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@ Agricola
Hi, Agricola! Your life has touched me (I´ve been there, too) and I´m sorry.
One thing WE tend to bypass is free will ... "EASY COMES, EASY GOES" (all of US are entitled to have it, by the way).
After having had several experiences, like yours, I have learned one thing: "Pray, in secrecy, before God" (Mat 6:6 When you pray, go into a room alone and close the door. Pray to your Father in private. He knows what is done in private, and he will reward you.) so your needed reward can be solely YOURS.
Several years back, I´ve been fooled. 50
Hi, Agricola! Your life has touched me (I´ve been there, too) and I´m sorry.
One thing WE tend to bypass is free will ... "EASY COMES, EASY GOES" (all of US are entitled to have it, by the way).
After having had several experiences, like yours, I have learned one thing: "Pray, in secrecy, before God" (Mat 6:6 When you pray, go into a room alone and close the door. Pray to your Father in private. He knows what is done in private, and he will reward you.) so your needed reward can be solely YOURS.
Several years back, I´ve been fooled. 50
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Yeah, the first woman... she didn't say why she was rejecting you... you just assumed why because of who she ended up with. No matter what you believe God says to you, she (or any individual) has a choice. Perhaps she wasn't a mature Christian... perhaps she decided that living in the UK was not for her once she got there - maybe it wasn't about you at all. You don't know why you never ended up with this woman, just an impression of who she did end up marrying.
The second woman... I don't know why she wasn't interested, but clearly she wasn't. Again, you have your suspicions that God told her you were the one, but again... she has free will to accept your interest or not.
I have no idea how you are approaching these women, and you really don't know what God is saying to them because they aren't telling you.
I don't think there is only one "The One". I just don't. As Christians, if we find a mutual attraction with someone who hits our buttons and levels of interest, and they are equal believers... I believe we can make a marriage work. The caveat of that is that sometimes God is pretty clear for some people that they are to follow him and remain single.
My previous argument still stands: a mature Christian woman or man is looking for a partner who they connect with, and who is equally yolked as a believer in Christ. Wealth, the car one drives, or looks aren't what a mature person looks for - they look for connection. For whatever reason, it seems that the women you describe above are just not connecting with you.... and of course, I can't say WHY not knowing either you or them that they aren't interested in marriage with you.
The second woman... I don't know why she wasn't interested, but clearly she wasn't. Again, you have your suspicions that God told her you were the one, but again... she has free will to accept your interest or not.
I have no idea how you are approaching these women, and you really don't know what God is saying to them because they aren't telling you.
I don't think there is only one "The One". I just don't. As Christians, if we find a mutual attraction with someone who hits our buttons and levels of interest, and they are equal believers... I believe we can make a marriage work. The caveat of that is that sometimes God is pretty clear for some people that they are to follow him and remain single.
My previous argument still stands: a mature Christian woman or man is looking for a partner who they connect with, and who is equally yolked as a believer in Christ. Wealth, the car one drives, or looks aren't what a mature person looks for - they look for connection. For whatever reason, it seems that the women you describe above are just not connecting with you.... and of course, I can't say WHY not knowing either you or them that they aren't interested in marriage with you.