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I don't think there is a right or wrong answer here. It simply comes down to the two people involved. For some it can work, for some it won't. I don't think there is anything wrong with it starting online. It has to move to in person eventually though if it's going to lead to marriage. *That last sentence was brought to you by Captain Obvious. Tada!*
There are pros and cons to online communication too. When you're typing you can take time to think, etc. more which puts some people at ease and makes it easier to get to know who they are. It's a good way for shy people to move forward easier I'd say. Of course voice and video add to the experience.
If you just talk to the person one on one all the time, you don't really know how they interact with others. Plus, you do miss things online... obviously.
All that said, I always tell people to be careful...especially you ladies. Some people are great deceivers and liars. I've had two female friends who were both setup for sexual assaults by guys they thought were nice, trustworthy, etc. etc. they met online first. One of those was most definitely very much premeditaded. It's quite sickening actually...especially the things he did before. Lets just say he used a bogus relationship with God as part of his plan. So there is need to be cautious. These things happen and aren't just myths.
I do realize bad things like that happen that don't start online. It's just it can be easier to hide things online as well as lie.
There are pros and cons to online communication too. When you're typing you can take time to think, etc. more which puts some people at ease and makes it easier to get to know who they are. It's a good way for shy people to move forward easier I'd say. Of course voice and video add to the experience.
If you just talk to the person one on one all the time, you don't really know how they interact with others. Plus, you do miss things online... obviously.
All that said, I always tell people to be careful...especially you ladies. Some people are great deceivers and liars. I've had two female friends who were both setup for sexual assaults by guys they thought were nice, trustworthy, etc. etc. they met online first. One of those was most definitely very much premeditaded. It's quite sickening actually...especially the things he did before. Lets just say he used a bogus relationship with God as part of his plan. So there is need to be cautious. These things happen and aren't just myths.
I do realize bad things like that happen that don't start online. It's just it can be easier to hide things online as well as lie.
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I think Gentlemanbob is right, it can work! A few of my own friends hAve met their spouses online. It is like everything else you just have to be careful and that's online or in a coffee shop. But, it's not everyone's cuppa
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One thing that does come to mind is the stories often told during WII. A couple would meet then no sooner had they met than the guy was of back to war, maybe for over a year etc.
So even after typing all that I'm still not sure lol, but God always leads!
I think Gentlemanbob is right, it can work! A few of my own friends hAve met their spouses online. It is like everything else you just have to be careful and that's online or in a coffee shop. But, it's not everyone's cuppa
.One thing that does come to mind is the stories often told during WII. A couple would meet then no sooner had they met than the guy was of back to war, maybe for over a year etc.
So even after typing all that I'm still not sure lol, but God always leads!
S
This is really true Bob. Update on the guy I met online--it turns out he WAS deceptive (older than his post indicated), and his photo was several years old (perhaps as much as 10-15 yrs old....??? not sure...).
Anyway, things did not continue for more than a single coffee meeting at a cafe because of religious differences, primarily. HOWEVER I did find out that he was a wonderful, warm, energetic, giving human being and I do not regret the time spent talking with him through the internet dating site, texting and phone calls. If he had told me his real age to begin with, I never would have given him the time of day, most likely. I am NOT--I REPEAT--NOT advocating that people EVER misrepresent their age or display old photos, etc to decieve others. My only point is that he really was a nice person and as Bob said in his post, I found out he had a "beautiful heart" ....
ETA: It was still frustrating to find these things out after the fact though--Lesson learned: always be honest and expect honesty from others, check things out with wisdom and a critical eye for discrepancies, ask questions and be prepared for the worst, yet hope for the best, have NO expectations that people really are who they say they are online and that way--never be disappointed.
Anyway, things did not continue for more than a single coffee meeting at a cafe because of religious differences, primarily. HOWEVER I did find out that he was a wonderful, warm, energetic, giving human being and I do not regret the time spent talking with him through the internet dating site, texting and phone calls. If he had told me his real age to begin with, I never would have given him the time of day, most likely. I am NOT--I REPEAT--NOT advocating that people EVER misrepresent their age or display old photos, etc to decieve others. My only point is that he really was a nice person and as Bob said in his post, I found out he had a "beautiful heart" ....
ETA: It was still frustrating to find these things out after the fact though--Lesson learned: always be honest and expect honesty from others, check things out with wisdom and a critical eye for discrepancies, ask questions and be prepared for the worst, yet hope for the best, have NO expectations that people really are who they say they are online and that way--never be disappointed.
