Single and looking - Marriage

[Angel_Armies]

Yes it is true I am single and looking for the right women for me but people you need to realize and take to heart what I'm about to say. Don't go for the first average worldly girl or guy you meet on the street or in the chat room. Take the time to know them and find out who they are and what they believe. If their view points in general are not lining up with yours then you need to move on and leave it at that. To many times I've known people to get themselves hooked into a relationship that they didn't need to be in to begin with because they were "Lonely" and wanted someone. People do not be like that at all because if you jump the ship and say I'm diving in with you without even knowing your diving partner then who knows what will happen in the seas of lifes marriages.

I know some who have and couldn't be more happier and I know those who are miserable wrecks because they didn't take the time to know someone. Listen when i say this Marriage is one of the most serious moments in your life and as Christians in this Christian chat room we need to give each other the support we need because i can understand peoples frustrations in being lonely and wanting someone so bad but be careful and let God speak to your heart on who is right for you. When the time is right you will know who that special someone is that God has called to be in your life on such a time as this. Be patient and prudent in finding the right person for you. And let God take care of the rest. Be Blessed my friends.

 

[voiceoftruth]

Thank you for sharing this.
I am totally into this topic since i have a lot of friends that have jumped into relationships.. I try to talk to them about waiting and getting to know them before they just jump in. It is really hard though. I defintalty agree with really getting to know the person as well.

 

[ChildishFaith13]

Very good statement to bring up Angel_Armies! Three years ago I got into a relationship with a girl because I felt alone. This girl was not a Christian and I got emersed in a relationship that really hurt me. I got into smoking, pot, drinking and gambling ultimately leading my life away from the very thing I lived my life for, Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians chapter 7 verses 7-8 says: "I wish everyone could get along without marrying, just as I do. But we are not all the same. God gives some the gift of marriage, and to others he gives the gift of singleness." Thankfully I got out of the relationship by the conviction of the Lord and I broke my engagement of a relationship that would most likely been a divorice. I thank the Lord for showing me what to look for in a relationship and is teaching me how to love everyday.

 

[Angel_Armies]

Exactly! I knew this guy from church, a strong young godly young man serving The Lord with all his heart. One day her met this girl who wasn't really a strong believer and a few months latter they wind up marrying each other. I saw him not long ago and his marriage was not all happy I knew they were having issues over even the basics on living a godly life, he would try to show her how a christian serving Christ would act but she doesn't seem to be buying it last i heard from them. That's why i am very passionate about this subject!

 

[His_love_endures_forever]

This really lightened my heart. It's so hard to be a chrisitan in the days we live in. There are pressures all around us from our peers. The world is always sucking us into mess. As a girl, its especially hard for me beccause of what the world thinks of beauty. I am always crituquing my looks, weight, height, ect. And as a girl, we always think that the girl sitting next to us is alot prettier, smarter, and is bound to have a boyfriend. Its hard dealing with things like that, and I also know its hard for guys! Come on girls, dont wear low cut tops and say "Oh my gosh was that guy looking at me!" The way my sex dresses is trashing and all that it says is "come and get me". Maybe that sounds horrible to you, but it is the truth. I wanna be a woman of virtue and truth, but its so hard. That's why I have a awesome God always here to help me. Thank you, Lord.

 

[Angel_Armies]

Another thing that really bothers me is when a girl thinks to herself that she has to wear skimpy looking clothes in order to get attention from a guy. Well she gets attention alright but the wrong attention and because of that she ends up getting herself in so much trouble, You know?

 

[ChildishFaith13]

Thats for sure! When I went on a missions trip to Ukraine, my could not help but to cry out to the Lord to shine his light upon the young girls of that country. Not just the girls of Ukraine but the whole world. While I was in Ukraine the statistics were shocking. 1 of every 4 childrn lived off the streets because the parents would spend every dollar they had on booze and be at home too drunk to take care of the children. Seeing that so many girl who where dressed that way looking for the attention they are are not receiving from home but looking for it in the wrong places makes my heart cry. You never have to feel alone when you have the Lord in your life, and when girls wear what they wear causing some one else to fall into sin is a sin in itself. Becareful in what you wear! I know I used to struggle with how girls dressed but thanks to my Lord, he filled in the void I had once had in my life.

 

[His_love_endures_forever]

Amen Drew, I totally agree. Its really hard for me to go shopping now, cause I am always asking myself if what I am wearing is modest and is glorifying to God. Even those who call themselves Christians dress trashy and have tight clothes. I see alot of chrisitans, who are covered head to toe, but you can see every curve on them cause their clothes are so tight.

1 Peter 3-4 : Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.

 

[Angel_Armies]

You know you can blame the people in the hollywoodland they have a major impact of the clothing and the culture we have in the world today.

 

[His_love_endures_forever]

Yeha but I think there still is modest stuff out there and you dont have to wear trash stuff, its all a choice.

 

[bamberoons]

We are all responsible for our own actions... no one else is. Hollywood maybe in an influence, but ultimately values, acceptance as we are, expectations start in the home. We make choices to live right or live wrong. If a child is getting everything they need in the home in terms of love, acceptance, boundaries, discipline etc... then they will feel less of a 'need' to look to their friends and outside sources to find it. People miss the mark in the home (and it is very easy to I'm sure), but its easier to pass the buck to a big industry that doesn't care and escape responsibility.

 

[His_love_endures_forever]

yep, thats true Bamberoons, its all about our up bringing and how our parents teach us. If they teach us what is right when we are young, we will grow old and not depart from it

 

[Baptistrw]

Amen Drew, I totally agree. Its really hard for me to go shopping now, cause I am always asking myself if what I am wearing is modest and is glorifying to God. Even those who call themselves Christians dress trashy and have tight clothes. I see alot of chrisitans, who are covered head to toe, but you can see every curve on them cause their clothes are so tight.

1 Peter 3-4 : Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.

Rightly spoken.

 

[Leilaii425]

Im sorry but i cant get past those pictures to read anything you wrote.

 

[livenlovechrist]

Thank you for posting this. I feel the same way too about the subject. It's dificult to wait for that time when God has that person for you. And idk but sometimes i wonder if he will bring this person into my life, but i know it is his will and not mine one good read that deals with this topic is "when god writes your love story" by Leslie and Eric Ludy.... I recommend it... It def helped me a lot .

 

[pametha]

trust me i know exactly what u mean i have done this and u right it will only backfire on you u got to think before you act let god put you together pray about it if its meant to be it will happen but make sure its in gods will so they say god has someone for everybody well he havent sent me my mate yet to many people pretend to be something they are not so its very scary out there in the single world you have to be careful

 

[Garrison]

You know what? You have all the rest of your life to be married. But you can only be single once (truly single, that is). So guess what? Enjoy it. When the time comes for you to get married, you can trust God to send the right one your way. Not that you should sit there, but you know what I mean.

 

[MahogonySnail]

Sure, you have the rest of your life, don't worry about it, just remember...the hot ones are in the more expensive nursing homes..

 

[Tegelik]

GET TO KNOW THE PERSON!

I cannot agree with you more, Angel_Armies. Get to know the person! This is the most valuable advice on the singles forum! This is the key and the secret to a happy relationship! This is soooooo important!
Take this advice very seriously.

 

[Garrison]

Sure, you have the rest of your life, don't worry about it, just remember...the hot ones are in the more expensive nursing homes..

Okay, I give in.