Jordan,
I wish I had an all-encompassing, "one-size-fits-all" answer for you. Once before (about 8 years ago), I suffered a tremendous heartbreak in my life. It was nighttime, and I ran outside, and screamed my head off into the sky. I was so angry, and I told God point-blank, "If this is what it means to serve You, if this is the price for You and for love...then I want no more of either!" Looking back, I wish I could say I didn't mean it...but I did. I lost all my composure, and raged against God for what felt like the biggest and worst tragedy in my life. I let Him know exactly how I felt, and afterwards I didn't know what to do. I wandered around in a kind of "spiritual void" for about 2 years, not really knowing what to believe, and it took another heartbreak for me to leap towards God's grace. I became suicidal, and God showed me - literally - what would happen if I took my own life. I know what its like to feel abandoned and deserted by God, and to wonder if He even exists.
If your heart's desire is to follow God, then talk to Him about it. Tell Him the problems you face, and how you really feel. I don't just mean formal prayer; God can work with you in more ways than that. You can talk to Him out loud, or silently to yourself; He hears you either way. Tell God how conflicted you feel, and ask Him to reveal Himself to you in a way that you can't deny it. God is many, many things, but one thing He's not is cruel. He sent Jesus to bear every problem you have ever had, or ever will have. Jesus is strong enough to take all the guilt and shame for anything in your life, so you don't have to go through it alone. I know it sounds unbelievable, and at times you will feel doubtful. Any Christian - no matter how devout - will openly admit that they have trouble sometimes with doubt...if they don't, they're lying.
Sometimes, we really don't feel that Jesus loves us, and admitting that isn't a sin. There's no reason at all for you to be ashamed over your confusion, so don't let anyone - not even yourself - tell you otherwise. Tell God everything you feel; I assure you that He does not hate us in our times of weakness or failure. God loves you so much that if you were the only one who ever accepted Jesus as Lord, that'd be reason enough for God to send Him.