So We've Had a Few Like This Before...

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AsifinPassing

AsifinPassing

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...but it's been a while, and I'm curious as to everyone's responses.

So, let's say you find a member of the opposite sex you are attracted to, infatuated with, or have decided you like in a way that makes you desire growing closer to him/her:

1. What do you (personally) normally do with that, and how do you go about it?

2. If you decide you like him/her enough to either confess your feelings or ask for a date, what do you do, and how do you normally go about that?


Maybe it's the string of anime romances I've been watching, or the memories of my own confessions back in school, but please...humor me.

 
BruceWayne

BruceWayne

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1. I make sure her dad isn't crazy.
2. I tell her what time I'll pick her up.

:p
 
Fenner

Fenner

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I'd tell her how you feel. If she feels the same, ask her out.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Beats me. Never happened before. At least not yet.
 
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NukePooch

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I just keep it to myself until my annoying traits drive her away. It doesn't take long.
 
JonahLynx

JonahLynx

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Used to be dates but now I just ignore it because I'm not ready for that.
 
melita916

melita916

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i always kept my feelings to myself.

the 2 guys who asked me out in my lifetime met me first online. i waited for them to say something about feelings.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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She doesn't need to know and I don't need to risk the friendship.
 
Willie-T

Willie-T

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melita916 said:
i always kept my feelings to myself.

the 2 guys who asked me out in my lifetime met me first online. i waited for them to say something about feelings.
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You're kidding! I would have thought it would have been more like 200.
 
melita916

melita916

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Willie-T said:
You're kidding! I would have thought it would have been more like 200.
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hehe nope. i was always friend zoned. then again, i didn't show i was interested cuz of fear of rejection.
 
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AuntieAnt

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I put my cards on the table, he puts his cards on the table, we play the game until one or both of us discovers somebody ain't playing with a full deck and then we part ways. :rolleyes: j/k

 
Willie-T

Willie-T

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AsifinPassing said:
...but it's been a while, and I'm curious as to everyone's responses.

So, let's say you find a member of the opposite sex you are attracted to, infatuated with, or have decided you like in a way that makes you desire growing closer to him/her:

1. What do you (personally) normally do with that, and how do you go about it?

2. If you decide you like him/her enough to either confess your feelings or ask for a date, what do you do, and how do you normally go about that?


Maybe it's the string of anime romances I've been watching, or the memories of my own confessions back in school, but please...humor me.

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Frankly, most girls and boys simply want to get to know other people as just friends at first. It is kind of stupid to think you are required to "hook up" with every girl you meet.

That cartoon you showed is not real... and neither are movies. Yes, a tramp might be attracted by you acting like a stupid jerk like that... but she will also be just as attracted to the next guy she meets.
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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1. I do nothing. She wouldn't like me anyhow.

2. I wouldn't approach her because (see #1). She would have to approach me. Her odds still aren't good because (see #1)
 
PennEd

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AuntieAnt said:
I put my cards on the table, he puts his cards on the table, we play the game until one or both of us discovers somebody ain't playing with a full deck and then we part ways. :rolleyes: j/k

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I like the honesty of cards on the table but I don't know anyone who has all 52 cards!
 
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emjcares

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Jokers are Wild

I have no idea why I said that. :p
 
Born_Again

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I have "auto-Friend Zone" setting. The second I meet them, I automatically friend zone them. It keeps things neutral. LOL
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Dunno. Only had two romances, both via the internet :p

I'm still friends with one of them though, maybe I should ask him what I should have done back then (just for an Awkward 1000 bonus)
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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Born_Again said:
I have "auto-Friend Zone" setting. The second I meet them, I automatically friend zone them. It keeps things neutral. LOL
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I have something similar. I am automatically friend-zoned by women. I am that "funny, smart and cute guy who just isn't really my type". In the end though, it works well for me.
 
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