The greatest disappointment in my (your) life.

[czn2107]

My greatest disappointment in life was when I found out that my husband was cheating on me, I found this out a month before our second anniversary. I think it hurt so much because I gave my entire life to him, I saved myself for marriage, I was never unfaithful to him in any way, I never kept any secrets from him and never expected him to betray me like that. What made things worse was seeing him with that other person, I cant get the image out of my head. We are trying to work things out but its very difficult, I feel like giving up most of the time but my love for him is holding me back.​

 

[1corinthians13]

When I am faced with disappointment I usually start off with a good cry hehe. Then a long talk with my mom and some prayer!

My greatest disappointment? My dad... I made the decision to no longer allow him to be a part of my life and I constantly struggle with whether or not that is what God wants for me. I'm still on the path to forgiving him but don't think I can do that with him in my life... and don't think he would stop doing what I am forgiving him for doing... So it feels like the healthiest choice is to not have him in my life.

The biggest disappointment here is I cannot have a relationship with my younger siblings (children he has with my stepmother). This was a huge, painful sacrifice but I pray about it and know God will make a way... In fact, I was able to videochat with my sisters earlier this year (hadn't talked to them in 6 years) without having to talk to my dad. Very emotional moment but the highlight of my year... God is SO GOOD.

 

[Chey60]

I feel myself very down today. I wanted to study at this one school... But it looks like I should forget about it this year.

What has been the 'greatest' disappointment in your life? How do you deal with disappointments in your life?
And -> maybe you have some advice on how to move on after a disappointing situation? Thanks in advice.

Marrying out of God's will and having children with that man..
They today are not walking with God at all..and they picked ungodly women
as mothers of their children and
it just is gonna snowball ..with my 4 grandkids..
and though their father and his wife (he left me for her)
attend a church now.. it's almost too late for him to be that example
if he even does get off the fence.
I wish that I would have given my oldest son a better stepfather..
and been a better wife and mother..
Had I to do it all over again, I would have waited on God..
lived for Him early on and not run from Him making a complete different
and ungodly pathway.
so I am disappointed in myself that I wasn't where I am now..in my walk..

 

[Chey60]

When I am faced with disappointment I usually start off with a good cry hehe. Then a long talk with my mom and some prayer!

My greatest disappointment? My dad... I made the decision to no longer allow him to be a part of my life and I constantly struggle with whether or not that is what God wants for me. I'm still on the path to forgiving him but don't think I can do that with him in my life... and don't think he would stop doing what I am forgiving him for doing... So it feels like the healthiest choice is to not have him in my life.

The biggest disappointment here is I cannot have a relationship with my younger siblings (children he has with my stepmother). This was a huge, painful sacrifice but I pray about it and know God will make a way... In fact, I was able to videochat with my sisters earlier this year (hadn't talked to them in 6 years) without having to talk to my dad. Very emotional moment but the highlight of my year... God is SO GOOD.

I had huge daddy issues..and last year God reconciled me.. has my father changed his behavior? no..but gosh God changed my feelings towards Him with one chat with my sister who told me something about him I just never would have thought..
my heart softened..
and I went to visit last year..and I saw my father and I put everything in the past.. he looked awful and sickly and old. (it makes me cry thinking about it) and I had compassion just as Christ had on me..
and I touched his arm and I said for the first time EVER! "its gonna be ok Daddy" ( I never called him daddy.. I called him many other names but not that) when he walked past me he scuffed my hair like you would a child..and I knew that was God. I don't have contact with him now..not that I don't want to but I have been busy and haven't taken the time to write my aunt so that she can relay the messages. I plan to ask her for his email.. I know scripture says honor your mother and father...but so many fathers make it hard to do so.. I just know for me? it was time.. and God made a way
Not everyone should require feelings to change before choosing to forgive and not everyone is called to reconcile..but to just soften their hearts and be willing to not harbor things..but for me this is what God did

praying for you Ask for wisdom, He freely gives it..

