The "too nice" thing

[NukePooch]

Shoot. I had just done a google search, and found that same pic of Liamson. Kayem beat me to it!

But...do you have video?


YouTube - ‪Best All-Star Male Cheer Dance "EVER"‬‏

 

[thimsrebma]

Okay, first off I want to give you a high five because I think black women are really getting the short end of the racial stick that is the dominant culture of the day. Like us you're getting kicked in the teeth with the strange Hollywood and cultural insistance of a Hitler-esque racial perfection which unlike back in the 1930's now insists that the ultimate is in fact a WHITE woman and an ethnic man of some sort. I guess what confuses me about Christian messages these days is that while its considered important to tell me and my group to not tarnish ourselves by becoming racist, NO ONE wants to stand up against the practises that have become so widespread.

I've been watching campaigns going on for years now to encourage UNDERAGED girls to have sex for multicultural purposes and you would think that any Christian leaders with any intestinal fortitude would stand up and condemn these practises. Instead, silence abounds because these wussies are so afraid fo being called "racists." I think this most pathetic and un-Christian of anything. Further, I notice with all of the talk of "badboys" whether its racial or just each''s own behaviour NO ONE has decided as yet on this thread to give a cautionary speech to all the women asking for such. I don't hear "HEY LADIES,WHATEVER BEHAVIOUR YOU MEAN BY THIS, REMEMBER GOD HAS RULES AGAINST PRE-MARITAL SEX AND FORNICATION. IF YOU'RE TRYING TO BE A GOD FEARING CHRISTIAN PLAN YOUR ACTIONS ACCORDINGLY AND BE VERY CAREFUL OF JUST WHAT EXCITING BAD BOY CHARACTERISTICS YOU'RE ESPOUSING."

Actually multiculturalism has nothing to do with promoting interacial sex relations. Its about respecting others even though they are different culturally. Its about knowing that just because someone is from another place, geographically and or economically, you can still get along and be friends.

Maybe some people have turn it into a promotion of white women and other guys, but that's not its original intent. You see people take stuff and run with it. They take something that is meant to be good and benefit society and turn it into something else that can be detrimental. So its not really fair to blame multiculturalism in and of itself. The blame is on groups or individuals who have low morals and standards and then call it multiculturalism.

I don't know what kind of people you hang out with or live in your town but where I come from people date people they like and no one brags about dating someone of another race. At least none of the people I know do, especially not the Christian ones. You probably need to find new friends and or church.

 

[persecuted]

Actually multiculturalism has nothing to do with promoting interacial sex relations. Its about respecting others even though they are different culturally. Its about knowing that just because someone is from another place, geographically and or economically, you can still get along and be friends.

Maybe some people have turn it into a promotion of white women and other guys, but that's not its original intent. You see people take stuff and run with it. They take something that is meant to be good and benefit society and turn it into something else that can be detrimental. So its not really fair to blame multiculturalism in and of itself. The blame is on groups or individuals who have low morals and standards and then call it multiculturalism.

I don't know what kind of people you hang out with or live in your town but where I come from people date people they like and no one brags about dating someone of another race. At least none of the people I know do, especially not the Christian ones. You probably need to find new friends and or church.

You must live in a healthier environment than me. I find groups and individuals always seem to find ways to twist things for their own benefit in ways that aren't equitable or just.I think multiculturalism is doomed to fail in a very ugly way someday because of that. I wish for now that sexual politics and people trying to prove themselves in in your face type ways wasn't so much a part of the singles scene. Most of that last sentence strangely enough covers my last number of posts whether anyone would agree or not. I don't know that women will understand this but it seems to me that chasing women is like being a Nation involved in constant border disputes. That it isn't so much a one to one game of a male meeting a female and interacting with each other but rather a constant battle involving full out warfare of all males seeking females within any geographical location. While I am pretty much always single I've started to realize that if I had a girlfriend I'd be dealing with a constant barrage of guys coming in to try to take her away from me pretty much anywhere and everywhere I go.

