Having been a former PK, I grew up being neither totally rebelious or a goody two shoes. You can ask my mom on that, I was not one at all. Instead, I was somewhere in between. A lot of people think PK are rebelious without realizing why It's the CHURCH. The church places tooooooooooo much pressure on PK, thinking they have to be the ultimate role model for every kid, even those who are several years older then them. If they don't want to do participate in children's choir, well too bad, your the PK, or the Worship Minister's kid, or the Youth Pastor's kid, so you get no choice. You MUST do what the CHURCH insist. You CAN'T be an individual and have your own opinions or desires. If a PK, WK, MK, or YK does anything wrong, it quite often becomes over dramatized. That's why so many feel want nothing to do with the church.
I'll give you a few examples. Some of you may recall me mentioning this several years ago. My sister told me of a situation that happened to my brother, several year before I was born. My dad was on call for a church and my brother was about 2, and acting like a typical 2 year old. The Sunday School teacher scolded him and told him he had to be a role model for all the other children, because he was the Preacher's son. At another church, there was this older lady who blamed my brother for everything that happened that was bad at the church. Including her falling on the stairs, despite the fact that he was nowhere near her.
At another church, a few years ago, I was working in the Children's music ministry and recall a woman being upset that the Worship Minister didn't force his daughter to participate in Children's Choir, because she thought it made him look bad. And she didn't care that the child might not want to sing. All she cared about was about how it made him look. At that moment, the girl became a nonhuman.
Kids need to be allowed to make mistakes. That's how the learn and grow. And when they are forced to play the perfect little child, then they become resentful.
I'll give you a few examples. Some of you may recall me mentioning this several years ago. My sister told me of a situation that happened to my brother, several year before I was born. My dad was on call for a church and my brother was about 2, and acting like a typical 2 year old. The Sunday School teacher scolded him and told him he had to be a role model for all the other children, because he was the Preacher's son. At another church, there was this older lady who blamed my brother for everything that happened that was bad at the church. Including her falling on the stairs, despite the fact that he was nowhere near her.
At another church, a few years ago, I was working in the Children's music ministry and recall a woman being upset that the Worship Minister didn't force his daughter to participate in Children's Choir, because she thought it made him look bad. And she didn't care that the child might not want to sing. All she cared about was about how it made him look. At that moment, the girl became a nonhuman.
Kids need to be allowed to make mistakes. That's how the learn and grow. And when they are forced to play the perfect little child, then they become resentful.