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look at MauiJosh and Mezmer eyes - totally worked for them..I remember seein josh say hi to jen in the main room bout 6 months ago and thought hanggg on somethings goin on here..then like 3 weeks ago I saw pics of them when they met finally..they looked proper happy and suited , and most likley have a bright future, then again there's the fail aspect and if it ends in disaster..thats alot of time and money wasted, and I guess I never thought about the hidden thing before:O! so true!
somethings goin on here..then like 3 weeks ago I saw pics of them when they met finally..they looked proper happy and suited , and most likley have a bright future, then again there's the fail aspect and if it ends in disaster..thats alot of time and money wasted, and I guess I never thought about the hidden thing before:O! so true!
I knew a few people back when I went to church who had met their spouses through the internet. And I've dabbled in online dating before. It can work out but I personally am not a fan of it. I'd rather have the person nearby. I will say though that it does occasionally work out so it's not a terribly bad idea.
B
There are "trolls" or people ex men giving out false information and details and dating although they might be married "IRL".
What they give you is then their charachter person for a while, some lies and then they move on usually unless they decide to keep you on the side.
Have heard that happens a lot.
But so is not always the case.
Internet can be a great place to meet new friends and partner.
I met my best friend on internet and we chatted just about every day for 3 yrs.
We used webcamera after a few months and then almost always used webcam.
Left sweet notes on forum to eachother like a nice picture and "have a nice day" (to send smile etc...)
We joked, laughed.
I got this computer given to me from him.
We continued to chatt when I moved to Australia and he lived in sweden.
he was my only friend my person had and my best friend.
So 2 yrs ago a horrible female came into his life and after that my computer has been hacked and I have not been able to chatt with him properly.
After 3 yrs of chatt we met but it was awkward as it felt like he was "not with me" but with her...in thought, spirit etc
I wasnt myself that period we met and perhaps he was not either.We didnt connect or have chemistry as such that point in time.
I was disapointed, but also felt a bit letdown that he wasnt "with me".....when with me.....
We chatted the other day.
Its not how it used to be nor is it often but I got to hear him laugh and thats priceless.
We webcammed and I played "guitar" with my braces bands.He laughed then.
I crewchetted a wierd lookin hat and sent to his adress.
My computer has been empty and not good last 2 yrs but its getting better......
Things like that are priceless "wish you a good day" and picture of flower.I used to give him a virtual buket of flowers once a week.
But we aint been having any of that.
Look 4ward to chatting, caming.......one does that when in good relationship and makes happy see and chatt with them.
True what you say about seeing inside the person and who they really are.....
seeing beyond their looks in body, seeng deeper, getting to know someone.....
I beleive relationships can work however one meets or communicates and with distance also.
One can still be 2gether in spirit even if ones bodies will hangout as such "later on"......
Theres many ways.
What they give you is then their charachter person for a while, some lies and then they move on usually unless they decide to keep you on the side.
Have heard that happens a lot.
But so is not always the case.
Internet can be a great place to meet new friends and partner.
I met my best friend on internet and we chatted just about every day for 3 yrs.
We used webcamera after a few months and then almost always used webcam.
Left sweet notes on forum to eachother like a nice picture and "have a nice day" (to send smile etc...)
We joked, laughed.
I got this computer given to me from him.
We continued to chatt when I moved to Australia and he lived in sweden.
he was my only friend my person had and my best friend.
So 2 yrs ago a horrible female came into his life and after that my computer has been hacked and I have not been able to chatt with him properly.
After 3 yrs of chatt we met but it was awkward as it felt like he was "not with me" but with her...in thought, spirit etc
I wasnt myself that period we met and perhaps he was not either.We didnt connect or have chemistry as such that point in time.
I was disapointed, but also felt a bit letdown that he wasnt "with me".....when with me.....
We chatted the other day.
Its not how it used to be nor is it often but I got to hear him laugh and thats priceless.
We webcammed and I played "guitar" with my braces bands.He laughed then.
I crewchetted a wierd lookin hat and sent to his adress.
My computer has been empty and not good last 2 yrs but its getting better......
Things like that are priceless "wish you a good day" and picture of flower.I used to give him a virtual buket of flowers once a week.
But we aint been having any of that.
Look 4ward to chatting, caming.......one does that when in good relationship and makes happy see and chatt with them.
True what you say about seeing inside the person and who they really are.....
seeing beyond their looks in body, seeng deeper, getting to know someone.....
I beleive relationships can work however one meets or communicates and with distance also.
One can still be 2gether in spirit even if ones bodies will hangout as such "later on"......
Theres many ways.