 

[thimsrebma]

You must live in a healthier environment than me. I find groups and individuals always seem to find ways to twist things for their own benefit in ways that aren't equitable or just.I think multiculturalism is doomed to fail in a very ugly way someday because of that. I wish for now that sexual politics and people trying to prove themselves in in your face type ways wasn't so much a part of the singles scene. Most of that last sentence strangely enough covers my last number of posts whether anyone would agree or not. I don't know that women will understand this but it seems to me that chasing women is like being a Nation involved in constant border disputes. That it isn't so much a one to one game of a male meeting a female and interacting with each other but rather a constant battle involving full out warfare of all males seeking females within any geographical location. While I am pretty much always single I've started to realize that if I had a girlfriend I'd be dealing with a constant barrage of guys coming in to try to take her away from me pretty much anywhere and everywhere I go.

Well, find you good church. GO regularly. Become involved in fellowship. There are always plenty of women there. Not saying you should go just to pick up a woman, but you will meet lots og woman who love to serve the Lord, do not fornicate and only want a man who wants to serve the Lord with them. It will help you to see that we are not all double minded, lustful creatures. Your heart will be healed and you will develop a new confidence in developing relationships with people in general.

 

[persecuted]

Well, find you good church. GO regularly. Become involved in fellowship. There are always plenty of women there. Not saying you should go just to pick up a woman, but you will meet lots og woman who love to serve the Lord, do not fornicate and only want a man who wants to serve the Lord with them. It will help you to see that we are not all double minded, lustful creatures. Your heart will be healed and you will develop a new confidence in developing relationships with people in general.

Well what more can I say, I thank you for being a good hearted and patient person. Those qualities are rare these days.

 

[Jullianna]

I've learned a lot this week, including what "too nice" means in my life. Maybe it only applies to me, but it seems like some of us are intimidating to "nice guys" for whatever reason. While I have never in my life dated what I would consider to be a "bad boy", seems like nice guys just short of the line are the only ones who will step up to bat. The others are just "too nice". *shrugs* I guess it is what it is and we are who we are. As it says in Deuternomy, there comes a time when we've encompassed that mountain long enough.

 

[Liamson]

At the end of the day, I don't consider myself a "nice guy" I'm sure some people think of me like that and I'm working on it, but its a work in progress.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

At the end of the day, I don't consider myself a "nice guy" I'm sure some people think of me like that and I'm working on it, but its a work in progress.

if it makes you feel any better, i dont consider you a ''nice guy'' either


i joke

 

[Jullianna]

At the end of the day, I don't consider myself a "nice guy" I'm sure some people think of me like that and I'm working on it, but its a work in progress.

I've never considered myself "too nice" either. I guess I was right. I'm a work in progress, but there will probably always be a daring streak in me that most folks just don't get. At least I hope so, cos some days that's about the only part of me I actually like.

 

[persecuted]

I've learned a lot this week, including what "too nice" means in my life. Maybe it only applies to me, but it seems like some of us are intimidating to "nice guys" for whatever reason. While I have never in my life dated what I would consider to be a "bad boy", seems like nice guys just short of the line are the only ones who will step up to bat. The others are just "too nice". *shrugs* I guess it is what it is and we are who we are. As it says in Deuternomy, there comes a time when we've encompassed that mountain long enough.

Yeah, I too was thinking about this one this week. I was at some busy event and there was all of these beautiful women just kinda standing around, and every time I started to talk to one, one or more guys appeared and decided they needed to get in there as well and pretty much stepped right over me to do such. Been thinking today (not that its new) that I lack as a man with this pattern going on and on. But I also wonder what this mechanism is in apparently most of the other guys that they have no courage to talk to the women themselves in the first place unless they see someone else doing it. Am I the nice guy? Are they the nice guys? Are we all nice guys? I don't even feel any anger at these guys because I start up the conversation, then on the occasions its actually going good I start wishing someone would save me because I have no further plans 99% of the time.