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For cryin' out loud, Monnkai, it wouldn't ruin your life. Quit worrying about something trivial like people finding out you do what 88% (or thereabouts) of the rest of the men in the world also do.
What you SHOULD be doing is considering the effect it is having on you as a person... and your relationships with women. Either you are serious about quitting, or you aren't. It's not a biggie. You just have to make up your mind.
The book Violet showed on her post #26 is one of the best things I have found in 26 years now (24, working officially) of helping men learn to deal with this.
What you SHOULD be doing is considering the effect it is having on you as a person... and your relationships with women. Either you are serious about quitting, or you aren't. It's not a biggie. You just have to make up your mind.
The book Violet showed on her post #26 is one of the best things I have found in 26 years now (24, working officially) of helping men learn to deal with this.
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14 years of addiction. Wow. I feel you. Simply saying "stop watching it" does not help at all. I know. Okay here, see, the reason why getting back with Christ doesn't seem to fix it for you is because of the condemnation you feel every time every day. I doubt, right now, you can truly believe you are forgiven. See, there's this mental nagging that tells you, you have to be clean before coming back to God. That you have to be acceptable before God before He rescues you. That you have to, at least, not watch porn for a day or weeks or months before God answers your cries for freedom. This is a great lie, okay? Just as you are right now, a great sinner (and possibly the worst sinner you can think of right now) Jesus died for you. Would you believe that He loves you JUST THE SAME, even while you are sinning. Even when you just came from another porn site now, He loves you just the same. This is the first truth that will break this bondage in your life. This is how you come clean with God, FAITH that His work on the Cross (forgiveness of your sin) is bigger than your sin. So much bigger that it covers everyone else's.
The best thing that drives addiction away is the constant knowledge of God's forgiveness. But you must be willing to do these steps, I will suggest, okay? These steps are simple but you must make this a priority. I won't tell you to stop watching porn cause that seriously doesn't help at all. Instead, start a habit of faith. Faith in God's grace will do the works of breaking your addiction, not your own effort. Clear? You gotta understand this clearly. This is simple truth but condemnation will try to blind you. Don't worry though, as long as you continue to read, this is truth (Grace through faith) that will set you free. This will plant a seed in your heart.
So going back, faith in Jesus' is the short answer. But you don't get faith by saying "I already know that." There's a difference in knowing and having faith. Even demons know who Jesus is and what He did to save us. Faith, my friend, comes by hearing. I know for sure, you have stopped listening to His Word (with an open heart, at least) because of this religious order that you must first have something fantastic happen to you that clearly shows Jesus forgave you, or that you have to have emotional breakdown before Jesus hears your cry. Dude the God we serve, isn't surprised by your porn addiction. He knew this forever ago and still chose to die for you. Jesus doesn't care what you've done. To put it simply. Let that sink in.
Going back to faith (i keep getting distracted, sorry) the only thing that I would suggest you get addicted to, to replace your current addiction to porn, is to start hearing from Word - this builds up your faith and will do the works of cutting off addiction. How to hear from the Word of God? I can give you countless ways. But know that, and always remember that, you can start this right now (regardless of what mental and emotional state you're in or what you've done 5 mins ago) and you will be free.
Okay, now the specifics, read your bible and start with the gospel of John. We're building up your faith again so we're back to basic: Jesus the Man. Well you can always read the other gospels, but mind you, reading through the genealogies of Matthew 1, may just bore you to decay. But hey whatever works for you. The point is, get something to build up your faith. Start a daily devotional and pray or, here's the fastest way that I know: listen to audio sermons
there's tons of audio sermons from known preachers about Jesus' grace. Actually, my own pastor preaches a lot about breaking free by grace through faith. You got a phone? You can listen anytime or anywhere either to audio sermons OR audio bibles (ESV audio by YouVersion). You can use your drive time to listen. Remember, the point is building up faith (by hearing from the Word of God) in Jesus and letting His grace do the work of breaking your addiction.
Okay, that was long. I hope I didnt sound like a mother. But bruh, I know how freaking bad it feels, condemnation eats the life out of anyone. And I sincerely believe that once you start focusing on Jesus again, you will have that complete freedom that I now enjoy. Every addict's dream.
The best thing that drives addiction away is the constant knowledge of God's forgiveness. But you must be willing to do these steps, I will suggest, okay? These steps are simple but you must make this a priority. I won't tell you to stop watching porn cause that seriously doesn't help at all. Instead, start a habit of faith. Faith in God's grace will do the works of breaking your addiction, not your own effort. Clear? You gotta understand this clearly. This is simple truth but condemnation will try to blind you. Don't worry though, as long as you continue to read, this is truth (Grace through faith) that will set you free. This will plant a seed in your heart.
