Single: What do you like about being single and what do you not like?

[Chey60]

things I like about being single: not having to clean house if I don't feel like it, watching shows or movies I want to, spending alone time, not being distracted by someone else's moods Hanging with some of my sistah's! either in fun or in bible studies without worrying about leaving out a spouse..

things I don't like: traveling alone, sleeping alone, eating alone, going to movies alone, doing other activities alone, studyiing alone, praying alone, waking up alone, paying all my bills alone looking for someone to help with maintenance on car, trying to find help to move furniture or anything else..things men usually do for their wives. I used to know allot of single men in my old church but in my recent church (2.5 years) I know mostly married couples and those guys though they have helped in the past without my asking, are busy and doing things for their own wives as it should be
It is not easy being a single woman..and always hanging with the chickies

Anyway that's my input!

 

[Chey60]

oh yea ..and being held.. I miss that!

 

[mystdancer50]

What I love about being single is that I can be all that Christ wants me to be: I can travel for Him or stay put for Him, I can stay up late praising Him and studying His word or I can go to bed and rest, I can go on Mission Trips or support another person to go, and so on and so forth. Another thing I love is that I can truly be me. I don't have to worry about what my spouse will think of my desire to photograph randomness on the spur of the moment or do funky makeup and laugh about it or my selfies of my makeup daily or the fact that I let my Dalmatian and Standard Poodle sleep in my bed with me or that I hug them and tell them I love them and talk to them in a baby voice. I love that I can dream big and truly reach for the stars or I can curl up with a good book and forget the days worries, without having to prepare meals and keep others occupied.

Truly, the only thing I don't like is that fact that I have to work and that I don't have a man to do the 'man' things of the house, like fix things and keep the car maintained and yard work. Yup. Which is why I don't seek marriage. I am truly aware of the reasons I'd want to marry and it wouldn't be beneficial for the man in any way. I'm better off hiring a day laborer.

 

[rachelsedge]

Things I like
- Being able to watch as many funny cat videos or just funny videos in general on YouTube, laughing like an idiot, without anyone judging me
- Being able to go where I want, when I want. No second schedule to work around.
- My time is mine. That sounds more selfish than it's meant to be, but I'm somewhat independent and introverted, so...
- No one has to see me when I'm unreasonably emotional and may cry or punch something at the drop of a hat
- I don't have to share the bed. I can just sprawl across it whatever way I want while I sleep

Wow, all those are pretty selfish reasons. Hm.

Things I don't like
- Not having that deep, special connection with someone. To have that one person who knows me inside and out and still chooses to love me for it, on a different level than friendship. This encompasses many things: spiritual, emotional, physical, mental.
- Not having someone whose eyes light up when I walk in the room
The physical aspects; cuddling, getting a hug when I need one, arms to hold me when I cry. All that sappy stuff.
- Sometimes I feel lame when I see my friends getting into relationships and I'm at home on a Friday night eating Cheezits and watching The Incredibles.


I don't know, I'm pretty content being single. There are definitely things I look forward to when/if I'm ever in a relationship, and sometimes I do get down about being single, but lately I've just been very encouraged and edified in being single and knowing it's all about Christ.

 

[Jullianna]

Things I like about being single:
I can go where I want when I want
No one eats my gummy bears
No one knows how many pairs of shoes I really have
If I don't feel like eating, I don't have to just because it's mealtime
I can have Cheetos for dinner
My house is always clean
No one complains when I use baby oil in the shower

What I don't like about being single: I ...um...err...um..I..umm

Okay..seriously, I miss lying on the couch watching a movie and saying nothing; I miss the sound of someone else's laughter; I miss watching a man trying to figure out what all of the girlie stuff in the bathroom is; I miss someone standing beside me and holding my hand in church; I miss talking until all hours about the silliest and/or deepest concepts known to man; I miss lying in the grass and looking at the stars.

 

[Phia]

I have yet to experience what it's like to be in a real, proper relationship with a guy. I'm pretty old fashioned and a complete die hard romantic at heart. From a young age I always wanted to have a fairytale romance, get married at a young age, have kids, the whole shebang. I didn't want to be single and up til about a year or so ago, being single still bothered me. But since my views have changed..hmmmm

The Pros

1. No boy drama! Seriously, some guys can drive one to the point of insanity.
2. You don't have to deal with someone trying to control you..telling you how, or how to dress, or who you can and can't talk to. Sadly you do get guys like that out there.
3. You don't have to get dressed up all the time.
4. You can eat the hamburger you want to instead of the small salad! lol
5. You learn to be content with having God as the main dude in your life first.
6. You have more time to grow in the word and work on your walk with God. No guy distractions.


