Why are relationships developed?

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JesusLives

JesusLives

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True Story....

My daughter and I met to have lunch on Tuesday and as we were eating a group of 4 people who had sat in the booth next to ours got up to leave and one of the gentlemen said ask her if you can have a bite? The wife of one had stopped and asked what my daughter was eating which was shrimp and grits (we were at a New Orlean's style eatery), anyway they started talking to us and my daughter asked are you from up north? The one man answered how could you tell? My accent and she said no usually people up north don't know too much about grits...

Well we continued to talk and I mentioned that I had come originally from Indiana and the other guy asked what part? I said Muncie....He said No Way that's where we are from....then proceeds to ask me last names of people and I give him a few one being Rainey and he said Lester or Jack Rainey? I go yep.....they were my Uncle's brothers or cousins.....Small world....and that is how relationships get started you just open up your mouth and start talking.....

Or in our case on CC.....You just start typing and let people get to know you.
 
p_rehbein

p_rehbein

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Originally Posted by wisebeardman
no idea. wots a relationship


You sign on to CC. Read a comment on a thread, reply to that comment. Someone replies to your comment, and you reply to theirs...........you have just entered the RELATIONSHIP ZONE! Proceed with caution. :)

Apparently, you are involved in MANY relationships here on CC..............just saying
 
Willie-T

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JesusLives said:
True Story....

My daughter and I met to have lunch on Tuesday and as we were eating a group of 4 people who had sat in the booth next to ours got up to leave and one of the gentlemen said ask her if you can have a bite? The wife of one had stopped and asked what my daughter was eating which was shrimp and grits (we were at a New Orlean's style eatery), anyway they started talking to us and my daughter asked are you from up north? The one man answered how could you tell? My accent and she said no usually people up north don't know too much about grits...

Well we continued to talk and I mentioned that I had come originally from Indiana and the other guy asked what part? I said Muncie....He said No Way that's where we are from....then proceeds to ask me last names of people and I give him a few one being Rainey and he said Lester or Jack Rainey? I go yep.....they were my Uncle's brothers or cousins.....Small world....and that is how relationships get started you just open up your mouth and start talking.....

Or in our case on CC.....You just start typing and let people get to know you.
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This is how anything, and everything gets started. At our church we have a saying (well.. several, but one in particular). We say that we spell FAITH.... R.I.S.K. If we risk nothing, we get nothing....... or, at least what we get is less than it might have been.
 
Willie-T

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I was born right here in St. Pete, in a hospital that no longer exists. I yack it up with everybody, but I'm still waiting to find someone born in the same hospital.

But, that IS a small problem with living in this area, and expecting to find natives..... almost no one is from here.
 
Willie-T

Willie-T

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Just want to clear up something......
You are "The Blond", not "Blondie", right?
 
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cmarieh

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Willie-T said:
This is how anything, and everything gets started. At our church we have a saying (well.. several, but one in particular). We say that we spell FAITH.... R.I.S.K. If we risk nothing, we get nothing....... or, at least what we get is less than it might have been.
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Very true!
 
Lynx

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p_rehbein said:
Originally Posted by wisebeardman
no idea. wots a relationship


You sign on to CC. Read a comment on a thread, reply to that comment. Someone replies to your comment, and you reply to theirs...........you have just entered the RELATIONSHIP ZONE! Proceed with caution. :)

Apparently, you are involved in MANY relationships here on CC..............just saying
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I wish, I wish, I wish I could like this more than once. ZING!
 
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cmarieh

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Willie-T said:
And, now I just have to learn how to really LIVE that saying, instead of just thinking it's only ok for some things.
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God has been working on this with me and I have gained some friends because I have opened up to them. I also have gotten out of my comfort zone and applied for a work study job which I got because the interviewer said that I was upbeat and easy to communicate with. I am still struggling with it, but it is a working progress. God helps those who helps themselves.
 
jamie26301

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mystikmind said:
Joking aside, there is a certain honesty to this comment that has far reaching consequences for all of us who think we know the answer, but the reality is, we know very little.
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So few Americans, it seems, really know how to communicate with one another, in a healthy, constructive manner. That includes being honest and upfront about what you want and your expectations (which are often unrealistic, and also part of the problem. Thank you pop culture.) So, I would say yes, many really don't know what a good relationship is or at least don't know how to go about cultivating one - hence all the drama queens (and kings) and high divorce rate.

My husband and I get along great, but my problem with people I don't know is I'm too upfront for polite society to handle. Not tactless, just very honest about what I think. And that doesn't bode well for most.
 
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Breeze7

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What I was thinking when I started this thread was; God is prior to us so then, we develop in to "gods with a little g" because we are being perfect as our father in heaven is perfect( like one saying goes).

I guess I wanted to contact for a moment the inner work a person of faith engages in. See we leave most everything behind but that inner work is so so important to us, why, cuz we have this recognizer effect in the heart or soul of us all. That's all.
 
p_rehbein

p_rehbein

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Willie-T said:
Just want to clear up something......
You are "The Blond", not "Blondie", right?
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Yeah, I made that "blondie" mistake once...................JUST once.........sigh.........

We refer to her as "The Blonde," or "Her Highness."

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JaeSullivan

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Lynx said:
Why are relationships developed? Um... Why not? It's fun to talk to people, and it's easier to talk to people who already know you.

(Unless you have to chase and trap the people because they DO already know you and run from you because they know you... in which case it's probably easier to talk to total strangers... but that's beside the point.)

The guy I think of as my best friend outside of my family, a guy at church, is a friend with which I have little in common. He tells me about his stunt bike tricks, I tell him about trying out a batch of pickled eggs for the first time, he goes on about learning russian, I talk about running a whole computer system from a flash drive... we listen to each other talk and learn something about each other's universe. The single only thing we have in common - aside from being pentecostals of course - is that we both really enjoy dark chocolate and both have a tendency toward good quality chocolate.

Why did we become friends? Not just because of chocolate, I guarantee it. We just like to talk and are willing to listen while the other person talks. We're both enthusiasts about what we do, and we both appreciate the enthusiasm with which the other dives into whatever he's doing.
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This is too cute...the chase and run... I do relate. Thanks for a good laugh. I also really like that different can enjoy a friendship.

 
JonahLynx

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Physically, our biology drives us to seek relationships in order to reproduce. Fairly inescapable part of being human. Emotionally, there is a sense of self-validation that comes from being with other humans, and self-worth that comes from intimacy. Spiritually, God has created an order in which the Earth is maintained using the family structure, some are called to particular relationships and others to different ones.
 
maxwel

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Breeze7 said:
Do you feel we find or create relationships to move onward in the development of our life or transcend to something else in our stories? Do we interact in relationship to further our inward self and life?
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I think this is God's business, and He takes care of it.

I just try to do what God puts in front of me,
then let him bring people into my life as he sees fit.


I know we all get lonely,
but striving too hard to seek relationships isn't the solution...
this means we're focusing on our own loneliness,
and not on God.
God has given all of us things to do.
If we just do what he's put in front of us,
then we can be assured we're on the right path,
and we'll be encountering the people he wants us to encounter.

I think we can relax and trust God in all of these things.
 
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