Hiya, Hellobacky! I understand your feelings of knowing that it's good to be content on being single since it allows more freedom to focus on God, and all the while desiring a godly, earthly relationship with a man. I never thought I'd be engaged, because I had lost hope in finding a "good cookie" and began to distrust men ... all the while thinking they were "rotten eggs." My mom got onto me a lot telling me that not all men were bad and that I needed to lighten up. My thoughts and emotions had been greatly affected by my father's verbal abuse and my mom having been in multiple marriages. I had been praying to God that he'd show me who "the one" was. I got caught up in asking God to show me who the right guy was by him calling me "angel".... just so I'd be sure.
I honestly don't believe "the one" exists. When people get caught up in thinking "their perfect match" is out in the world somewhere, they could end up overlooking some very great people (in this case men) in which to develop a relationship with. I feel that God does have many people out there that could match up with you well. And as long as you keep praying and waiting .... he'll bring one your way. He won't be perfect since he's human... but if he's godly, he will be willing to meet your needs and love you how he's called to.
I was lucky enough that God sent a man my way and it took around three years of growing a friendship for me to realize I wanted to date him. Now we are engaged, and I love being able to finally serve and love a man that is willing to serve and love me. I was going through a lot of depression and God new I needed a good, godly friend to help me out. And and engagement, and future marriage, is growing out of that friendship ... thanks to our Great God!
God knows the desire of your heart, and he knows what you have need of even before you speak it. I'm sure that God will meet that need in time.... just keep an eye out! Please, don't lose hope.... there are great, godly men in the world who are willing to be those that live in it, but are not of it. Sadly, there are a lot of "christians" in church.... and I'm sorry that you feel there aren't really any good men in your church. Maybe there is and you don't see it? If there isn't.... God will find a man for you elsewhere.