Dating...The Godly way.

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kingerik

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Dating...As a teen, you are not ready to date. Straight up, Enough of these Dating request and relationship questions. You should focus on God first and establish your relationship with him first. Stop adopting the worldly way of Dating, and doing it Gods way.

If you want to find love then you need to get to know the author of Love who is Jesus! The love you are seeking will eventually burn out if you soley base your relationships on that and you will be left heartbroken. If you get to know God first and devote yourself to God. He will guide your path and you will know when it is time to be hitched...and let me say this...not everybody is called to get married. It's just as it is, God hasn't called everybody to get married either.

For Guys, You need to first establish yourself with God, and find out what plan he has for your life and what he has for you. Grow in him first so when you do find the women God has for you, you will be able to be her spiritual head that God called you to be to lead your household. I promise you it will be worth the wait if done in Godly context. Tell God to give you control over your flesh so that you will not bow down to Lust.

Proverbs 18:22 HE who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the lord.

For Girls, Establish yourself with God and find out the plan he has for your and he has called you do. Grow in him first, and busy yourself in his work first and when you get older He will send the Man of God to come to your life and make sure he is a true man of God by praying to God about him and using discernment from the Holy spirit.

Proverbs 31 is good model to model after. Strive to reflect a Proverbs 31 women

We should all strive to model after Jesus. We should walk like he walked more and more each and every day.

I know feelings and the way the world convinces you that you NEED to date and that you HAVE to have the special person, but we are all to young to date. TO date someone means you want to marry them. How can you marry someone when your not even supporting your own self.

and enough with the PERFECT Guy/Girl. You will never find them. It's okay to have high standards but there is no such as a perfect anybody except Jesus. You spouse will be flawed and you will be flawed, but as long as you keep Jesus in the center as the foundation and all the corners of your relationship, you will be alright...

so basically what I'm saying is...You are too young to be focusing on dating, focus on God first, be about him and not about your own desires.

Colossians 3:17- And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through.

Proverbs 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

 
Dec 29, 2013
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Amen.

So many of us date because we are socially pressured, even though we don't realise it. I know I did for quite sometime, so many of us are so incorrectly led to believe that one needs to be dating in order to be happy. I spent my teen years believing the happy people were the ones in relationships, quite the opposite.

It is so vitally important that we find God first, and so much happens in the teen years. A Christian really doesn't need that extra pressure, find God first and when the time is right, you will find a beautiful partner suited for you.

I can't express how much happier I have been since I begun actively pursuing God before women. You will find happiness in God that no one else can provide.

All the best, God bless!
 
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Singer4Christ

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Well amen to THAT! I applaud you kingerik. The bible says to give honor where honor is due and you my friend, are due for some honor :cool:. Especially for coming from someone your age.. i'm impressed. God bless :)
 
Jan 21, 2014
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mary was 13 when she married joseph.
 

kingerik

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Well amen to THAT! I applaud you kingerik. The bible says to give honor where honor is due and you my friend, are due for some honor :cool:. Especially for coming from someone your age.. i'm impressed. God bless :)
Sorry for it being late...Didn't see it. Thank you, Just goes to show that God uses young as well as old! Only God can take the honor since it was him...who allowed me to think like that, because to be honest, I would never be able to say something like that to him if I hadn't met him!
 
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BELOVEOFGOD

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Amen sister, some of us really needed to hear that. God bless you
 

kingerik

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I am a guy...lol, but thank you! God bless you for reading it. I have to remind myself sometimes so I know it would help others.