Words do not mean a whole lot if the person in the relationship switches back and forth to cutting down,compliment,cutting down,compliment.It will not work.
When people are in a relationship they have to watch what they say,for if they say one wrong word,or phrase,the other person will think why did they say that to me,and it will never be the same.
My aunt got a divorce,and I was wondering why,which they got a computer,and she was saying basically that he is a dummy for not picking up on it as fast as she would like,and you know how people get frustrated over that,and she probably insulted his intelligence,and then he fired back she was too old for him,did not look good enough,and other insults,and after an extended period of that they got a divorce.
People have to watch what they say,and if they say something wrong,then they say something nice might cheer the person up a little,but they will still have that in their mind about the time they dogged them out,and think it could happen again,for even someone deceitful,and mean,will still say things nice once in a while for their advantage,but will go back to dogging to suit their personality.
And the same for actions if not right would cause the person to have the same view,why did that person do that,and it will never be the same.
So unruin date,or any relationship,who knows,but people know some people can change,but with the divorce rate,and people splitting up,there is a whole lot that do not change.