This is the one thing that has definitely made my life suffer in a negative way. It has affected my friendships, relationships, and family members. I'm sure most of us can relate to a bitter person, or the affects of one in our life. I can honestly understand if a worldly person can become infected by someone else's hurt, but I can't understand how Christians think they're are justified in being bitter towards something(or someone) and takes it out on someone close to them because a person once-upon-a-time-ago hurt them. Why is there such a need in us to hurt others the way we've been hurt? Nobody just simply wakes up bitter and sour towards people. Something had to have had happen in order for someone to intentionally say or do something to tear others down. How in the world can someone go from victim to villain in what seems like a short time? Is it to just gain back the pride we think we lose when someone close to us does something to hurt us? Do we consider it a form of pay back? Even when we take it out on someone who didn't do anything wrong? Imagine, as a follower of Christ, one day trying to convince God that it wasn't my fault I tore others down, it's the person/thing who hurt me who is to blame for what I did that hurt others!
Personally, at this time in my life, I'm afraid of becoming that bitter person. The hurt I've experienced from bitter and angry folks seem to be piling up, and I'm worried that I'll end becoming bitter and angry myself, or someone who distances himself from others because I'm afraid of opening myself up to the risk of befriending the wrong person and cause more hurt. I don't want to become either of them. Anybody got any words of advice on this topic?
Personally, at this time in my life, I'm afraid of becoming that bitter person. The hurt I've experienced from bitter and angry folks seem to be piling up, and I'm worried that I'll end becoming bitter and angry myself, or someone who distances himself from others because I'm afraid of opening myself up to the risk of befriending the wrong person and cause more hurt. I don't want to become either of them. Anybody got any words of advice on this topic?