SINGLE DIFFICULTIES, WHAT ARE THEY?

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BrotherMike

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he moved after she died

sorry dont mean to confuse you. When she was alive she wanted to be nearer her daughters and grandchildren but they had moved away.
Ahh well that makes more sense!
 

Lanolin

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I guess some oldies have never heard of pink shirt day where EVERYONE wears a pink shirt, especially the guys.
Its to stop guys from bullying people that wear pink shirts.
 

BrotherMike

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I guess some oldies have never heard of pink shirt day where EVERYONE wears a pink shirt, especially the guys.
Its to stop guys from bullying people that wear pink shirts.
Never have… I don’t have a bright pink shirt but an off pink one I wear once in a while.
 

Lanolin

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Being female and small means sometimes you have no choice but to wear pink clothing lol.

But its a funny thing as I dont recall any females being bullied for wearing BLUE. I do recall one time at work NOBODY was allowed to wear jeans. They (the powers that be) eventually relaxed the rule (they had to be 'dress jeans') but I recall wearing a pencil denim skirt and getting away with it.

Its funny the hang ups people have about clothing. I would rather a guy wear a shirt of any colour than go around bare chested. I mean come on.
Gals ALWAYS get flak over what they wear from men. Its like. How about if you are so fussy about what females are wearing why dont you try working in a clothing store or being a seamstress and know what its REALLY like to work in the garment industry. Clothes just dont magically appear. A lot of work goes into making them.
 

Lanolin

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Those that complain about clothing should be sent to pick cotton for a lifetime and then understand what its like.
 

Gojira

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What is the greatest difficulties for the person that is a Christian single? Besides finding a soul mate.
Dealing with the sex drive. Then, doing so much alone, especially if you don't have a lot of platonic friends.
 

Lanolin

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Here's a thing I wondered about being single.
You can get a bachelor or masters degree....but nobody ever gets a spinsters or mistresses degree.
 

GiveThanks

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My greatest difficulty is carring my heavy shopping bags.
 

GiveThanks

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Let's not forget the biggest difficulty: When you want to move something heavy, there's nobody to lift the other end with you. :cautious:
Are you serious? If you have heavy lifting then call one of your male friends to help or hire someone.

If you get sick, you'd better have money saved up to cover that small (or missed!) paycheck.
Waaaaaaat? How will a wife help you with your medical bill or small paycheck???

Are you making these comments from a man's perspective or are you speaking hypothetically on behalf of some women?
 

Lynx

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Are you serious? If you have heavy lifting then call one of your male friends to help or hire someone.

Waaaaaaat? How will a wife help you with your medical bill or small paycheck???

Are you making these comments from a man's perspective or are you speaking hypothetically on behalf of some women?
I'm making these comments from a single (guy or girl) person's perspective, in the USA.

Your last question makes me think you live in a country where women do not customarily hold paying jobs. Here in the USA it is the reverse - it is very UNcommon to find a woman who does not have a job with a paycheck.
 

Lanolin

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have not found lifting things to be a problem being single...it is just the same as a married person you ask someone to help if it requires two people

But then I dont lift more than I can handle, and I dont buy more than I can carry
Also if you have a suitable car, trolley, bicycle etc it makes things easier...and there are also those wheel shopping carts that you can buy.

You can also pay extra for delivery esp online.

So I dont have much sympathy for people that buy lots of things that they cant even carrry them home. They have the money to do all the shopping and overspent their riches and cant carry them...sob! My house is too big for me! boohoo.
 

Lanolin

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I water the garden with a watering can and maybe it takes several trips to do this but the watering can is plastic (not too heavy) but I would rather do this than spray everything with a hose.

before we even had a tank, what we would do is go down to the creek and fill up the cans. You can fill up two at once and then water with two but do one at a time. Its not really different doing it with more people you still have to lift the same amount of water. If its too heavy dont fill it up so much to the top but do it more often.
 

