The reason loneliness hurts

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God-Diva

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Wow, thank you for this deep, sincere comment. Many married people have admitted to me that they are lonely in their marriage. Marriage is not the cure all for your troubles. We don't know what people put up with behind close doors. Everyone can keep a church face. Yes, it gets lonely sometimes but everyone has a cross to bear for something. Don't concentrate on the lonliness because it can make you down. Do not give a pedestal to loneliness because it is one more thing we have to put in check with our thoughts. And yes, there is a generation gap between Christians. You were talking to a elder Christian that didn't discuss certain things openly in her day. Just a suggestion, get a confidante who is around your age who is STRONG in the Lord who you can trust to talk to. If this person doesn't exist for you yet, pray that the Lord will send that person because we all need a confidante. Best wishes to you.
 
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God-Diva

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zeroturbulence said:
I've seen some people say that its best to focus on God and not let yourself worry about finding a mate, or that one should learn to be happy being single. I've always believed that there is a reason for how our minds and our bodies work as human beings because our creator made it that way. For example we get hungry when our body needs food, we get tired when our bodies need rest, we become worried when there is something we need to fix, we become happy when we feel loved or appreciated. By the same token, we feel sad and desperate when we are lonely. This is not an accident. It is evidence that we were designed by our creator to want to go out and find ourselves a mate. That is what this longing called loneliness is. One cannot fully experience human love by focusing on Jesus or by having a friend who is not their partner in a relationship. Only with a loving partner can one fully experience human love.

[It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18 (KJV)

The other reason I believe God wanted us to actively look for a mate is because of the simple fact that if we all sat around waiting for that perfect mate then how and when can the next generation be born and raised?

"As for you, be fruitful and multiply; Populate the earth abundantly and multiply in it."
Genesis 9:7 (NASB)

It is fine to focus on Jesus' love to get you through your loneliness, I've done it myself on many occasions, but we shouldn't continually try to ignore the tugging at our hearts to go and find someone who might become our partner in every sense of the word, so that we can experience human love as God wants us to experience it and so we can bring forth the next generation of young christians and not continue to be outnumbered by the worldly who have no qualms about dating and marrying.

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you."
Matthew 7:7 (NIV)
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Ok, I get what you are saying. I am assuming you are a male. Speaking from a female point of view, we are not to be the hunters, you are. So you have the right idea to find a wife because the Bible says "a man finds a wife finds a good thing". Trust me, I would be married by now from my own doing but it is very clear I will be out of order to do the pursuing. Now, I don't sit at the house waiting for a mate either. I get out and about as a Christian single but I am not going to rush and get engage to every man that shows interest in me. I am not needy or desperate. I rather be on my own and satisfied than to give in to every "longing" that comes around every blue moon by getting married when it may not be my season. God has really shown me his supply and protection while being a single woman. There is a song, "Whatever come what may the answer is still yes. It talks about whatever circumstances, trials, or tribulations come in our lives, we still have to say yes to the Lord. Remember, marriage is only for the here and now, not ETERNITY. God Bless
 
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gabitrish

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yes lonelyness hurts but i believe we r all single becoz we r depending on God for a mate at the right tym but the intense hurt from loneliness comes from the devil cos God does not inflict pain, and thru this hurt from lonliness we r being tried concerning our faith and this faith has to be brought to perseverence so just tell the devil i am lonely cos i choose to honour God till its the right tym for me to have a mate.. i personally i choose to develop myself in christ as i wait for the one God made for me cos dating espsecially long dating leads to fornication
 
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mimiflor

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I barely came out from a relationship. I have always thought I needed someone to be happy. Now I realize I really need some time alone even if it hurts, because I haven't dedicated some time to myself in such a long time. Whenever I feel ready to be in a relationship and if it happens, because I still do want someone with me, but not yet. So far I only need friends and my family. So to be able to read this doesn't make me feel bad because this is how I really feel most of the time.
 
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FireWire

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Loneliness only hurts if you let it. I've never asked a woman on a date let alone been married. I've had one relationship (or whatever it was) and got screwed over. It's very rarely that I let "loneliness" get me down.
The other side of the coin is we have all this technology that can keep us interconnected and yet society is even more lonely as a whole. The irony is this technology was started by people known to be loner types and unsociable.

The song playing on the radio is:

We all want love
We all want honour
But no-one wants to pay the asking price
 
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