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Ok... so I've seen a lot of questions of why girls play hard to get. Lemme give my perspective on things... hope this helps (even though I'm not a girl, who were the ones you wanted to answer your question)...
There's a really big reason for playing hard to get, and it's definitely not just women that do it. I have my own theory, which I call the "push/pull syndrome".
Here's basically what it means. The easier someone is to get, the less attractive they are. The harder it is for someone to get, the more attractive they are.
Why? Because... everyone want's what they can't have!
A lot of women naturally play games... mind games... relationship games... same thing. They play games. I hate them, but I've also learned to play them back, only because I've dated so many "bad" women in my life. I've always dated the "hard to get" beautiful on the outside women who are bad on the inside. My reason? I have the same reasons that women are attracted to jerks. I always wanted what I perceived I couldn't have, and once I got them, I wanted to be able to be the hero and change them into better people. This of course never works, but I still tried over and over again, until I eventually learned some pretty hard lessons.
Anyway, women play hard to get so that you chase them. Some women love to be chased as much as some men love the chase as well. Women play hard to get so that it forces you to be even more attracted to them than you normally would be. They seem unattainable, and human nature drives us to WANT that. We all want what we think we can't have. The problem is, once you get it, you realize that this really isn't what you wanted! Either way, women are VERY VERY VERY good at mind games.
A lot of these bad women that I would date, I've learned from past ones how to handle them. I do not recommend dating these type of women at all, because despite how beautiful and attractive they are physically, they are really really unattractive people on the inside (in most cases). Anyway, here is basically my unconscious way of doing it... hopefully you just don't use this in the wrong way.
When a girl plays hard to get, do it back. If she pulls away from you, don't chase her. Don't follow her like a lost puppy in hopes that she will find you cute and come running to your side. That doesn't work. It makes you look weak, and it makes you vulnerable. These "bad girl" women will eat you alive. You have to pull back too. You basically have to make them think that YOU are the one that is unattainable, not them. You have to make them think that they are NOT better than you, that they are NOT on a pedestal, that they are NOT out of your league. They WANT you to think that, and they will stick their nose in the air, but you have to make sure they drop down to earth. How do you do this? Be a jerk... not in a mean spirited way, but in a way that the normal "jerk alpha male" guys do it.
What do I mean by that? It's simple. If a girl does her little nose in the air thing when you approach her, do it back. Look her up and down judgementally almost, and act like she isn't really up to your standards. Kind of... give her the cold shoulder... the way that she gave to you. For whatever reason, this attracts them. Women are insane, but they always want the guy they can't have. It doesn't matter what he looks like or who he is. They want the jerk, because they view him as unattainable.
Anyway, when she plays hard to get, play it back. If she gives you her number, don't call her. She will call you. Once she does, be friendly and nice, and act like you are interested, but don't call her the next day. Make sure she keeps contacting you, like you don't need her in your life and couldn't care less if she was or not. When she calls, act normal. Don't be cold or anything when she calls, but just don't call her. Don't give her any extra special attention that you wouldn't give to any average girl. Just be yourself and be normal about it... and overall.. just make her chase you.
That's basically the best way to handle those types of girls. You flip flop their game around on them. If they play games with you, play them 10 times harder and 10 times better. Teach them that playing games doesn't pay off.
Every girl that I dated that was a "bad girl" type, I already told them that. I told them "listen... I HATE relationship/mind games... and I HATE playing them. I ask that you just be 100% real and honest with me, and things will go great! If you DO play those games with me, I will play them back 10 times harder and better and you will regret it." At least you are honest with them at that point. They will understand, although they won't listen.
What will they do? They will try to play games. Be normal and everything up until that point. Once they do that? Do exactly what you promised. Don't call, text, or give her the time of day. Make her call and text you a bunch before you respond, and respond in short one sentence texts. Give her the cold shoulder, and she will break down and realize her mistake. Either way, she learns her lesson, and she will start becoming honest and real. Those type of girls have really hard times doing that, because they are so used to men just treating them like queens and giving them everything. Treat them like they are just normal people, that they don't deserve special attention just for being pretty, and they will respect you for it. They will start to be real and honest for the first time in their lives.
Anyway, I highly recommend you don't date any of those girls. They are emotional train wrecks, and despite your friends saying "Great catch" to you about how pretty she is, you will NOT be happy with her. She will seriously mess with your head and make life miserable, because the fact of the matter is, SHE is miserable. Women that are fake like that are NOT happy with themselves. They are insecure and emotional to the very core of their being. Some of them can be real sweethearts once you break down their "nose in the air" passade, but then they become these vulnerable little kittens that have been walked on a thousand times by other jerks in their lives.
It's really sad, but I honestly think women that do that type of stuff only do it to defend themselves. They are the types that have been in abusive after abusive relationships, because they have always dated the "alpha" male jerk types, and those types really do not care whatsoever about these women. They treat them like dirt, and they have no remorse over it. It really screws up the girl's head, and in turn, she treats all men like dirt in turn. It's a rotating door mentality, but that's why they do it. Don't date them unless you really want to live a stressful life with a girl that will probably end up cheating on you due to her insecurities and inability to feel loved.
Anyway, that's my two cents. That's how you handle women like that, but I don't recommend even trying. As we are all Christians here, I've learned a valuable lesson in my life. Do your best to date the "nice girl" christian women, even if they are very hard to find. They are the girls you want to bring home to your parents and marry. Your friends won't give compliments all the time on how "hot" she is, but you will be far happier in your relationship and in life overall. The "hotness" factor of those "out of your league" women wear off over time while dating them anyway.
