My head's so full and my home life so empty

[tasha66]

Unfortunately, the reason you have to pay for oline dating sites, is just so that the people who set them up can make money. They do not care about you or about your loneliness. I remember when the net first came out, people were saying it will bring people closer together - I really think in the main the opposite has happened, though the net is definitely a wonderful thing. I joined a dating site not long ago & made it upfront & very clear I was only after friends for coffee etc & to meet in public places only. I had many, MANY creepy guys wanting private adult conversations, or pressuring me for my details - they knew I was older & had grey hair etc so it wasn't like I was some young thing that could be groomed. I told them I don't give out my details to anybody on the internet. I reported some of them as they sent really offensive, alarming messages, but the so-called moderators didn't do anything. So I deleted all of my accounts. It got to the point where I was feeling unsafe.
I'm a Mental Health professional & it sounds like that guy you met had what we called 'pressured speech' - usually characteristic of some type of schizophrenia/shizoaffective disorder with other features; possibly psychotic ones. He was probably just lonely, wanted to meet up with you & he's probably had his a/c deleted as he's got into trouble in some fashion, been incarcerated or has caused trouble on the website. There are alot of creeps & paedophiles on the internet who troll different sites all day, and you have absolutely no idea who they are. He could have been married with kids for all you know. He could have taken someting to 'calm' him before meeting you or he might have had a drink - pretty common on blind dates. There may be free/friendship or dating sites but I haven't looked into it too much, so you could try those. Honestly matey, you dodged a bullet there with that bloke!
I have employment too but the hours aren't guaranteed. I've had to cut down on many things & have prayed for help. I might even have to move back home so I don't end up homeless, or to take up study I have to pay for upront, to get the better job that I want. There are many, many ways to save money, even on utility bills. I can't message people on here unless I pay & I'm on a tight budget at the mo, but if you personal message me, I can give you lots of hints & tips. You can also cook very cheap, nutritious meals too. One way to save money is to shop at night before supermarkets close - you will usually find many bargains - & buy in bulk from wholesalers. The job search is tough, but keep plodding away. Keep applying for ANY & all jobs. The internet is usually free at libraries & contact a free job service provider to have your CV reviewed. Start networking on sites like Linkedin - though I found that didn't help me in the job market. There may be other job sites but I haven't looked into them.
Loneliness is horrid. I have no family or friends where I am at present, but I'm a loner so it doesn't bother me too much. I'm so busy with study at the mo, that the time just flies. We can be mates if you like - I'm from Down Under so 'Hey how ya goin matey!' is my usual greeting! You are not alone so don't think you are!! Boredom & not doing anything, or not having any goals for the day can lead to depression & despondency - I think we all get that from time to time, so you aren't alone.
I missed out on the perfect job for me not long ago & it's disappointing, but this time, I'm going to call the manager there & ask if there was anything I could improve with regards to my application. Sometimes negative feedback can help with your next job application or interview.
I don't know how old you are, but try not to take things personally. People have their own agendas & own understanding of life, so it might not be you. Just shrug it off to experience & set yourself some goals for the day that don't involve spending money. I like to walk on the beach or read in the sun, or study history online.
I wil say a wee prayer for you. Let us know how you get on hey!
Cheers

 

[tasha66]

Also Lady Bug is right in that you might have to commute. Many of my jobs have involved a 2 - 4 hour commute both ways. I use public transport & that saves me heaps of money (not an option though sometimes in a smaller place). When I'm commuting using public transport, I use the time to read, catch up on emails, text friends, etc.
There are also many working from home websites - you might not make much, but it is still something. You may just have to really cut down on your lifestyle, & that can be very hard. Make a list of what you really need - such as groceries - then make a list of what you waste money on. Even adding up buying 10 takeaway coffees at nearly $5 each week could set you back $50 without you even realising it. Shop at op shops for clothes, electrical goods etc - that saves alot of money too. You can buy coffee making machines at op shops for sometimes $5 where you can make your own coffees at home - just one example.

 

[tasha66]

Also Lady Bug is right in that you might have to commute. Many of my jobs have involved a 2 - 4 hour commute both ways. I use public transport & that saves me heaps of money (not an option though sometimes in a smaller place). When I'm commuting using public transport, I use the time to read, catch up on emails, text friends, etc.
There are also many working from home websites - you might not make much, but it is still something. You may just have to really cut down on your lifestyle, & that can be very hard. Make a list of what you really need - such as groceries - then make a list of what you waste money on. Even adding up buying 10 takeaway coffees at nearly $5 each week could set you back $50 without you even realising it. Shop at op shops for clothes, electrical goods etc - that saves alot of money too. You can buy coffee making machines at op shops for sometimes $5 where you can make your own coffees at home - just one example.
I do online & face to face paid tutoring - have you ever thought of doing that?? You can make quite a bit of money depending upon the skill set that you offer.