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olivia1215

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I was dating this guy and at 1st it was all good at first. He had such a ruff lifestyle with his mother being on drugs he taught me to be way thankful. He went for 4yrs without water & lights off and on. And when he told me his life story I sit and thought to myself how unappreciative I was and i should be more thankful, im always complaining on simple things that are not needed. But i recently broke up with him because he wasnt making enuff time for me ( he did at first) but sooner or later I only to see him fri or saturday after 12am. He makes his own money, (so i shouldn't be hard for him to make time) and he called me saturday & wanted to come see me (he called at 1:40) I said ok and hung up BUT than i let my pride get to me && didnt even bother to answer the phone when he called back. (I just went to sleep) because I felt like hey i dont deserve && im not going to be no fri & saturday after 12am girlfriend. So the next day i try to call and tell him how I felt but he didnt answer, so I texted and told him how I felt and that if he cant make more time than it's best we stay single. He hasn't text nor called back. Watch he'll call and a couple days and think i forgot about it. Time messes up relationship. Complete freedom is not an option in a relationship!! You gave some of that up when you became a couple! It's best to be single if ur not willing to put in enuff time. "Letting go doesn't always mean givin up, it's just havin enuff widsom to know some things can not be" :) Is it me is my pride getting in the way? someone help me with a scripture for what I'm going threw
 
DinoDillinger

DinoDillinger

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Not knowing more about the guy's character now I'll just share this to use as a bit of a gage to determine if he is worth dating.

Math. 5:
3"Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
5Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the earth.
6Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
7Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
8Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.
9Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called sons of God.
10Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Alot of these you might not have any idea when you first meet somebody but if you spend a bit of time talking to them you can usually get an idea of what values they hold to. Ofcourse actual christians will often fall short of these at various times but it is the way of life which better defines them. :)
 
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olivia1215

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omg this scripture helped me awhole lot!!!!! It lead me to Matthew 25 34-40. we have no excuse to negelect those who have deep needs.
 
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NukePooch

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Uhhh...what is he doing the rest of the day that he can only bother to see you after midnight?
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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You have every reason to be upset about that. He has the whoooooooooole day to text you or call you. I mean sending a text message takes what, like ten seconds, but he calls you after midnight?? Sounds pretty sketchey to me. I would be wonderin what he was doin the whole day that he couldnt take five minutes away from to pick up the phone and just say hi.

I woulda dumped him to.
 
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jangel

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olivia1215 said:
) Complete freedom is not an option in a relationship!! You gave some of that up when you became a couple! It's best to be single if ur not willing to put in enuff time. "Letting go doesn't always mean givin up, it's just havin enuff widsom to know some things can not be"
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True! True! True!!! :D
I do felt I’m better off just being single. I felt guys are sort of disturbance for me,lol. Though it’s not all the time I feel like this , but it’s so funny before when I was dating this guy, and when he asked me to go out , I was like praying that he will disappear in my life ,lol. I was tired from work and just really wanted to rest and here this guy, asking for my time and I felt I’m obliged to give it to him,lol. There are times I told him I’m tired and he understood but expecting already the next time, so even if I don’t feel going out again, I just have to but good thing, I was never get bored being with him.
Another problem also I see in me is that, I tend to be dependent and I’m not performing well at work anymore. I don’t know why but I can’t focused and others are already suffering with my performance, but when I decided to put an end into it the next year with no guys …I got a recognition at work as one of the top performer of the year ,that was just last year, lol. That’s why I’m someone who really doesn’t care about having someone in my life now. I’m happy being single and just being with friends, it’s like I’m someone who don’t really want to compromise in relationship, though the guy would say, I don’t need to cuz he will…


Time is really important in relationship, but one thing I noticed also and don’t like is, am already giving more time talking with this guy every night and less time ,even don’t have time anymore in reading my Bible and praying.


Well, I don’t know…maybe he's just a guy who couldn't give you the time that you want, don't know what his job is, but if you love him then you have to understand his situation as long as, he's not doing something else of course, and I can’t think of any scriptural answers but what I know is…relationship should be an inspiration not distraction or destruction! lol:)
 
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EllaD

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Stand your ground with whats acceptable and whats not. Nobody wants to be a sloppy side dish and you deserve more than that.
 
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Ricke

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Olivia 1125
Sounds like this guy is playing you like a fiddle,-and stringing you along if you pardon the pun."Bye, Bye" if it was me..lol
 
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princessbella

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i agree with ricke if hes dodging and only giving you those times not giving any proper answersit sounds to me like hes playing you and playing mind games, hes certainly not serious or hes got trust and commitment issues , let go and if he is serious he will come back but keep boundries, stay strong girl ive been there you dont need that, it will end up emotionally and physically crushing you because no mater what you give it will never be enough if your not strong enough and youll end up feeling that its your fault when you get mad at him for not been comitted or not phoning and texting... good luck sweet
 
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