兴认识你
 

Karlon

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it's even better to be single when you know the Lord wants you that way.