My prospective spouse has to be perfect...

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I am pretty perfect, and yet I'm not married! hahaha just kidding.. except for not being married!

I surely don't want a perfect wife. I would never be able to live up to that standard for her! I just want a woman that is beautiful in my eyes (and that doesn't mean perfect, everyone has their own opinions on what is attractive, I just have my own), funny, intelligent, and challenges me as a man. That isn't something so amazingly hard to ask for. I simply want a girl I am attracted to on all levels. All the petty things beyond that really don't matter much, because when you truly love someone, their imperfections start to become the things you love about them the most.

That will be hard for you to find, seeming as you said in another post you get tired of women easily. Just sayin
 
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DABEARS85

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That will be hard for you to find, seeming as you said in another post you get tired of women easily. Just sayin
It isn't really that I get tired of them more so that I lose some of the rose colored glasses and realize I am not in love with them and we were wrong for each other. The girls that I have fallen in love with in my life will always have a part of me with them. If I truly love a girl, I would do anything in my power to keep the relationship going. It's not like I'm always the one breaking a relationship off :)

I lived with a girl once before too. I dated her for 2 years, lived with her for 6 months, and planned on marrying her. She ended up being unfaithful while we lived together. I know the full spectrum of what it means to have your heart broken, so I am just simply more careful now based on my failed relationships from the past. That isn't to say that I get bored more so that I tend to be far more careful than I used to be with jumping into things head over heels nowadays.

You can blame women from my past for jading me in the future, but whoever I do marry will have the very best of me on all levels. I will give her my all, and hopefully that will be good enough for her to want to keep it going throughout our lives. I just expect the same from her on the same token. I don't want to marry someone that is unwilling to give her all to me as much as I would give to her. I guess I get bored of the ones that can't do that for me for whatever reasons they may have.

Is that a better explanation? :)
 

Pheonix

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LOL i'm glad you're not married or you would be in trouble if she saw this. wouldn't have to worry about sleeping next to a "hideous creature" for a while lol
I actually meant it from both sides. I'm no work of art in the morning either.

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lil-rush

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There is no such thing as a fairytale....

Love is a choice you make every single day when you wake up in the morning and suddenly find you've been sleeping next to a hideous creature.
minus the hideous creature part (lol), I agree. Love is definitely a choice, and no matter what your spouse does, it is always your own responsibility to choose to either love your spouse or discontinue loving him/her.
 
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Rissa77

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one of the married couples i know will stop at random moments and say.. "i like you". they also say it when they're angry, after a fight, and before they go to sleep. they know they love each other. they just want to make sure they like each other too.
 

DinoDillinger

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Love is not a choice, love is what causes you to make the choice.
 

Wonderland

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Love is not a choice, love is what causes you to make the choice.
Are you married DinoDillinger? Because I disagree. There are some days when I truly resent (and dare I say, "hate") my husband, but I still choose to be patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, rude, self seeking or delighting in evil, but rejoicing with truth, always trusting, always hoping, and ALWAYS persevering. Those are the choices I make, and that is the definition of love (1 Corinthians 13).

Love is a choice.
 

DinoDillinger

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Are you married DinoDillinger? Because I disagree. There are some days when I truly resent (and dare I say, "hate") my husband, but I still choose to be patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, rude, self seeking or delighting in evil, but rejoicing with truth, always trusting, always hoping, and ALWAYS persevering. Those are the choices I make, and that is the definition of love (1 Corinthians 13).

Love is a choice.
I am not married lol, but I will hold to my point and say that those are all manifestations of love but if you treat someone with grace all the time and your heart is cold towards them, it's not love in my book. Infact, that would make us pharissees. I'm not implying that you are in anyway, just making a point. :)
 

Wonderland

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Alright, well somedays I will ask my husband "Do you love me?" and he will say "Yes." and I will say "Why?" and he will say "Because I choose to." and that makes me happy.

Some days he doesn't "feel" love for me, but he chooses to love me anyway. The same is true for me towards him. That is why we are still married.

Be blessed.
 
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jimmydiggs

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Would I marry myself?

Well, if it was myself, marrying myself, I doubt there would be any complaints. Perfect match.

Would anyone else marry me? Pshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Wishful thinking....

I belch and fart and don't care, I spit phlegm up wherever I am and I don't care. Ain't gunna change for no one.

I have a beard too. A lot of the women folk I've met don't like beards. Don't plan to get rid of it either.

I'd imagine I'm pretty hard to get along with. I always say, "hey, will you do me a favor, get me a glass of water" when someone asks me to get them a glass? unless they are a special case... "psssh get your own you lazy bum"

I hold some double standards.
 

Wonderland

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Well Jimmy, that is fine as long as you don't mind being single. Or having no friends, either :)

Hahaha
 
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jimmydiggs

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Well Jimmy, that is fine as long as you don't mind being single. Or having no friends, either :)

Hahaha
So far I have both accomplished. Just fine that way, I'm a bit anti-social in some ways.

I'd love to have a cabin in Minnesota in the middle of the woods, with a few guns for when the wildlife gets curious. I'd love it.
 
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So far I have both accomplished. Just fine that way, I'm a bit anti-social in some ways.

I'd love to have a cabin in Minnesota in the middle of the woods, with a few guns for when the wildlife gets curious. I'd love it.
I hear you. I've always wanted to have a modular home in the middle of nowhere, near the mountains. Somewhere secluded on acres of my own land.
 

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I hear the both of ya. I've always wanted a house boat.

 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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hahaha I dont think that had anything to do with it... but do give me your opinion. Should i change my name to Zelda Xox? Thats what her name was and she seems like a perfectly rational person
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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redeemed7

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I'm actually dressed like that right now, so no changes need to be made. Everyone knows men are to blame for everything!
Yeah, I know it. Thank goodness Hilary didn't get elected, we wouldn't be able to blame her for anything.

Proof of the Zelda costume or get the heck out ;)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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you want proof FINE HERE IS PROOF