I agree. Not nice men at all.
Good news is: God can turn all the negative experiences you have had and have into huge blessings. There is a way out of the darkness, but sometimes the walk through the desert seems too long and unbearable. And when you finally get to the promised land (not necessarily in Heaven but here on Earth) you will see that every heartbreak, every tear and every rejection lead you and prepared you for it. For me that walk took more than 20 years and I can truly say, God loved me and protected me through the illness, the abuse, the violence and the humiliation. And I believe that He has still more to come.