Lanolin

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GPS is actually quite useful for a single person when travelling unknown roads.
I dont really like going places on my own I havent been to before though.

but then there is no guarantee if you are married that your spouse will ALWAYS want to go with you places.
However it is safer to not go alone to places. But then am sure you already know this.
 

GiveThanks

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I'm making these comments from a single (guy or girl) person's perspective, in the USA.
A man should not need his wife to help him with heavy lifting.

Your last question makes me think you live in a country where women do not customarily hold paying jobs. Here in the USA it is the reverse - it is very UNcommon to find a woman who does not have a job with a paycheck.
Is it possible for you to stay on topic?

For a man to say his difficulty in being single is that he doesnt have a woman to help him out financially, that says a lot.

So what you telling me that US men need women to help take care of their financial needs?
 

cinder

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A man should not need his wife to help him with heavy lifting.

Is it possible for you to stay on topic?

For a man to say his difficulty in being single is that he doesnt have a woman to help him out financially, that says a lot.

So what you telling me that US men need women to help take care of their financial needs?
No he's saying that it's very hard to move something bulky or heavy by yourself and it's also difficult to pay all your bills if you are in a single income household and that income in interrupted due to illness or injury. Because not everyone has sick leave.

What's it like where you are? What are the challenges that come along with singleness in your area?
 

GiveThanks

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But then I dont lift more than I can handle, and I dont buy more than I can carry
Thats nice, however my life is not so comfortable as yours.

I usually walk to and from home to work- about half an hour walk.

In my hand bag, I have an umbrella, my cell phone, and purse, hand lotion, sanitiser and few other items.
I also carry a tote bag which contains my lunch, sometimes breakfast a swetter, and 2 small empty shopping bags.

Would you say these two bags that i take to work are heavy or light weight?

Even a small child could carry these bags with little effort. But for me its heavy.

And ontop of these two bags, I will stop at the market on my way home and buy the few necessary items that i need for home.

Lets say i purchase a loaf of bread, 1pound sugar, 2pound rice, 1 doz eggs. Would you say this is heavy or tell me I'm buying too much?

Im happy for you that your life is so comfy, but for me it cant be avoided.
 

GiveThanks

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No he's saying that it's very hard to move something bulky or heavy by yourself and it's also difficult to pay all your bills if you are in a single income household and that income in interrupted due to illness or injury. Because not everyone has sick leave.

What's it like where you are? What are the challenges that come along with singleness in your area?
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Lynx

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A man should not need his wife to help him with heavy lifting.

Is it possible for you to stay on topic?

For a man to say his difficulty in being single is that he doesnt have a woman to help him out financially, that says a lot.

So what you telling me that US men need women to help take care of their financial needs?
Man or woman, everybody could use somebody else to help when a person is sick and can't work to pay the bills.

It is one thing that fits the thread topic, that was not mentioned before, so I mentioned it.
 

GiveThanks

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Man or woman, everybody could use somebody else to help when a person is sick and can't work to pay the bills.

It is one thing that fits the thread topic, that was not mentioned before, so I mentioned it.
While that is true, I must say, it sounds a bit odd that you mentioned it. That is certainly not an ideal situation for a man to be in- to be living off his wife's salary especially if there are kids involved.

The ideal situation would be for a savings to be in place if that should ever happen. So why mention an unideal situation as if its quite normal and Ok for a man to be in such a situation?
 

Lynx

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While that is true, I must say, it sounds a bit odd that you mentioned it. That is certainly not an ideal situation for a man to be in- to be living off his wife's salary especially if there are kids involved.

The ideal situation would be for a savings to be in place if that should ever happen. So why mention an unideal situation as if its quite normal and Ok for a man to be in such a situation?
Life is NEVER ideal. There is always something with which to contend.

Ideally none of the matters mentioned in the thread so far would be issues. But as the Walgreen's commercials say, we don't live anywhere near Perfect.