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If we are honestly trying to correct someone, it helps to get them to see things they way that other people do, rather than simply calling them on behavior that they are doing.
sort of like how Nathan gave David a Parable, so that David could feel and understand the emotion behind why what was happening.
I think a lot of times, we do the same thing. We want someone to have a sort of "emperor's new clothes" experience with their activity, to see on their own, what it is that they are doing wrong. So we sort of passive aggressively drop hints and clues to coerce them into agreeing with us.
But human nature is a fickle mistress. She does not understand or take kindly to being poked and prodded into doing anything, understanding anything or changing anything.
Also because none of us have the kind of authority to really go after someone and say, "what you are doing is wrong." We tell those people to shove off. Cause thats kind of the thing with like "Judgemental Christians" and the Westboro baptist church. They tell people they are wrong all day, and it doesn't seem to change much.
So as counterintuitive as it sounds, making fun of something, by making it obvious to everyone just how strange it is, has a better likelihood of changing someone's mind than simply telling them that its wrong.
So rather than saying do this or don't do that, painting a picture that illustrates why doing this is wrong, so that people can discover it for themselves is really the best way to change someone's mind about something.
I think thats sort of the point of most parables.
tl;dr If you push someone, they push back but, if you let them think it was their idea, they agree with you.
sort of like how Nathan gave David a Parable, so that David could feel and understand the emotion behind why what was happening.
I think a lot of times, we do the same thing. We want someone to have a sort of "emperor's new clothes" experience with their activity, to see on their own, what it is that they are doing wrong. So we sort of passive aggressively drop hints and clues to coerce them into agreeing with us.
But human nature is a fickle mistress. She does not understand or take kindly to being poked and prodded into doing anything, understanding anything or changing anything.
Also because none of us have the kind of authority to really go after someone and say, "what you are doing is wrong." We tell those people to shove off. Cause thats kind of the thing with like "Judgemental Christians" and the Westboro baptist church. They tell people they are wrong all day, and it doesn't seem to change much.
So as counterintuitive as it sounds, making fun of something, by making it obvious to everyone just how strange it is, has a better likelihood of changing someone's mind than simply telling them that its wrong.
So rather than saying do this or don't do that, painting a picture that illustrates why doing this is wrong, so that people can discover it for themselves is really the best way to change someone's mind about something.
I think thats sort of the point of most parables.
tl;dr If you push someone, they push back but, if you let them think it was their idea, they agree with you.
I can't think of a passive-aggressive thing I've heard that was born of loving hope, but rather of mockery and/or sarcasm born of frustration/anger/spitefulness, none of which are noble at their core.