Hope this helps.
There's a really big reason for playing hard to get, and it's definitely not just women that do it. I have my own theory, which I call the "push/pull syndrome".
Here's basically what it means. The easier someone is to get, the less attractive they are. The harder it is for someone to get, the more attractive they are.
Why? Because... everyone want's what they can't have!
A lot of women naturally play games... mind games... relationship games... same thing. They play games. I hate them, but I've also learned to play them back, only because I've dated so many "bad" women in my life. I've always dated the "hard to get" beautiful on the outside women who are bad on the inside. My reason? I have the same reasons that women are attracted to jerks. I always wanted what I perceived I couldn't have, and once I got them, I wanted to be able to be the hero and change them into better people. This of course never works, but I still tried over and over again, until I eventually learned some pretty hard lessons.
Anyway, women play hard to get so that you chase them. Some women love to be chased as much as some men love the chase as well. Women play hard to get so that it forces you to be even more attracted to them than you normally would be. They seem unattainable, and human nature drives us to WANT that. We all want what we think we can't have. The problem is, once you get it, you realize that this really isn't what you wanted! Either way, women are VERY VERY VERY good at mind games.
A lot of these bad women that I would date, I've learned from past ones how to handle them. I do not recommend dating these type of women at all, because despite how beautiful and attractive they are physically, they are really really unattractive people on the inside (in most cases). Anyway, here is basically my unconscious way of doing it... hopefully you just don't use this in the wrong way.
When a girl plays hard to get, do it back. If she pulls away from you, don't chase her. Don't follow her like a lost puppy in hopes that she will find you cute and come running to your side. That doesn't work. It makes you look weak, and it makes you vulnerable. These "bad girl" women will eat you alive. You have to pull back too. You basically have to make them think that YOU are the one that is unattainable, not them. You have to make them think that they are NOT better than you, that they are NOT on a pedestal, that they are NOT out of your league. They WANT you to think that, and they will stick their nose in the air, but you have to make sure they drop down to earth. How do you do this? Be a jerk... not in a mean spirited way, but in a way that the normal "jerk alpha male" guys do it.
What do I mean by that? It's simple. If a girl does her little nose in the air thing when you approach her, do it back. Look her up and down judgementally almost, and act like she isn't really up to your standards. Kind of... give her the cold shoulder... the way that she gave to you. For whatever reason, this attracts them. Women are insane, but they always want the guy they can't have. It doesn't matter what he looks like or who he is. They want the jerk, because they view him as unattainable.
Anyway, when she plays hard to get, play it back. If she gives you her number, don't call her. She will call you. Once she does, be friendly and nice, and act like you are interested, but don't call her the next day. Make sure she keeps contacting you, like you don't need her in your life and couldn't care less if she was or not. When she calls, act normal. Don't be cold or anything when she calls, but just don't call her. Don't give her any extra special attention that you wouldn't give to any average girl. Just be yourself and be normal about it... and overall.. just make her chase you.
That's basically the best way to handle those types of girls. You flip flop their game around on them. If they play games with you, play them 10 times harder and 10 times better. Teach them that playing games doesn't pay off.
Every girl that I dated that was a "bad girl" type, I already told them that. I told them "listen... I HATE relationship/mind games... and I HATE playing them. I ask that you just be 100% real and honest with me, and things will go great! If you DO play those games with me, I will play them back 10 times harder and better and you will regret it." At least you are honest with them at that point. They will understand, although they won't listen.
What will they do? They will try to play games. Be normal and everything up until that point. Once they do that? Do exactly what you promised. Don't call, text, or give her the time of day. Make her call and text you a bunch before you respond, and respond in short one sentence texts. Give her the cold shoulder, and she will break down and realize her mistake. Either way, she learns her lesson, and she will start becoming honest and real. Those type of girls have really hard times doing that, because they are so used to men just treating them like queens and giving them everything. Treat them like they are just normal people, that they don't deserve special attention just for being pretty, and they will respect you for it. They will start to be real and honest for the first time in their lives.
Anyway, I highly recommend you don't date any of those girls. They are emotional train wrecks, and despite your friends saying "Great catch" to you about how pretty she is, you will NOT be happy with her. She will seriously mess with your head and make life miserable, because the fact of the matter is, SHE is miserable. Women that are fake like that are NOT happy with themselves. They are insecure and emotional to the very core of their being. Some of them can be real sweethearts once you break down their "nose in the air" passade, but then they become these vulnerable little kittens that have been walked on a thousand times by other jerks in their lives.
It's really sad, but I honestly think women that do that type of stuff only do it to defend themselves. They are the types that have been in abusive after abusive relationships, because they have always dated the "alpha" male jerk types, and those types really do not care whatsoever about these women. They treat them like dirt, and they have no remorse over it. It really screws up the girl's head, and in turn, she treats all men like dirt in turn. It's a rotating door mentality, but that's why they do it. Don't date them unless you really want to live a stressful life with a girl that will probably end up cheating on you due to her insecurities and inability to feel loved.
Anyway, that's my two cents. That's how you handle women like that, but I don't recommend even trying. As we are all Christians here, I've learned a valuable lesson in my life. Do your best to date the "nice girl" christian women, even if they are very hard to find. They are the girls you want to bring home to your parents and marry. Your friends won't give compliments all the time on how "hot" she is, but you will be far happier in your relationship and in life overall. The "hotness" factor of those "out of your league" women wear off over time while dating them anyway.
Hope this helps.