The Cons

1. Those weak moments where you want to throw a pity party for yourself, eat lots of ice cream and chocolate, while singing along to sad Taylor Swift songs.
2. When you see your friends with their significant others and you feel envy trying to creep in as you feel your heart aching.
3. You don't have someone to hold you when it's cold. I don't know..I kinda think getting a hug from the guy you love on a cold day..would be comforting. Like they'd surround you with their warmth. Nobody laugh..I've got fluffy baby llamas and I'm not afraid to throw them!
4. Not having a best friend that you can share your life with.

 

[Phia]

Firstly..can I just say it really sucks that one can only edit their posts for 5 minutes after they've posted their reply. BLEH!

Just needed to make some corrections..

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2. You don't have to deal with someone trying to control you..telling you how to behave, or how to dress, or who you can and can't talk to. Sadly you do get guys like that out there.

(In regards to number 1 and 2..Yes I do know that you get women like that too, even more so than the men. Just saying..so I don't have guys grumbling about it )

 

[Donkeyfish07]

I have yet to experience what it's like to be in a real, proper relationship with a guy. I'm pretty old fashioned and a complete die hard romantic at heart. From a young age I always wanted to have a fairytale romance, get married at a young age, have kids, the whole shebang. I didn't want to be single and up til about a year or so ago, being single still bothered me. But since my views have changed..hmmmm

The Pros

1. No boy drama! Seriously, some guys can drive one to the point of insanity.
2. You don't have to deal with someone trying to control you..telling you how, or how to dress, or who you can and can't talk to. Sadly you do get guys like that out there.
3. You don't have to get dressed up all the time.
4. You can eat the hamburger you want to instead of the small salad! lol
5. You learn to be content with having God as the main dude in your life first.
6. You have more time to grow in the word and work on your walk with God. No guy distractions.


The Cons

1. Those weak moments where you want to throw a pity party for yourself, eat lots of ice cream and chocolate, while singing along to sad Taylor Swift songs.
2. When you see your friends with their significant others and you feel envy trying to creep in as you feel your heart aching.
3. You don't have someone to hold you when it's cold. I don't know..I kinda think getting a hug from the guy you love on a cold day..would be comforting. Like they'd surround you with their warmth. Nobody laugh..I've got fluffy baby llamas and I'm not afraid to throw them!
4. Not having a best friend that you can share your life with.

Number 2 is def my fav thing about being single. I've had so many relationships where the girl is so sweet in the beginning and it's the best thing ever....tons of good cuddling and weeks spent doing absolutely nothing and having the time of my life.....then bam....2 or 3 months later, the evil tyrant queen from hell decides to show up .

lol @ number 3. lol @ number 3

P.S. Since I laughed twice, I demand 2 baby llamas

 

[Liamson]

I guess it depends relationship to relationship. Each have their own nice things and bad things.


There are some women I've dated that I simply haven't watched movies with. It never came up, and I never even thought about doing that. It wasn't us at all.

With others movies are great together, and then some make it a chore. This is true with just about everything from hiking to working out to cooking.



I miss having the ability to be romantically creative. Stuff like sending a message in a bottle, stuffed in a locked treasure chest with a map and clues to find the key. Or sitting down and writing a song together. Or inventing some random food dish that is uniquely us, Like Hawaiian Pineapple Venison and Rice Enchiladas. Ordering terrible drinks for each other in a Coffee shop while playing Egyptian Rat Screw.

I miss having someone competitive in my life that teaches me and challenges me.

And friends can do a lot of this stuff but, its not the same.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Pros:

-Lots more free time.
-Lots less stress
-More financial stability (you wouldn't think so, but there ya go.)
-I can sleepwalk without anyone laughing at me
-No snoring
-No one to be disappointed in what's for dinner, what I'm wearing, how I look, what time I wake up or go to sleep.
-Healthier lifestyle

Cons:

No more...

 

[flight316]

Well I guess I understand how the women who've posted thus far feel. Well the things that you said, that's just how most men are.I think that we will see more and more single people as the years go by. Its sad. I don't like being single over all. It feels unatural. Its lonely and depressing. As you all get older you will probably feel the same way. Being by your self gets old after a while. If you stay stuck in your selfish ways you won't have to worry about it, you will be single. Most of you have commented on all the things that you desire without any regard to what a potential spouse may desire. You probably need to be by your self because that seems to be the only person that you are concerned about.

 

[rachelsedge]

I miss having the ability to be romantically creative. Stuff like sending a message in a bottle, stuffed in a locked treasure chest with a map and clues to find the key. Or sitting down and writing a song together. Or inventing some random food dish that is uniquely us, Like Hawaiian Pineapple Venison and Rice Enchiladas. Ordering terrible drinks for each other in a Coffee shop while playing Egyptian Rat Screw.