 

[kenthomas27]

The greatest disappointment of my life thus far is a long-ish story, but in a nutshell, I got fired from a ministry last summer because the president of the ministry...well it's a long story. One of the reasons was because I saw some issues with some things, and as a sister in Christ I went to her to talk with her about them. She took it as an attack, and I was fired a week later. When she fired me, she just ripped into me for 20 minutes about how horrible I am, basically. As a person. Not as a worker. Not a good thing to hear that from an older Christian woman I loved and respected, and not a good thing to happen to someone who already struggled with their value.

Like I said, though, that's the nutshell version. It's more the nutshell version of the nutshell verison, because it goes much deeper and more extended than that.

This was a ministry that I had been connected to, in heart and spirit, for 2 years. Even before those 2 years, other things had been happening in my life that was also connected to it.

I know it sounds so vague and confusing. The whole story would take way more than anyone would care to read. But, it was a huge disappointment. To have this 2+ year buildup to something that got pulled out from under me in an extremely painful way less than 4.5 months in.

It is still taking me time to heal. But...God definitely taught me (and is teaching me) things throughout it all, and I can already see some good from it.

Sometimes, years down the road, you can look back and say "Oooh, so that's what that was for." It's hard to think of that when you're going through it. Just keep your eyes on God and be willing to open your heart to what He may want to show you through the disappointments.

When Lazarus died, the people wondered why He hadn't come earlier; He just took His time. But, they had never seen a resurrection before. This was something new He wanted to show them, and He wouldn't have been able to had His timing been different. I read in a great study that the Lord does this with us sometimes: We go through things to learn new things about Him that we didn't know before and otherwise wouldn't have known.

ETA: My "nutshell post" turned out to be longer than I thought. Whoops.

Well this here was kind of a disappointment! I was getting all nestled in around the campfire for what sounded like a pretty good story and you PULLED THE RUG RIGHT OUT FROM UNDERNEATH ME! It's kind of like listening to this ".....then Mrs. Dabershire found scratch marks on the screen right outside the girls dormitory window. Except the scratches weren't random. They had spelled out horrible words and named someone by name. They said ....." "Well, that's enough of that story - I don't want to bore you. This post is already longer than I had planned". WHAT??

 

[mystdancer50]

I didn't read any other posts except the OP. It made me immediately think of a time in my life when I was struggling with a lot of things. I was in the woods with a list of questions and answers and I was supposed to surrender them to God. The things that I couldn't surrender, I was supposed to tear off the piece of paper and hold onto it and bury the rest with a heart-shaped red stone that I had in my bag of promises. Some of you will know what part of this is referring to if you've read Hinds Feet on High Places, the story of Much Afraid.

Anyway, as I sat there, with my back against the tree, I slowly surrendered everything...except for one thing. I carefully and tearfully tore off the question regarding my dreams and my soulful answer regarding school and marriage and the call God had on my life. I just couldn't surrender those. What if God didn't want me to go to school? What if all of my dreams were just gone forever once I gave them to Him? I cried and stared down at the rest of the paper in the hole with the little red heart of stone. "I can't do it, God. I just can't."

After a short time, and His gentle and loving encouragement, I finally surrendered my dreams. At the same time, I felt a weight come upon me and a weight lift, but I was content to trust my dreams to Him. I buried the whole paper, though now in separate pieces, with the little stone heart at the base of the tree and stood to my feet. It was then that I knew everything would be okay. It was in His hands.

It wouldn't be until later that He would reveal an amazing truth to me. Here it is:

When we give God our dreams, fully and completely, He takes them and untangles them and returns them to us, better and lovelier than when we surrendered them. I hadn't even realized that my dreams were just a ball of tangled desires and mixed-up ideas and half-started ventures. It wasn't until I gave them over to Jesus Christ fully and He, later, returned them to me, smooth and defined and lovely, that I realized what a mess my dreams truly were...until they were touched by the Master's hands.

Sometimes, we feel as though our lives are not going at all like we planned...and that is actually a good thing. God is in control. His plans are far better than our own. When we surrender our dreams and plans and goals to Him, He doesn't take them and toss them aside as worthless or pointless. Rather, He takes them and refines them and makes them reachable and obtainable and so amazingly desirable, that once you see them, you cannot help but wonder why you held onto your version for as long as you did.

 

[blueorchidjd]

Money is the greatest disappointment.
Also, sin.
............and food.