Y
One of the many benefits of sites like this, is an opportunity to talk with real people. I can see how easy it could be for a person to say or do what ever they choose; but these also do not necessarily see a need to be open about their lives. But if you think about it, this same picture is also known to happen among those who live in the same town. I believe it was mentioned that two people were going to meet each other. Scary? Well, don't most people feel a little nervous the first time they meet someone of interest? Whether a person chooses to continue meeting this way is a choice we all make or have made in the past. I personally think it is a healthy thing for a person to start talking. You can sure meet some interesting people along the way.
N
wow that is so sad x......x (is a sucker for sad stories or sad animes)
Sorry to hear that :/
Yeah, online people seem to naturally open up easier. Because they feel like you can't tell anyone anything, so they are more likely to let certain things slip.
Yeah there are trolls and the such but if you test a person long enough you should be able to expose them. Though this is dangerous for naturally trusting people.
Sorry to hear that :/
Yeah, online people seem to naturally open up easier. Because they feel like you can't tell anyone anything, so they are more likely to let certain things slip.
Yeah there are trolls and the such but if you test a person long enough you should be able to expose them. Though this is dangerous for naturally trusting people.
N
Yes, I agree. When I don't see eye to eye with a person I meet online, I distance myself from them.
If we meet online and develop a friendship, the relationship carries over into actual face to face meetings.
The few people I have met and had problems with, were people I met face to face and had to take more aggressive actions.
If we meet online and develop a friendship, the relationship carries over into actual face to face meetings.
The few people I have met and had problems with, were people I met face to face and had to take more aggressive actions.
B
It is a good way of socialising for those with difficulties of different types.
I am really clumsy socially as a person.
It has its reasons cause I was misstreated, abused and many very bad things happened this has made me as a person be "guraded" awkward etc when first meet people.
It can take a while (for those patient)
I missed him very much.
Internet can be very good but there are trolls out there and married people pretending not to be that date you and say they single and give you their "profil charachter".
Also can get internet hacked by malicious people.
I have a friend who is a muslim.
Her fiancee has never seen her unveiled but he adores her and holds her high and she has never been on a real date as its 4bidden in their culture to date.(they can date when they married)
They know eachother deeply despite not having met they are so close and have beautiful relations.
There is dating site for muslims also online but they must meet with someone else or chatt online and they are not permited to be alone untill they have married.Only be 2gether in company of another or internet chatt.
Many meet online and are very happy and get engaged online even.
I dont have friends in person i socialise with cause they live far away.So internet is my socialisation.Thats why extra sucks when computer gets hacked by haters, malicious etc.
Now found me way to this site ayway
But I definately beleive it can work with internet.
I am really clumsy socially as a person.
It has its reasons cause I was misstreated, abused and many very bad things happened this has made me as a person be "guraded" awkward etc when first meet people.
It can take a while (for those patient)
I missed him very much.
Internet can be very good but there are trolls out there and married people pretending not to be that date you and say they single and give you their "profil charachter".
Also can get internet hacked by malicious people.
I have a friend who is a muslim.
Her fiancee has never seen her unveiled but he adores her and holds her high and she has never been on a real date as its 4bidden in their culture to date.(they can date when they married)
They know eachother deeply despite not having met they are so close and have beautiful relations.
There is dating site for muslims also online but they must meet with someone else or chatt online and they are not permited to be alone untill they have married.Only be 2gether in company of another or internet chatt.
Many meet online and are very happy and get engaged online even.
I dont have friends in person i socialise with cause they live far away.So internet is my socialisation.Thats why extra sucks when computer gets hacked by haters, malicious etc.
Now found me way to this site ayway
But I definately beleive it can work with internet.
C
Thank you Bob for a good colorful explaination of internet dating and marriage. I want to add about my best friend who is American had hard time finding the right woman like I do. And um, he asked me if that is ok to marry a Filipina and I said sure go ahead if that is what God wants you to..so he was introduced to his bride thru a friend of his in the Philippines. Then she applied thru their lawyer for work visa instead of bridal visa. Then she comes here and they got married and they are still happy married and strong too. They have a son.
I, on another hand, had a good relationship with a Filipina years years ago and found out she only wanted to come here, not really love me so that set me back about the Filipinas. Then years later, I was on mission trips to Central America and 2 latinas from Costa Rica wanted me but after a couple of mission trips there. I saw the pattern, they only wanted to come here and one of the two said I am too old with white hair (had it since 18) and that hurts me and so she ended up marrying a guy her age with white hair! How about that! LOL! See how you judged and you get judged!? Anyway, the other one really wanted me so badly but she only wanted to come here. Not good.
