Would you trust your parents picking your spouse?

[Nautilus]

This struck me as an interesting topic from a recent thread...Would you trust your parents in picking a spouse for you? Do they know what you like or look for in the opposite sex? Do you think they would come close?

 

[Ugly]

I wouldn't trust anyone else at all to pick a spouse for me. When my mom was alive she was always trying to point out girls to me. The problem is, she knew nothing about them, she just thought they were cute. She even set me up on a date with a friend of hers daughter. While the girl was cute, i could tell by her pic we were not compatible. And i was right, we went to the fair and had very little to talk about.
My dad has never really even tried, so not sure how he'd go about it, but i'm sure he wouldn't be much different, especially now. I remember he used to complain i was single years ago, so i doubt he'd get too picky.

 

[Tintin]

I trust my parents but I don't think they know what I like in a girl, actually I don't even have a clue. Maybe, if I had some input.

 

[LightningClap0002]

I had to choose 'I would go with their decision anyways' though it isn't exactly true. I know that my parents seek God's will as much, or maybe even more, than I do. I have no doubt that they would do so in my marriage just as they did in theirs. When I look at how strong and successful their marriage is, I have no doubt that it was God's will. As it is, I place a lot of value on their leading from God in such matters, so would likely take it heavily into account even if they weren't 'arranging' it.

What 'I like' has little to no bearing on it for me, but I do think they know me well enough to be able to make an educated guess themselves.

 

[Stuey]

Your bottom answer is not strong enough for me.

 

[Tintin]

Stuey, "heck, no"?

 

[zeroturbulence]

I think you first have to ask yourself if you would trust your parents picking your best friend for you.

 

[Jullianna]

My folks are both gone now, but, if I'd had SOME say in it, I would have trusted my stepfather to pick someone, but not my mom. He always had a sixth sense about people and when he didn't like a guy I was dating, he usually turned out to be right about them. I was very surprised when he didn't give me a hard time about dating/marrying someone who was quite a bit older than me, but, again, I think his sixth sense told him I'd found the right guy.

I sure wish my folks were around now. I would love to pick their brains on this topic and so many others.

 

[rachelsedge]

I trust my parents and I have a close relationship with them, but I don't think they'd be able to pick out a spouse for me. I'd be willing to go on a date with someone they picked out (maybe, with my input) but not a spouse.

I think that my brother would be the one who'd know what I want most in a spouse so if I were to trust anyone it'd probably be him, but even so, I'd rather not have anyone pick out my spouse for me.

 

[Fighting4Him]

My parents (especially my dad) know me very well. But I wouldn't just let them marry me off, I like to make my own decisions.

 

[Nautilus]

i dont think anyone in my family could pick someone for me, we are just far too different. My best friend might be able to, but it would be risky...

 

[StephenH]

No, I don't think they'd be able to. Have never been extraordinarily close to either of my parents, don't usually get further than small talk, so I wouldn't trust them to find me a spouse.

 

[Liamson]

When I was a kid I would let my mom pick out my clothing and go shopping for me.

The Philosophy cannot be applied to picking my spouse.


"So, I won't tell you where I found her but, lets just say she was a good bargain. Now I know she's a little big, but you'll grow into her."


I hate to say it but my dad, he may not know very many details about me but, he knows. He knows.

 

[arwen83]

No I wouldn't- my parents aren't Christian, so they would pick someone thats seems 'nice', and made sure that he has a good job and all that.

(P.S. I LOOOOOOOOOOOVE CC'S NEW LOOK! That picture of that guy sticking out his tongue on webcam and girl giggling in China was obnoxious. Glad they decided on a more mature look.)

 

[Powemm]

no
my mom keeps trying to play matchmaker ... I keep declining .. I want to see inside the cup not outside the cup... What's in His heart... coming to know Gods character has finally given me discerning truth of the reflection coming out of someone ... Easy to spot now... my focus is not on who is good for me right now though... But rather, am I letting God prepare me for my man when God brings Him.. men are wired differently then women ... I'm looking more into what men enjoy .. How god has wired your brains ... studying your ways .... Can't take care of something you know nothing about ...I think it's more about stepping out of the comfort zone of your own little world and expand your knowledge of the very creation God loves.. "us"
I'm
Not looking at what I can get... Looking at what I can give ... I have found I love working in the shop with tools... Cutting torches , putting things together .. Tools! Fishing is great fun! Learned how to fly fish and tie my own ties ... , I do photography on the side , and enjoy bible study , camping is always a must and time alone is important too... men are visual creature ..I've learned respect is important and honor is a plus ... Other things I will leave out ...
there is a place in reserve for the ine meant for me .. Won't give away his hugs , or let kisses be stolen ... I think it's about preparing ourselves instead for our partner , God willing He thinks we have anything good to offer of Him...

 

[violakat]

I put maybe. I honestly don't know. I think maybe introducing me to someone, I wouldn't have a problem with. However, I would want to make the decision of marrying him or not. Not my mom. As for my dad, he died when I was young, so I have no idea of what type of man he would choose for me.

 

[Ugly]

I think you first have to ask yourself if you would trust your parents picking your best friend for you.

Really? I made my decision without considering that. Don't really think you need to do that first.

 

[Pheonix]

I'm getting old enough now, and had enough trouble on my own that at this point I think I'd be fine with an arranged marriage. I would stipulate however that the two of us actually get to know each other before things are finalized permanently.

 

[4evrfree]

Actually I don't think my parents wouldn't even agree to it... I will defiantly want there blessing before I get married... They are very supportive of big choices I make because they say they trust me so if they couldn't give me their blessing I would have second thought about the person I wanted to marry... so no I don't think I would have them pick him out but would want their input when thing started to get serious with a guy

 

[meggars]

I think you first have to ask yourself if you would trust your parents picking your best friend for you.

I don't know that the two can be considered interchangeable...lol. After all, you don't have to be committed to your plain old best friend for the rest of time. while it might be unfortunate, friends come and go... there's no biblical law or precedent in regards to breaking up with a buddy. its like apples and oranges