Maybe the Canadian diplomatic approach is sometimes preferable...
Maybe learn the definition of "TACT"
Being able to say to the fire starter, talking in such a nice direct way, that when you are done they look forward to the trip to hell?
Taking it at ease what others try to start, is being aware of selfish attitudes, there are many of us, but only with a dream of being the center of the universe, and just can't let go of it, being the center and everyone else orbits around them, and when one does not they orbit as a helicopter around that one that quit paying attention to them
A common factor to all nature, we want to be accepted right?
So we have what we have, a centered being, trying to fill the whole in one's and our heart, that can only truly be filled by Christ through Father, and led by Father in the Holy Spirit of Father, the same Holy Spirit that led Christ
Christ was never the center, think deeply, he never put himself as the center, he put Father as the center.
What does Father do in return? Makes Son the center, not self
So when one comes to Christ, we make Christ the center along with Father, and what does Father and Son do in reply?
By you not being the center you are the center in reply from Jesus and Father. no fighting over selfishness in wanting to be the center, one is by not
there is a saying in the movie enter the dragon, where Bruce lee says his style of fighting is " the art of fighting, is not fighting"
Get it? I pray