Who needs encouragement?

[Encouragement]

i think the big brother and big sister organisations are a good thing.
Although you need to be careful about some youth organisations these days.

definitely needs to be more guidance counsellors and student support in schools. Libraries are good places to go. No judgement there.

I remember this boy coming in, he was a somewhat bully to others in the school as stuff was going on in his family life. I just encourgaed him with books, he would always come and talk to me.
He once asked me to come to his baptism. I went but on the day he was meant to, his parents wouldnt let him. He left as he was a year 6 and his younger sibling has left this school now but he got a top reading prize. I just would pray for him (in private) and hope the prayers will work in his life. He eventually stopped bullying others as he confessed to me what he did was not right. i recall he used to tease other girls and call them boys if he thought they looked like boys and then laugh. They would be in tears. He stopped doing that. one day he was teasing some boy that was younger than him and the boy lashed out and clocked him one and he was shocked that it would turn violent. I said well thats not a good idea is it.

Children often just copy what their parents or older siblings do as they dont know or see anything else. Its not easy if parents are not encourgaing, but in most families there will be at least one member looking out for someone. (grandparent, aunty, uncle, older sibling) if not then you need to be that aunty or uncle or big sis or big bro.

Hi Lanolin yes you are right that one has to be careful about some youth organisations as sometimes the goings on in some of them are not very good.
That's a very interesting account about you shard here about that boy and seeing the degree of his transformation is heart warming to see.Him admitting the wrongness of is actions was most definitely a milestone for him and he seemed able to open up to you too.Sometimes kids bully the wrong person and end up worst off in the end either verbally or like what happened in his case end up physically assaulted..
You had a special privilege of interacting with him and seeing certain elements of his life.
Indeed may your prayers go before him creating a good and blessed path for him.👍
🙏🏻
Yes unfortunately some do learn about things from what they see at home.The examples they see and the type of messages it represents to them.Yes again I know people who were raised by an auntie or grandmother or were supported by a member outside of their family home..Sometimes parents have their own issues and struggles dealing with which can be detrimental to the family dynamic..and some must even be single parents too..

 

[Lanolin]

Im reading this book at the moment, just picked it up really called 'Dear Diary I'm pregnant'
Its ten true life stories, the author interviewed 10 mums who were pregnant in their teens and what they did with their babies (adopt them out, abortion, or keeping them)
Its interesting so far. I think its very hard if you dont have any support and your parents or the dad refuse to help out. Definitely something one needs courage for.

Imagine if Mary did not go through with her pregnancy...or adopted Jesus out. Would she have had a different life? I dont know.

 

[SkittlePumpkin]

Well, I'm recently separated from my husband and will be getting divorced, so I've been a bit all over the map emotionally, as one can imagine; encouragement is always needed 🤗
Long, long, looooooong story short, it was a case of 1 Corinthians 7:15.

 

[Magenta]

Well, I'm recently separated from my husband and will be getting divorced, so I've been a bit all over the map emotionally, as one can imagine; encouragement is always needed 🤗
Long, long, looooooong story short, it was a case of 1 Corinthians 7:15.

I am so sorry to hear that, Skittles

Romans 8:28

 

[SkittlePumpkin]

I am so sorry to hear that, Skittles

Thank you ❤
It's difficult because it was such a huge chunk of my life; we were married for 11 years, and I was still in high school when we met. Being a single adult, is a totally foreign concept to me, and being a single mom of young children is...challenging to say the least haha.
But honestly, I am SO thankful to God for rescuing the children and I. It was a very mentally/emotionally abusive marriage, and he let a lot of things into our home that were extremely dangerous spiritually, especially for our children.
God has been faithful, as He always is ❤

 

[Encouragement]

Well, I'm recently separated from my husband and will be getting divorced, so I've been a bit all over the map emotionally, as one can imagine; encouragement is always needed 🤗
Long, long, looooooong story short, it was a case of 1 Corinthians 7:15.

HI Skittlepumpkin (what a lovely name😊)..Thank you so much for checking out this thread and for posting some information about ur situation..👍
Firstly is ALWAYS SAD when married couples become separated with the view to divorce as all the time,effort,both emotional and physical investment made doesn't produce the longevity expected.Yet as you already know unfortunately seperations and esp divorce at times is the only real solution left when all other methods have failed.
Having children does add another dimension and yes the whole thing is most definatley life changing and there are lots of things at times to sort out and come to agreement upon like visiting rights for the other spouse,maintenance support and much more.So it can be emotionally mentally even morally demanding/draining at times as compromising/flexibility at times (like protecting the kids,spouses grand parents,other in-laws...ect ect) may be necessary on certain things but NOT on other things too.
God Has taken Christians through divorces over many years and has blessed their lives greatly...though he hates it...I have seen his provision I some where the situation could only be resolved by divorce.I know you have seen Gods hand in ur situation too.👍
A member of my family(christian) HAD to divorce their husband for lots of reasons but the main one was that he had historically been heavily involved occult activity and still was at the time...(they married them in the 60's and didn't fully understand what they were really up too)..God rescued them and there grown up kids from certain premature death coz the level of satanic influence on the other parter was just beyond words...truly..🤦‍♂️
So i can understand when you mentioned that he brought spiritual dangers into the home.
God has kept you and you children and he is often there to compensate where a father/husband is absent physically.
He makes a way financially,protects,guides,gives wisdom ect...he is faithful..and will forever be at ur side and ALL legal battles he is there to fight for you 100000%.
11 years and the fact that you were in high school when you meet means that you are still relatively young still and God will help you through this unknown territory of being single,being a single mum...plus 1st and foremost you are a woman 1st..and as a woman you have gone through varying levels of abuse and be open to God for any emotional/pyscological healing.
Jus take one day at a time and rely on God to help you through the process and prayer is now your greater weapon and allie.
God has already gone ahead of you in time and has already mapped out your futures and he is STILL IN FULL CONTROL.
There will be things to go through still be rest assured God will.be by ur side and I am assuming you have support from your own family/friends/legal team right?
It takes courage and real grit to leave a marriage that is dysfunctional and harmful....and you and your kids well being is paramount and may God help you with your children and that they are protected and that you will know how to answer their questions ect..
You will get through this in JESUS NAME..
I will remember you in my prayers for sure..🙏🙏
Still love that profile name😊😊