Then a friend introduced me to a woman from CT and we chatted few months then met in person. Then I told her I have to pray and fast..3 days later, God told me not to mary her for a good reason. I was disappointed but I got my reason why! After I told her no, she stalked me online! Even came up here and blew her temper in front of my own mother and her bf and his family who came in town for a visit. I was upset! I shipped her home on the bus right away! Um, I had to call the police finally in 2004 to tell her to stop. She stopped. She was so bad. She spread on the net about me and all. real bad. She says she is a Christian is not a Christian for her actions.
I am still skeptical of online dating and marriage because of this and other stories I hear are so bad. Really bad. Abuses, um, the mail order bride abuses and advantages, or disadvantages, um, things like that. Also in US, we are heading for 3rd world and political unrest in this country with many unemployed people.. I am underemployed as freelance. And um, more foreigners want to come here to work and all? Not a good idea. Sorry foreigners!! No offense.
I am still seeking for my bride online since this is easiest way for me.. I am Deaf and communication is easier for me online rather than meet her in church (with bunch of older seniors or married women there as well those who do not understand Deafness--immaturity they are). Um, public places.. you dont know if they are Christian.. so that is why I am here and on another Christian dating site.
I, on another hand, had a good relationship with a Filipina years years ago and found out she only wanted to come here, not really love me so that set me back about the Filipinas. Then years later, I was on mission trips to Central America and 2 latinas from Costa Rica wanted me but after a couple of mission trips there. I saw the pattern, they only wanted to come here and one of the two said I am too old with white hair (had it since 18) and that hurts me and so she ended up marrying a guy her age with white hair! How about that! LOL! See how you judged and you get judged!? Anyway, the other one really wanted me so badly but she only wanted to come here. Not good.
Then a friend introduced me to a woman from CT and we chatted few months then met in person. Then I told her I have to pray and fast..3 days later, God told me not to mary her for a good reason. I was disappointed but I got my reason why! After I told her no, she stalked me online! Even came up here and blew her temper in front of my own mother and her bf and his family who came in town for a visit. I was upset! I shipped her home on the bus right away! Um, I had to call the police finally in 2004 to tell her to stop. She stopped. She was so bad. She spread on the net about me and all. real bad. She says she is a Christian is not a Christian for her actions.
I am still skeptical of online dating and marriage because of this and other stories I hear are so bad. Really bad. Abuses, um, the mail order bride abuses and advantages, or disadvantages, um, things like that. Also in US, we are heading for 3rd world and political unrest in this country with many unemployed people.. I am underemployed as freelance. And um, more foreigners want to come here to work and all? Not a good idea. Sorry foreigners!! No offense.
I am still seeking for my bride online since this is easiest way for me.. I am Deaf and communication is easier for me online rather than meet her in church (with bunch of older seniors or married women there as well those who do not understand Deafness--immaturity they are). Um, public places.. you dont know if they are Christian.. so that is why I am here and on another Christian dating site.
B
Sorry to hear (read) about your bad experiences.
It seems you are aware and not fooled so easily which is good.
Very nice to fast and prayer and turn to God also.
I hope you will soon find yourself a beautiful soul and true woman that is good and made for you and with you for all the right reasons and you will have beautiful holy union 2gether and be happy.
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S
I just recently got burrned in a LDR....I met him online, i have never met him in person, but he didn't cheat on me, but his X came back in to him and told him that she was pregnet....i have been dateing him for the past 12 weeks...we talk on the phone...skype....and text eachother all night, I love him. The thing is he didn't know she was pregnet, she is 8 months along, and we were planning to get married, but he told me that she is his Dream Girl, he told me that he compares other girls to her, he amitted he sleped with her before she moved away. Well she came back and told him the news. He told me the second he found out, i am not mad at him just mad at the situation, if she would of told him right away i probaly would not of started a LDR with him, he might of been with her this whole time. I still love him very much, and I don't want to loose him, but someone was going to get hurt bad.......
Y
I think everything is possible for God to give us the right person. God can make all ways for us. Also we can find good people thru internet. We can get a serious relationship, or just make friends.
I believe that internet can useful for a relationship too.
I have some new friends in real now who I know from the internet. I love so much to know more people from internet, coz sometimes we need more wide space to have more friends, or even to get a right person from God for our future..
Jbu
(^&^)
I believe that internet can useful for a relationship too.
I have some new friends in real now who I know from the internet. I love so much to know more people from internet, coz sometimes we need more wide space to have more friends, or even to get a right person from God for our future..
Jbu
(^&^)