Should I continue a relationship or not?

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DarlinNadia

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#41
Question:
Should I continue a relationship or not?

Answer:
No.

Reasoning.
So many reasons. Because you had to ask. Red Flags. If you think there's a problem, THERE IS... even if it's not her problem it is your problem.

Side Point Advice.
Laurens.. if you were married, I would tell you to seek counseling, and work it out the best you can and you should stay through all of those things your listed. Divorce is hated by God.

BUT, You're not married. You are not obligated to this woman whatsoever. She has a great deal of problems you are overlooking but have deeper moral issues and conflict with your own walk with God. Ask yourself if this relationship is glorying God? Are you *really* equally yoked? Your actions sound like they are glorying God, but are her's?



Ultimately, the decision is yours to make. I encourage you to pray about this fervently, Ask God for Guidance. Pretty on the outside doesn't equate to pretty on the inside.

-I remember cussing a great deal before I was saved, NOW, the occasional bad word slips out but I feel horrible about it, I'm quick to apologize to God when I let such language flow from my lips.
-I used to think pleasure was pleasure... let homosexuals do their own thing.. I figured stop harassing them and instead show them love.. NOW I know that the most loving thing a Christian can do for a homosexual is to share the Gospel with them, and encourage them to walk with Christ.. not condemn the homosexual to hell but certainly let him/her know that Biblically speaking homosexual behavior is sinful behavior in the eyes of God and that type of behavior continued will keep him/her separate from God.

Point is: you will know them by their fruits. Pretty on the outside doesn't = pretty on the inside... just like someone saying they are Christian does not automatically mean they are Christian... When you sin, do you just brush it under the carpet or make some excuse for it.. or rationalize the sinful behavior or do you feel convicted by the Holy Spirit that's IN YOU that leads to Wholehearted Repent // Desire to turn away from that which is sin.

God's already spoken to you on this. I pray you have the courage to listen to him.

Heavenly Father, I ask that you give Laurens wisdom and courage and strength to follow your decision on this subject matter and that Through you, for you and to you ... his decision gives you Glory, in Jesus Name, Amen
 

Nautilus

Senior Member
Jun 29, 2012
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#42
After reading your girlfriend's description, the song ''I Knew You Were Trouble'' by Taylor Swift started playing in my mind. Isn't that a huge red flag? Seriously. A Taylor Swift song.
Hey now don't talk bad about my fiance TS.
 
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Laurens

Guest
#43
Thanks to everyone for there responses. I really appreciate the thoughtful and spiritual comments.

I know what I need to do now.
 
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ineme4christ

Guest
#46
Really I love what you wrote n the points You brought out. We need God's leading cos marriage disbar life time thing cos u speak in tongues n pay ur tithes doesnt mean you are going to make a good wife cosbu guys have different Things in common how matured are you Both for marriage pls take tym n write out what you want in a woman n pray abt dont forget dont go into marriage thinking you can chaange your spouse or her thinking only God has the power to change lives pls take time n pray cos your heavenly father loves you n knows the heart of man n he will grant you. The desires of your heart