First of all, YES to Egyptian Rat Screw! Love that game, and when I ask people if they know how to play, I'm usually met with, "Uh...WHAT is THAT." To be honest, it is a strange game name.

Secondly, creative romantic ideas are definitely something I look forward to when I'm in a relationship. I always felt kinda silly/cheesy for my ideas, it's refreshing to see that guys appreciate it and look forward to it as well.

 

[mystdancer50]

Well I guess I understand how the women who've posted thus far feel...

...If you stay stuck in your selfish ways you won't have to worry about it, you will be single. Most of you have commented on all the things that you desire without any regard to what a potential spouse may desire. You probably need to be by your self because that seems to be the only person that you are concerned about.

Okie dokie, then. It's a good thing you've got us women all figured out and such.



Truly, I am not the least bit shy to admit that I have no desire to marry...ever. I just don't. And that's okay, believe it or not. God isn't angry with me because I don't want to marry. You will recall that it says in the Bible that it is actually okay to never marry, right?

Now, as for these other women here, they seem pretty downright awesome to me and I truly believe that they have beautiful hearts to go along with their beautiful looks. So, you may call them selfish, but that's only because you believe that you know what you want women to say and since these women aren't saying it, they fail in your book.

Truly, I think I am the only one that posted a selfish post in this thread...which is fine, because I am content to be single and always will be. The only time I desired love and romance and such was high school and that was a long, long time ago.

 

[rachelsedge]

Most of you have commented on all the things that you desire without any regard to what a potential spouse may desire. You probably need to be by your self because that seems to be the only person that you are concerned about.

Well, if there's a guy who doesn't desire the things I listed that I look forward to in a relationship (deep connection, comforting presence, etc.), we probably wouldn't get along very well anyway. How do I know what my potential spouse's specific desires are...without knowing who that is? I can only know my own, and they are the basic "what most people want in a relationship" type of desires. I didn't see any posts that implied that us ladies thought the relationship would be all about us and what WE want.

 

[xXErraticEmilyXx]

Why I love it:
I can do nearly anything I want to do, I can date whoever I want to, guys like to pay for me, I don't have to worry about someone.
Why it kinda sucks:
I can't really go anywhere by myself- it's not safe, I have no one to spoil, people like to be a "matchmaker"

 

[Tintin]

I've never been anything but single, so I don't know.

I enjoy the freedom I have.
But I would love to share life with someone. Also, hugs.

 

[Chey60]

Pros:



Cons:

Love this message... you are very creative and depict great things that are missed

 

[Chey60]

Well I guess I understand how the women who've posted thus far feel. Well the things that you said, that's just how most men are.I think that we will see more and more single people as the years go by. Its sad. I don't like being single over all. It feels unatural. Its lonely and depressing. As you all get older you will probably feel the same way. Being by your self gets old after a while. If you stay stuck in your selfish ways you won't have to worry about it, you will be single. Most of you have commented on all the things that you desire without any regard to what a potential spouse may desire. You probably need to be by your self because that seems to be the only person that you are concerned about.

I assume since the question was "what do you like and don't like about being single".. it would be about what WE like about being single and what WE don't like about being single..not what THEY like about being single or what THEY don't like being single..
which would lead to the men saying what they miss about being single or don't miss.. see how that works?

Would it be better to put "what does your potential spouse miss because you are not with him/her"?? uuuuhhhhh??? huh?

not sure I get what you wanted to see posted??

if you're gonna complain, please explain!

 

[KeeganGentle]

I like not having to deal with the constant jealousy that female teenagers seem to have today. Which is why I tend to go for more mature females because they are generally past that phase.

What I miss are the long endless talks about nothing and everything, where hours can go by and you never run out of what to say, where I can be open, funny, and let things out. That is what I miss.

 

[Gary]

Things I like about being single:
I can go where I want when I want
No one eats my gummy bears
No one knows how many pairs of shoes I really have
If I don't feel like eating, I don't have to just because it's mealtime
I can have Cheetos for dinner
My house is always clean
No one complains when I use baby oil in the shower

What I don't like about being single: I ...um...err...um..I..umm

Okay..seriously, I miss lying on the couch watching a movie and saying nothing; I miss the sound of someone else's laughter; I miss watching a man trying to figure out what all of the girlie stuff in the bathroom is; I miss someone standing beside me and holding my hand in church; I miss talking until all hours about the silliest and/or deepest concepts known to man; I miss lying in the grass and looking at the stars.

I will eat your gummy bears no matter what your marital status is!