So going back, faith in Jesus' is the short answer. But you don't get faith by saying "I already know that." There's a difference in knowing and having faith. Even demons know who Jesus is and what He did to save us. Faith, my friend, comes by hearing. I know for sure, you have stopped listening to His Word (with an open heart, at least) because of this religious order that you must first have something fantastic happen to you that clearly shows Jesus forgave you, or that you have to have emotional breakdown before Jesus hears your cry. Dude the God we serve, isn't surprised by your porn addiction. He knew this forever ago and still chose to die for you. Jesus doesn't care what you've done. To put it simply. Let that sink in.
Going back to faith (i keep getting distracted, sorry) the only thing that I would suggest you get addicted to, to replace your current addiction to porn, is to start hearing from Word - this builds up your faith and will do the works of cutting off addiction. How to hear from the Word of God? I can give you countless ways. But know that, and always remember that, you can start this right now (regardless of what mental and emotional state you're in or what you've done 5 mins ago) and you will be free.
Okay, now the specifics, read your bible and start with the gospel of John. We're building up your faith again so we're back to basic: Jesus the Man. Well you can always read the other gospels, but mind you, reading through the genealogies of Matthew 1, may just bore you to decay. But hey whatever works for you. The point is, get something to build up your faith. Start a daily devotional and pray or, here's the fastest way that I know: listen to audio sermons
there's tons of audio sermons from known preachers about Jesus' grace. Actually, my own pastor preaches a lot about breaking free by grace through faith. You got a phone? You can listen anytime or anywhere either to audio sermons OR audio bibles (ESV audio by YouVersion). You can use your drive time to listen. Remember, the point is building up faith (by hearing from the Word of God) in Jesus and letting His grace do the work of breaking your addiction. Okay, that was long. I hope I didnt sound like a mother. But bruh, I know how freaking bad it feels, condemnation eats the life out of anyone. And I sincerely believe that once you start focusing on Jesus again, you will have that complete freedom that I now enjoy
. Every addict's dream.
Did I say he should have sex with his girlfriend? Maybe I should have said: Get a wife. Do her. Then you'll be free off any sexual sin. This also applies to EVERY straight male.
Listen, sex happens for believers and nonbelievers.
Shame on me. I'm sorry for being who I am.
Just pray and hope God helps you?
Wut...?
Maybe you should pray for the strength to stop viewing your desired fetish. And use your willpower to the best of your ability to just stop yourself.
Try and ease off it for a day.
Then try two.
Then try three.
If you fail, don't beat yourself about it.
Just try not to view it.
Listen, sex happens for believers and nonbelievers.
Shame on me. I'm sorry for being who I am.
Just pray and hope God helps you?
Wut...?
Maybe you should pray for the strength to stop viewing your desired fetish. And use your willpower to the best of your ability to just stop yourself.
Try and ease off it for a day.
Then try two.
Then try three.
If you fail, don't beat yourself about it.
Just try not to view it.
14 years of addiction. Wow. I feel you. Simply saying "stop watching it" does not help at all. I know. Okay here, see, the reason why getting back with Christ doesn't seem to fix it for you is because of the condemnation you feel every time every day. I doubt, right now, you can truly believe you are forgiven. See, there's this mental nagging that tells you, you have to be clean before coming back to God. That you have to be acceptable before God before He rescues you. That you have to, at least, not watch porn for a day or weeks or months before God answers your cries for freedom. This is a great lie, okay? Just as you are right now, a great sinner (and possibly the worst sinner you can think of right now) Jesus died for you. Would you believe that He loves you JUST THE SAME, even while you are sinning. Even when you just came from another porn site now, He loves you just the same. This is the first truth that will break this bondage in your life. This is how you come clean with God, FAITH that His work on the Cross (forgiveness of your sin) is bigger than your sin. So much bigger that it covers everyone else's.
The best thing that drives addiction away is the constant knowledge of God's forgiveness. But you must be willing to do these steps, I will suggest, okay? These steps are simple but you must make this a priority. I won't tell you to stop watching porn cause that seriously doesn't help at all. Instead, start a habit of faith. Faith in God's grace will do the works of breaking your addiction, not your own effort. Clear? You gotta understand this clearly. This is simple truth but condemnation will try to blind you. Don't worry though, as long as you continue to read, this is truth (Grace through faith) that will set you free. This will plant a seed in your heart.
So going back, faith in Jesus' is the short answer. But you don't get faith by saying "I already know that." There's a difference in knowing and having faith. Even demons know who Jesus is and what He did to save us. Faith, my friend, comes by hearing. I know for sure, you have stopped listening to His Word (with an open heart, at least) because of this religious order that you must first have something fantastic happen to you that clearly shows Jesus forgave you, or that you have to have emotional breakdown before Jesus hears your cry. Dude the God we serve, isn't surprised by your porn addiction. He knew this forever ago and still chose to die for you. Jesus doesn't care what you've done. To put it simply. Let that sink in.
Going back to faith (i keep getting distracted, sorry) the only thing that I would suggest you get addicted to, to replace your current addiction to porn, is to start hearing from Word - this builds up your faith and will do the works of cutting off addiction. How to hear from the Word of God? I can give you countless ways. But know that, and always remember that, you can start this right now (regardless of what mental and emotional state you're in or what you've done 5 mins ago) and you will be free.
