Longing for a Relationship

[AgeofKnowledge]

She thinks she's a "princess" so...

But even if she wasn't a self-proclaiming "princess," men are increasingly refusing to incur the enormous legal liability of the state anti-male feminist legal instrument which immediately disempowers and disenfranchises them and, in the highly likely event of divorce, transforms them into a man-slave faced with incarceration for decades (and in some states the rest of his life [but not hers as she's already moved on to new men and/or women]) who gets to watch any children he may have slowly turned against him during the one weekend a month the court allows him to see them.

Gee, I wonder why so many young women just can't find a "good" man anymore. Hmm...

Could it have something to do with smart young men choosing to reject the enormous life-long legal, financial, judicial/penal, and personal liabilities the present anti-male feminist state legal contract threatens them with?

OF COURSE.

They aren't stupid. They don't play Russian roulette with loaded pistols either.

I guess it depends on what you are looking for in a God fearing man.

 

[Vianneya]

Gee, I wonder why so many young women just can't find a "good" man anymore. Hmm...

Could it have something to do with smart young men choosing to reject the enormous life-long legal, financial, judicial/penal, and personal liabilities the present anti-male feminist state legal contract threatens them with?

OF COURSE.

They aren't stupid. They don't play Russian roulette with loaded pistols either.

I also notice that boys are every day less responsible to take 'risk' Sometimes I just get answer of adult man "sorry but I'm not allowed to be in relationship. I like my life, to be alone and free." Can't believe...
But times change... I heard that reason for this also could be not serving military... There they had to work hard, to learn discipline and order... And so on, they should accept great decisions. Now they don't need anymore.
But we know, every of them is not the same! Anyway without them will be boring .

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Depends on the risk. Not wanting to be legally transformed into a powerless, dehumanized, man-slave is too much risk for most young men today.

In fact, I'd say that condition is a violation of a person's human rights under natural law and that it shouldn't even be legal for the state to do what it's doing to men in "family" court.

Of course, we still do join the military and fight wars. I'm an honorably discharged military veteran myself. Gallup states 24% of U.S. men are military veterans. The truth is that I'd rather be killed in a war than be reduced to a powerless, dehumanized, man-slave facing incarceration if I lose my ability to earn through sickness or economic decline.

Most women I talk to look at life through one pair of eyes: their own. That's not a relationship. If you want a man-slave, then find yourself a sucker to exploit with the state legal contract but don't complain afterwards that he's not "man" enough for you.

Marriage is in rapid decline, especially amongst millennial straight males, for real tangible reasons that have zero to do with men being "bad people."

Those young men aren't "bad people" for failing to allow the state to royally screw over their lives. You want real men to sign marriage contracts en masse again, then change the terms so that real men will sign them.

It's that simple.

I also notice that boys are every day less responsible to take 'risk' Sometimes I just get answer of adult man "sorry but I'm not allowed to be in relationship. I like my life, to be alone and free." Can't believe...
But times change... I heard that reason for this also could be not serving military... There they had to work hard, to learn discipline and order... And so on, they should accept great decisions. Now they don't need anymore.
But we know, every of them is not the same! Anyway without them will be boring .

 

[Vianneya]

Depends on the risk. Not wanting to be legally transformed into a powerless, dehumanized, man-slave is too much risk for most young men today.

In fact, I'd say that condition is a violation of a person's human rights under natural law and that it shouldn't even be legal for the state to do what it's doing to men in "family" court.

Of course, we still do join the military and fight wars. I'm an honorably discharged military veteran myself. Gallup states 24% of U.S. men are military veterans. The truth is that I'd rather be killed in a war than be reduced to a powerless, dehumanized, man-slave facing incarceration if I lose my ability to earn through sickness or economic decline.

Most women I talk to look at life through one pair of eyes: their own. That's not a relationship. If you want a man-slave, then find yourself a sucker to exploit with the state legal contract but don't complain afterwards that he's not "man" enough for you.

Marriage is in rapid decline, especially amongst millennial straight males, for real tangible reasons that have zero to do with men being "bad people."

Those young men aren't "bad people" for failing to allow the state to royally screw over their lives. You want real men to sign marriage contracts en masse again, then change the terms so that real men will sign them.

It's that simple.

Yes you're right!
I meant military for our condition. Our guys don't serve. And it could be the reason that they still want to live in mama hotel...

And absolutely, they're not bad! I've never thought in this way! No. I agree with new role of man in family and also about women's expectations. Everything what we wrote down is so close and so connected!

Thanks for your answer it's always good to see other page of life. Different world, different view.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

The institution of marriage has been materially subverted and is in steep and rapid decline in Western Civilization.

On top of all the other things I'm pointing out, from a male perspective, is Western Civilization's redefinition of it to a devalued institution which denies its very nature and purpose (from a Judeo-Christian perspective).

How do you think young men view an institution that, in addition to presenting itself as a harsh long-term threat to their lives, is devalued to the point of immorality?

Yes you're right!
I meant military for our condition. Our guys don't serve. And it could be the reason that they still want to live in mama hotel...

And absolutely, they're not bad! I've never thought in this way! No. I agree with new role of man in family and also about women's expectations. Everything what we wrote down is so close and so connected!

Thanks for your answer it's always good to see other page of life. Different world, different view.

 

[GhostWolf]

Have you looked at your local church or church related meetings with other singles? Don't be afraid to lower some standards, it helps broaden the pool of candidates, and everyone has problems, it just comes down to if you can accept them or not.

 

[ServantStrike]

Have you looked at your local church or church related meetings with other singles? Don't be afraid to lower some standards, it helps broaden the pool of candidates, and everyone has problems, it just comes down to if you can accept them or not.

Don't be afraid to lower some standards?

