Why did this guy treat me like this and made a mess of me?

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Well-known member
Mar 1, 2022
The best dating advice I see in the bible is Matthew 6:33...But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
If we are to trust in the Lord with all our hearts and lean not to our own understanding, shouldn't we also expect that God is directing our steps.
If this is so, whatever the outcome should be viewed as God working things out.
My take would have been...thanks Father for keeping someone from my life that, though seemed good, must not be best. I'm thankful that in your time and in your way you will choose someone for me who is best. Help me Father to wait joyfully knowing even the delay is designed to draw me closer to you and make me more in the image of your Son. You are an awesome God.


Active member
Jan 14, 2023
I am slightly anxious when it comes to communicating with men. The reason for this is that I consider myself not beautiful enough and even ugly sometimes, although I have often received attention from men.

However, something happened recently that made me a complete mess. I went to a party where one of the boys repeatedly initiated conversations with me. I noticed how he was often looking at me, one time even staring at me continuously, and even smiling at me. I also talked to him, smiling and trying my best to show that I was interested too.

Then, just when my insecure mind decided that maybe there is a slim chance that he liked me, I was left shocked. Suddenly, he asked me and my girlfriend for advice about some girl he met recently and liked, but she ghosted him.

Since he told us that he realized it wasn't worth it and got over her, I decided to keep communicating with him, hoping that we would at least exchange contacts in the end since we would never see each other again. But that didn't happen and we all left.

So, I welcomed the New Year with a shattered peace of mind, very confused, miserable, and convinced more than ever that apparently I'm not pretty enough or even ugly once he didn't do anything more. I know how he was looking at me, it was definitely not accidental eye contact, he was staring at me repeatedly and consistently. And he began initiating conversations. Am I really that delusional and if there is any chance he really liked me? But if he had, why didn't he want anything more?
You know none of us are mind readers.

Rather than put yourself through this why not ask him directly?
You have nothing to lose. What you'll gain is an answer one way or the other.