Job's Comforters

[Jullianna]

When you are going through something rough, what do you want? Do you want someone to tell you what you want to hear? Do you want someone to set you straight? Do you want someone to be honest with you in a loving way? Do you want brutal honesty? Do you just want people to shut up and leave you alone? Do you want Job's comforters gathering around to pat you on the back and join you for a whining convention?

 

[rainacorn]

That last one.

When things are rough, I usually know what I need to do to get through it, even if all I can really do is pray. But I still wanna vent a little. Venting is not an invitation for advice, it's just exploding emotions into the ether so they don't stay inside me and eat away at my guts. I like it when people are like 'Oh man, you're so right. That's really awful!'

If I talk long enough, I'll come around to the solution... then I'm totally open to advice. But I definitely do not like my venting broken into before I've really hit my stride lol

That said, I don't really have much to complain about these days. I vent less and I'm quicker to get to the solutions. I also have a policy of only venting about something one time. I don't need to unleash on every single person I know about one subject for days on end so everyone I know can agree that I have every right to be upset. No wallowing!!!

 

[Strong1]

I am most definitely a truth seeker. Hard truth.
I always say to people, especially my hubby.....Tell me the truth even if it breaks my heart, I will get over it, and i'll figure out my own way to deal with it.
Brutal honesty doesnt always feel great, but it somehow sets me free.....

 

[CatWoman]

Some times when I have a problem and I share it with some one, im just venting. And some times I want advice or talk about how to solve the problem. But you have me thinking Julieanna, Im I one of those whinners that complaine about things and wont except advice unless its something that I want to hear? I long time ago a lady had opened up my eyes by telling me that my complaining was do to wanting attention and I was a drama queen. She was right.Since then I think twice before I open my mouth about some thing negitive.And I do take peoples advice into concideration and use it. But when I reject some ones advice is it because its something I dont want to hear? I am going to pay more attention to myself in this area from now on. I know I cant stand it when some body shares with me their problems over and over again and I know Im giving good advice and they wont act on it. It seems like they are attention getters or want me to tell them something they want to hear. I find them mentally taxing.

 

[rainacorn]

Heads up, CatWoman, I've been reported (and penalized) for less than that. If you can still edit that, you might wanna take the image down.

 

[LightningClap0002]

That's just 'cause you're a troublemaker rain

 

[rainacorn]

That's just 'cause you're a troublemaker rain

Meeeeeeeeee?????

No way.

Ok, well maybe a little.

Seriously though, if you knew what I was penalized for, you'd be handing out warnings, too. Apparently any little thing that gets reported results in a black mark on your permanent record, whether it's valid or not.

I probably shouldn't have said that. Please don't report me.

 

[CatWoman]

LOL, I would miss you all if I was banned but I like my post and I want to keep it. The attachment goes with what I said about myself.

 

[zeroturbulence]

In Catwoman's defense, its not really a bad word. Its just a female dog in heat. I hope they don't penalize you for that.

I'll give a proper reply to this thread later. I have to go eat something right now.

 

[zeroturbulence]

When you are going through something rough, what do you want? Do you want someone to tell you what you want to hear? Do you want someone to set you straight? Do you want someone to be honest with you in a loving way? Do you want brutal honesty? Do you just want people to shut up and leave you alone? Do you want Job's comforters gathering around to pat you on the back and join you for a whining convention?

When I'm going through something, I want emotional support from others (to cheer me up), and I want good, practical advice too from knowledgeable sources (usually not from friends or acquaintances unless they've been through the same thing and understand exactly what I'm going through.).

 

[niceguyJ]

Honesty is always good.

I tend to, more often than not, keep things to myself if I'm having a hard time...Well, between myself and God. However, It's always nice to simply know someone sincerely cares.
I will, at times, go way out of my way to try to be there for someone and encourage them, but it's hard for me to reach out at all for any kind of help. I feel like most people have their own problems to deal with and many are too wrapped up in themselves to even care to reach back anyways. That might sound bad, but there's truth to it. Plus, I don't want to be a whiner. haha. I try to get over stuff fairly quickly...or at least accept it and realize it's going to pass, as all things in this world do. Positive perception can be huge, and nothing can take away my true joy from God.

 

[AnandaHya]

When you are going through something rough, what do you want? Do you want someone to tell you what you want to hear? Do you want someone to set you straight? Do you want someone to be honest with you in a loving way? Do you want brutal honesty? Do you just want people to shut up and leave you alone? Do you want Job's comforters gathering around to pat you on the back and join you for a whining convention?

what about none of the above?

When I'm going through something rough. I want someone to listen without comment. Pray with me and wait for God to answer and be comforted by their presence and love more then their words. Sometimes words just make it worst and the noise makes it harder to hear God, but I don't want to be left alone either.

my husband goes with the brutally honest approach

 

[Jullianna]

If I am reeeally upset about something, I like to be alone and even more quiet than usual. I don't want to talk until I've sorted it through and talked with the Lord about it.


If I'm whining or being unrealistic, I want a swift kick in the pants.


Online I share my thoughts about things, as that's kinda the point of a forum; but offline I don't offer advice or opinions about someone's personal business unless I'm asked.

 

[kayem77]

When you are going through something rough, what do you want? Do you want someone to tell you what you want to hear? Do you want someone to set you straight? Do you want someone to be honest with you in a loving way? Do you want brutal honesty? Do you just want people to shut up and leave you alone? Do you want Job's comforters gathering around to pat you on the back and join you for a whining convention?

All of the above...is that even an acceptable answer? I want someone to set me straight if they see I'm failing, I want honesty in a loving way when something is really hard for me to understand and might hurt my heart ,and I want brutal honesty when I'm a miserable failure and not doing my best.

When I'm reaaaaaaaaaaally frustrated and irritated, I isolate myself and want people to shut up...but after that I want Job's comforters gathering around me and comforting me. To be honest though, I barely trust one person to open up and vent about everything, so Job's comforters are not very much of an option...I need to get more of those.