That's really romantic talk right there. I mean truly romantic.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

HAHAHAHA! !

Don't be afraid to lower some standards?

That's really romantic talk right there. I mean truly romantic.

 

[GhostWolf]

I didn't say lower all your expectations. There is a difference between accepting people for who they are and waiting only for perfection.

 

[Desdichado]

I didn't say lower all your expectations. There is a difference between accepting people for who they are and waiting only for perfection.

I agree, but at the same time I don't. I suppose it is where your priorities lie.

Personally, I'd rather die single rather than live with someone I didn't think was the whole enchilada. I have so much else to live for.

 

[PrincessT]

Have you looked at your local church or church related meetings with other singles? Don't be afraid to lower some standards, it helps broaden the pool of candidates, and everyone has problems, it just comes down to if you can accept them or not.

There's not any men at my church that I could see myself with.Ill just wait on God.Maybe its just not my season.

 

[jsr1221]

There's not any men at my church that I could see myself with.Ill just wait on God.Maybe its just not my season.

I've found out that the day we stop telling God we want something "I want a spouse, I want a job, etc, etc, etc) is the day that He starts giving what He wants for us. Maybe you are called to be with someone, and maybe you're not. I wouldn't really focus on this, and would just focus on fulfilling God's Will as best you can. Because it's whenever we 100 percent focus and work for God is when He surprises us in things that we didn't think were going to happen.

 

[PrincessT]

I've found out that the day we stop telling God we want something "I want a spouse, I want a job, etc, etc, etc) is the day that He starts giving what He wants for us. Maybe you are called to be with someone, and maybe you're not. I wouldn't really focus on this, and would just focus on fulfilling God's Will as best you can. Because it's whenever we 100 percent focus and work for God is when He surprises us in things that we didn't think were going to happen.

That's so True! Brings me to Psalms 37:4 DELIGHT YOURSELF IN THE LORD AND HE WILL GIVE YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART.God Bless you n thank you for your encouragement☺

 

[PeterJens]

Why is it so hard to come across a God fearing man?? I'm single n I long for a relationship.It gets hard but I Dont want to settle or lower my standards like I have in the past.

I just need some encouragement.

This sounds like Tina Turner "whats love got to do with it, it is just a second hand emotion"

Come on guys, form a queue, if you pass my test I might consider you as acceptable.
Get real, relationships are far more complex, and getting involved with someone is costly, high risk, and you have got to love them, really, really love them. Does not sound like this is the territory you have been in.

 

[ServantStrike]

There's not any men at my church that I could see myself with.Ill just wait on God.Maybe its just not my season.

I really don't know how to respond to this because you haven't provided enough details.

Either there are a ton of very weak men in your church, or someone needs to give you a reality check. I'm not entirely sure without more details. There aren't a lot of dudes in churches period. Attendance rises after marriage, which indicates to me they seem to be dragged, not willing participants.

If you find a willing participant, you might want to talk to that person - there aren't a lot of them around.

This sounds like Tina Turner "whats love got to do with it, it is just a second hand emotion"

Come on guys, form a queue, if you pass my test I might consider you as acceptable.
Get real, relationships are far more complex, and getting involved with someone is costly, high risk, and you have got to love them, really, really love them. Does not sound like this is the territory you have been in.

Ahahahaahah!

It's best not to love anyone too much until you know they're trustworthy. I've known guys who go to churches to pick up chicks. You're going too far to the other end of the spectrum here.

 

[AsifinPassing]

Why is it so hard to come across a God fearing man?? I'm single n I long for a relationship.It gets hard but I Dont want to settle or lower my standards like I have in the past.

I just need some encouragement.

Troll answer: ...because we're all heathens.

Thought-provoking answer: ...because there seem to be many 'God-fearing' men, but not many 'Christ-Centered' men.
*source of thought from a sermon I once heard in SA: "They were very 'God-fearing', but not every Christian."

Encouraging Answer (as you requested): Focus on Christ. Learn to see with God's eyes, and perhaps you'll find there are more Godly men in the world than there seem to be right now. Then, perhaps, one will find you in the same way you're looking to find him.

 

[agirlandherguitar]

My mentor, an older woman, married with adult children, cofounder of the church I'm currently at, put it very bluntly for me. She said there is a huge age gap for single Christian men. It seems most men in the church marry very young because they don't want to "live in sin" with their girlfriends (ie have sex with them), so they marry young and fast. This leaves out the single men ages 25 to 40. The second wave of single men in the church are in their 40's and 50's and are most likely divorced because they married too young and too fast. We seem to have ourselves a paradox! However, I'm wondering if that's true then shouldn't there be an age gap of single women in the church too?

Needless to say I've learned not treat it like my own personal meat buffet. Church is not a place where I personally want to be dating. It's ideal... if you're ages 18-22 or 45-60.

 

[Desdichado]

My mentor, an older woman, married with adult children, cofounder of the church I'm currently at, put it very bluntly for me. She said there is a huge age gap for single Christian men. It seems most men in the church marry very young because they don't want to "live in sin" with their girlfriends (ie have sex with them), so they marry young and fast. This leaves out the single men ages 25 to 40. The second wave of single men in the church are in their 40's and 50's and are most likely divorced because they married too young and too fast. We seem to have ourselves a paradox! However, I'm wondering if that's true then shouldn't there be an age gap of single women in the church too?

Needless to say I've learned not treat it like my own personal meat buffet. Church is not a place where I personally want to be dating. It's ideal... if you're ages 18-22 or 45-60.

Interesting. I can kind of see this trend.

Men around my age though can plausibly date the younger women. Not to mention more easily attract them.

I think part of it is apathy men get. Decent men are so brutalized by the dating game that they retreat until they are in their late twenties and miss out on a lot of opportunities.