Okay, now the specifics, read your bible and start with the gospel of John. We're building up your faith again so we're back to basic: Jesus the Man. Well you can always read the other gospels, but mind you, reading through the genealogies of Matthew 1, may just bore you to decay. But hey whatever works for you. The point is, get something to build up your faith. Start a daily devotional and pray or, here's the fastest way that I know: listen to audio sermons there's tons of audio sermons from known preachers about Jesus' grace. Actually, my own pastor preaches a lot about breaking free by grace through faith. You got a phone? You can listen anytime or anywhere either to audio sermons OR audio bibles (ESV audio by YouVersion). You can use your drive time to listen. Remember, the point is building up faith (by hearing from the Word of God) in Jesus and letting His grace do the work of breaking your addiction.
Okay, that was long. I hope I didnt sound like a mother. But bruh, I know how freaking bad it feels, condemnation eats the life out of anyone. And I sincerely believe that once you start focusing on Jesus again, you will have that complete freedom that I now enjoy. Every addict's dream.
The best thing that drives addiction away is the constant knowledge of God's forgiveness. But you must be willing to do these steps, I will suggest, okay? These steps are simple but you must make this a priority. I won't tell you to stop watching porn cause that seriously doesn't help at all. Instead, start a habit of faith. Faith in God's grace will do the works of breaking your addiction, not your own effort. Clear? You gotta understand this clearly. This is simple truth but condemnation will try to blind you. Don't worry though, as long as you continue to read, this is truth (Grace through faith) that will set you free. This will plant a seed in your heart.
So going back, faith in Jesus' is the short answer. But you don't get faith by saying "I already know that." There's a difference in knowing and having faith. Even demons know who Jesus is and what He did to save us. Faith, my friend, comes by hearing. I know for sure, you have stopped listening to His Word (with an open heart, at least) because of this religious order that you must first have something fantastic happen to you that clearly shows Jesus forgave you, or that you have to have emotional breakdown before Jesus hears your cry. Dude the God we serve, isn't surprised by your porn addiction. He knew this forever ago and still chose to die for you. Jesus doesn't care what you've done. To put it simply. Let that sink in.
Going back to faith (i keep getting distracted, sorry) the only thing that I would suggest you get addicted to, to replace your current addiction to porn, is to start hearing from Word - this builds up your faith and will do the works of cutting off addiction. How to hear from the Word of God? I can give you countless ways. But know that, and always remember that, you can start this right now (regardless of what mental and emotional state you're in or what you've done 5 mins ago) and you will be free.
Okay, now the specifics, read your bible and start with the gospel of John. We're building up your faith again so we're back to basic: Jesus the Man. Well you can always read the other gospels, but mind you, reading through the genealogies of Matthew 1, may just bore you to decay. But hey whatever works for you. The point is, get something to build up your faith. Start a daily devotional and pray or, here's the fastest way that I know: listen to audio sermons
there's tons of audio sermons from known preachers about Jesus' grace. Actually, my own pastor preaches a lot about breaking free by grace through faith. You got a phone? You can listen anytime or anywhere either to audio sermons OR audio bibles (ESV audio by YouVersion). You can use your drive time to listen. Remember, the point is building up faith (by hearing from the Word of God) in Jesus and letting His grace do the work of breaking your addiction. Okay, that was long. I hope I didnt sound like a mother. But bruh, I know how freaking bad it feels, condemnation eats the life out of anyone. And I sincerely believe that once you start focusing on Jesus again, you will have that complete freedom that I now enjoy
. Every addict's dream.
Read the PDF at the link I just posted a few minutes ago.
http://www.consciouslivingfoundation.org/ebooks/Allen, James - As A Man Thinketh.pdf
http://www.consciouslivingfoundation.org/ebooks/Allen, James - As A Man Thinketh.pdf
Just in case you don't read the PDF, here is the opening poem:
As a Man Thinketh
by: James Allen
Mind is the Master power that molds and makes,
And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes
The tool of Thought, and, shaping what he wills,
Brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills:--
He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass:
Environment is but his looking-glass.
As a Man Thinketh
by: James Allen
Mind is the Master power that molds and makes,
And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes
The tool of Thought, and, shaping what he wills,
Brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills:--
He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass:
Environment is but his looking-glass.
Monnkai, here's a little tongue in cheek bit I put out for those in sexual issues. It helps some, glean from it what you may.
http://christianchat.com/blogs/rickyz/4636-sexuality-god.html
I would suggest what I do... when you're tempted come here, promising yourself that if after 30 minutes of putting your mind on God you're still being tempted go ahead. I'm still here, hopefully you will be too.
http://christianchat.com/blogs/rickyz/4636-sexuality-god.html
I would suggest what I do... when you're tempted come here, promising yourself that if after 30 minutes of putting your mind on God you're still being tempted go ahead. I'm still here, hopefully you will be too.