Signals & Gender Roles

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Elizabeth619

Elizabeth619

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Kyra said:
So many different people out there, I would love to know what these signals mean to you
(men and ladies)....

1.) You smile at a stranger of the opposite gender. Does it mean....
A.You are in a good mood
B. You think he/she is cute.
C. You have a facial tick.

2.) You make many flirtatious comments to someone of the opposite gender...
A.) You wouldn't mind getting a phone number.
B.) You are just having fun and don't mean anything by it.
C.) You never make flirtatious comments and this offends you to even consider it.


Last question, historically on a date, men drive, pay for the meal and open all doors and (if formal) even help the lady with her coat.

Do you think these "chilvalrous acts" are outdated or under appreciated? Should women start picking up the tab, driving and helping the men with their coats?
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1. I live in the south. We do that all the time anyway. If i smile at you it is NOT because I want you. I just have an awesome smile. ;)

2. If I am flriting then it is because I am more than likely making fun of you and you are too dense to realize it.

Men should be be a gentleman. I expect the door to be open for me. It is a respect thing. Just as I would hold a door open for an elderly man or woman. It is about respect.

It is the little things that you do out of respect that give you a chance at a second date.

Also, I am not one of those women who have to pay for their own food(not saying I wouldnt) and do all this to prove I am "equal". The way I look at it is I am secure enough as a woman to know I should be respect and I would give the same respect back.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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Kyra said:
So many different people out there, I would love to know what these signals mean to you
(men and ladies)....

1.) You smile at a stranger of the opposite gender. Does it mean....
A.You are in a good mood
B. You think he/she is cute.
C. You have a facial tick.

2.) You make many flirtatious comments to someone of the opposite gender...
A.) You wouldn't mind getting a phone number.
B.) You are just having fun and don't mean anything by it.
C.) You never make flirtatious comments and this offends you to even consider it.


Last question, historically on a date, men drive, pay for the meal and open all doors and (if formal) even help the lady with her coat.

Do you think these "chilvalrous acts" are outdated or under appreciated? Should women start picking up the tab, driving and helping the men with their coats?
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1. A
2. A and B
3. These things are not outd dated, but are underappreciated.

Me and my sister just talked bout this. I think it's ok for the guy to pay on the first date and after that I don't mind paying for myself. I don't mind opening my own doors or getting my own coat, but it's nice when a guy does it for me. I do it for other people all the time cus it's good manners. My sister is a bit of a feminist and would likely insist on paying for her own all the time and opening her own doors.

My family has a saying: El que envita, paga, (whoever asks, pays) When I ask friends out to dinner or to hang out, I'm the one that pays, If it's their idea, then they pay.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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christiancollegegirl said:
1. A - I'm usually in a good mood and want to share it with other people. Sometimes a random smile can make your whole day.
2. A and B - Sometimes I'll make flirty comments to guy friends that mean nothing. If it's a cute stranger, I'm usually interested in getting a number.
3. These things are not outd dated, but are underappreciated.

Me and my sister just talked bout this. I think it's ok for the guy to pay on the first date and after that I don't mind paying for myself. I don't mind opening my own doors or getting my own coat, but it's nice when a guy does it for me. I do it for other people all the time cus it's good manners. My sister is a bit of a feminist and would likely insist on paying for her own all the time and opening her own doors.

My family has a saying: El que envita, paga, (whoever asks, pays) When I ask friends out to dinner or to hang out, I'm the one that pays, If it's their idea, then they pay.
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Edits are in purple. Net connection cut out before I could post my edited post.
 
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Jullianna

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I had some connection problems earlier too. Annoying, huh? haha
 
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christiancollegegirl

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Very annoying. At least I wasn't in the middle of a PM.
 
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kayem77

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Kyra said:
So many different people out there, I would love to know what these signals mean to you
(men and ladies)....

1.) You smile at a stranger of the opposite gender. Does it mean....
A.You are in a good mood
B. You think he/she is cute.
C. You have a facial tick.

2.) You make many flirtatious comments to someone of the opposite gender...
A.) You wouldn't mind getting a phone number.
B.) You are just having fun and don't mean anything by it.
C.) You never make flirtatious comments and this offends you to even consider it.


Last question, historically on a date, men drive, pay for the meal and open all doors and (if formal) even help the lady with her coat.

Do you think these "chilvalrous acts" are outdated or under appreciated? Should women start picking up the tab, driving and helping the men with their coats?
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1. A and B. I tend to smile if my gaze meets someone's gaze, just a friendly smile. However if the guy is cute...it also means that I think he is cute, but only I know that :)
2. A. I wouldn't make many flirtatious comments if I don't want to know more about him. Acting nice doesn't mean I'm flirting though...Im afraid some people can misinterpret being kind with flirting when I'm just being kind and talkative.

3.I love those chivalrous acts:D but that doesn't mean I wouldn't do the same for him sometimes. On a first date I would definitely expect for him to pay, but if we have dated often or if we are in a relationship, him paying doesn't have to be the rule. We could split, or I could pay for him sometimes, depending on how the guy takes it....I've met a lot of guys that don't like the idea of women paying for the bill.
 
LightningClap0002

LightningClap0002

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Feb 10, 2008
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Well, I think it's been about long enough for this thread to be revived. The first half is full of people that are gone, maybe reviving this thread will summon them back here!? Also, I miss Kyra; here's to hoping! :)

1) A, though if I know the person it is also a bit of reassurance and encouragement. "I know you and I am glad to see you".

2) B, i wouldn't say it's out of 'fun' as much as a desire to put the person at ease. Teasing/joking etc opens others up much faster than talking about the weather.

3) Seems fine to me as long as it's not forced. It's about being kind and helpful, not annoying and stubborn.
 
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flight316

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Id just like to say that women smile and flirt a lot. They want attention. A lot of times that's all that they want. Even some gay women want attention from men. It can be very hard to read women sometimes because they play so many games. Soooo, whatever.
 
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