Solitude without Loneliness

[Born_Again]

So true. A romantic relationship is not necessarily a cure for boredom. For example, a lot of married folks are bored with their marriages. That happens a lot, although it's something church folk rarely talk about or acknowledge.

I was more lonely in my marriage than I am now. Im really not lonely. I get bored from time to time but I cure that with a nap. lol

 

[proverbs35]

You can enjoy time alone with just yourself and not be lonely. It's not wrong to not want to be married.

You can be married and be super lonely. There was a time period when I was married when I was amazed at how lonely I was even when my husband was in the same room. When there's no connection with that person that is what happens. Being married or dating is not a guarantee at not being lonely.

Excellent point. This happens in a lot of marriages, yet it's rarely ever discussed of acknowledged especially by the church community. The church has it's own way of romanticizing marriage. However, a lot of married folks are lonely. If you don't think so, just read a few posts in the family forum.

 

[JesusLives]

Said in another thread - perhaps the screen name would be clearer as 1SolitaryKnight.

Just observing from other threads and after reading online, the extent and significance of the issue of loneliness.

What's at the root of it?

What is the remedy or prevention?

What does scripture say?

Are we all being enticed by the media and the world - so much ROMANce?

Are preachers and teachers and bosses merely pimps?

Is there an intellectual intercouse we are missing and falling to fornication - both physical and spiritual?

Any comments on the article? Any other info or ideas to share?

I was married young and I can remember being in a crowded room full of people and feeling so lonely....I was divorced and much older before I realized that the Bible told me Lo I am with you always even till the end of the world. It was when I discovered a relationship with Jesus and held onto the promise that He was always with me no matter what and then I didn't feel lonely anymore. At least not that deep inner loneliness because I knew Jesus was with me.

It is hard though when you are in a house by yourself and the silence is so loud wanting someone to talk you to out loud.... But I learned to take comfort knowing God was with me and I could talk to Him anytime even if He wasn't answering out loud....

I divorced at 24 and was single for 35 years had my daughter to raise so I wasn't alone the whole time.

I think too once you get comfortable with yourself being alone isn't such a problem either.

A remedy or prevention probably making friends and developing your relationship with them and God. Getting busy finding ways to help people at least can take your mind off of yourself and putting a focus somewhere else.

Just a few of my scattered thoughts.