Advice Please =/

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Talia_Pana

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Okay, idk what to do anymore.
My parents straight up dont trust my friends and they judge people wayyyyyy too much.
All of my friends in the past never made it to now becouse my parents told me not to speek to them.
The good ppl i pick for my friends are allways the ones to get taken away from me & the ones that my parents like are the most HORRIBLE ppl in the world.

Just bcuz my parents see them going to church they think their little angels that dont do nothing bad.
YEAH RIGHT!

but no, my parents wont believe that.
 
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Mands

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Hey :)


I may be bit old but I saw this on the forum board -- I've been where you are. It's not easy having your parents tell you who to be friends with, and the hardest thing I had to come to grips with is that I needed to honor my parents, even if I didn't agree. I TOTALLY get what your saying about kids that go to church and your parents think they are the kids you should be with -- but what your parents see sometimes isn't what those kids are really like. You should sit down and talk to your parents -- but don't raise your voice or smack walls (experience talking) that will get you know where. What you need to do is ask your parents to trust YOU. Tell them that you know who you should and shouldn't be hanging out with -- and ask them if they would give you the chance to grow a little and to choose your friends. Because when you get older (and trust me you will be nineteen before you know it) you will make and lose a lot of friends. My parents told me who to hang out with and who not to -- and now I can understand it a little better because they could see something in those kids that I couldn't. But what it comes down to is showing your parents that they can trust YOU. They probably never will fully trust your friends -- because they don't know them. But if you work on the trust that you share with your parents that is what will help out a lot. Show them you are responsible and can make a few decisions. Just be ready for what comes after. Try to remember that your parents love you -- and even if they seem overbearing, they are trying to protect you and make sure you don't get hurt or used. It's a terrible feeling to have that happen. Just try to focus on finding friends that will help you throughout your teen years...and ones you can reach out to.

I hope things get better! :)

<3xoxo
 
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Jordan9

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I'm not sure, but what I can say is that there were a LOT of things that my parents told me at 13 that I thought they were wrong about, and it turned out they weren't wrong... Haha, try and remember that your parents have your best interest at heart. They mean well, and love you, so be thankful for that. I know that, in my own life, trusting my own wisdom over that of my parents lead to a lot of negative things; loss of faith, loss of purity, etc.

The best way to get more autonomy when you're under your mom and dad's roof (and I know this, 'cause I still live with my old man :) is to earn it. And you earn it by being obedient and honest.

Lol, the easy path and the right path are rarely the same :)
 
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Leilanii

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Okay, so lets get real here...... Have you looked at the picture you have on your profile???? I have a daughter and if she posed like that with one of her 13 year old friends... your darn right i wouldnt let her hang out with that girl..... Your parents can see things that you cant. So im gonna agree with your parents on this one.. and im gonna say you should take down that picture........It sends out the wrong message about you... and the kind of people you hang with.
 
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Talia_Pana

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wow...first of all...its just a picture, and that people's problem if they think wrond about me.
and your wrong about her, shes the a great friend but she missing God in her life.
the only reason its so hard for her to accually become a christian is her family.
please dont jugde her cuz thats what my hole family has been doing with every single one of my friends for the past 3 years.
i love her and care for her and i trust her and my parents should trust me.
i may be 13 but i pretty sure i know alot more about ALL things than she does, but less exprerience.
 
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Talia_Pana

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and shes not 13, shes 16.
 
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